I am new in town, so a friends of mine and myself decided to join a kickball league to meet new people. There I met this girl that we will call Yoga Pants (cause yes, she was wearing yoga pants...and yes...she looked GOOD in them). I talked to her a few times during game nights, but nothing too fancy. Just talks here and there. I stopped seeing her for a while at the games though, because she got hurt. A month or so went by and I finally see her at a bar. First thing she said to me was "you are awesome". After talking for a little bit I had to go somewhere, then I came back and stood beside her while I talked to someone and she talked to someone. Then at one point she turns to me and says "dont go anywhere, I want your phone number". YES, she asked for it herself. I give her my phone number, she gives me hers, and then we start talking. We talked for a while, mostly about her, which is fine by me. I am a good listener. (Important note: she broke up with a guy from a 7 year realtionship back in June. This would be around Mid-October when this conversation happened).
Most importantly though, she kept giving me IOIs left and right. Apart from the obvious "you are awesome" and "I want your phone number". There was a point where the following took place (we were at the bar after the kickball game, so I was wearing my kickball uniform and some sweat here and there)
She: You smell really nice
Me: I am not wearing anything.
She: Oh thats alright, cause I don't like guys that wear too much cologne.
IOI right there if you ask me.
Then after a little while she was saying how she didnt want to put herself in a pedestal but she thought she was pretty smart and not bad looking (she is definitely an 8.5 I would say). Again IOI. Somewhere then, during the conversation, I told her if she wanted to do something that week. She said she needed to move her brother out the next day but that wasn't completely set in stone. I asked her if she wanted to do dinner or something, she thought about it and then said yes. That she wanted to. I told her that if she wasnt sure we didnt have to, but she agreed to it. We end the night because it was getting late...so I leave (maybe I should've stayed, I dont know...cause she was asking me stuff about me but she was kind of tipsy and keep in mind this is a girl I wanted to date for real).
The next day I text her, she says she needs to move her brother out but that if something changes she will let me know. I say alright, let me know if you need help with the moving (big mistake I think) if not let me know for dinner.
Text her the day after that asking her how the moving went, she said not so well, I ask her if she has time that night to go out for dinner and she replies that she appreciates the offer but that she really cant do dinner cause she is not ready for something so intimate. I say thats cool, we can hang out then if she wants, just as friends and just go from there, and she says that would be good.
Few days go by, we have kickball again. That day at the bar I went to her and said "hey can we talk for a little bit?" and she asked what was wrong, I said nothing just to talk...she said "I will be there in 2 seconds". So I went and I sat down, few minutes went by and she came towards me and sat down with me. 10 seconds after this happened, a freaking douche from my team sits with us and cockblocks me. I was PISSED. Shortly after that she had to go into the bar to do something, so I went in as well but didnt follow her. Lost her for a few mins but then she came back (after, I heard she actually went out asking and looking for me). I told her if she wanted to go outside cause it was too loud in there, she agreed (IOI?) and we went outside to talk for a little bit but then, again, the same douche came and sat with us. PISSED beyond believe at this point. Some stuff happen here and there and then we went in but she was talking to other people and I was mostly just there standing, talking to some people from time to time but obviously waiting for her. I fell like THIS was the turning point. I felt like leaving at this time but I didn't. Didn't follow my gut feeling and I FU. Shortly after that she said she had to go and I asked her if she wanted to go out in the weekend, and she said she would let me know cause she might be busy. I asked busy with what (cause I knew it was bullshit) and she got kinda pissed at me and asked me why I was giving her an ultimatum. I said I wasn't...and she turned around and walked away. I was calling her name but she ignored me. Point was that I was asking her to hang out, not on a date and she didnt get that, so I texted her explaining that to her and she replied saying I was a little bit up in her business and that for future reference I should back out a little bit and I would have more success with girls.
Ever since that it has been kinda weird, I even texted her on a friday shortly after that letting her know (as a joke sort of) that my performance that night was on purpose, it can only go up from there...and she replied saying that she appreciated the persistence but that she really cant date right now. Again, she assumed I was asking her out when I truly wasn't.
I feel like if I had stayed there a little bit longer the first night, or if I had actually left earlier the night of the cockblock, I would have succeeded with her. As simple as that...this FU is what truly motivated me to learn more about the PUA world and to improve on my skills...
Maybe I still have a shot with her? For now I am just giving her space. I am finding other girls to talk to...
-Jeet
Most importantly though, she kept giving me IOIs left and right. Apart from the obvious "you are awesome" and "I want your phone number". There was a point where the following took place (we were at the bar after the kickball game, so I was wearing my kickball uniform and some sweat here and there)
She: You smell really nice
Me: I am not wearing anything.
She: Oh thats alright, cause I don't like guys that wear too much cologne.
IOI right there if you ask me.
Then after a little while she was saying how she didnt want to put herself in a pedestal but she thought she was pretty smart and not bad looking (she is definitely an 8.5 I would say). Again IOI. Somewhere then, during the conversation, I told her if she wanted to do something that week. She said she needed to move her brother out the next day but that wasn't completely set in stone. I asked her if she wanted to do dinner or something, she thought about it and then said yes. That she wanted to. I told her that if she wasnt sure we didnt have to, but she agreed to it. We end the night because it was getting late...so I leave (maybe I should've stayed, I dont know...cause she was asking me stuff about me but she was kind of tipsy and keep in mind this is a girl I wanted to date for real).
The next day I text her, she says she needs to move her brother out but that if something changes she will let me know. I say alright, let me know if you need help with the moving (big mistake I think) if not let me know for dinner.
Text her the day after that asking her how the moving went, she said not so well, I ask her if she has time that night to go out for dinner and she replies that she appreciates the offer but that she really cant do dinner cause she is not ready for something so intimate. I say thats cool, we can hang out then if she wants, just as friends and just go from there, and she says that would be good.
Few days go by, we have kickball again. That day at the bar I went to her and said "hey can we talk for a little bit?" and she asked what was wrong, I said nothing just to talk...she said "I will be there in 2 seconds". So I went and I sat down, few minutes went by and she came towards me and sat down with me. 10 seconds after this happened, a freaking douche from my team sits with us and cockblocks me. I was PISSED. Shortly after that she had to go into the bar to do something, so I went in as well but didnt follow her. Lost her for a few mins but then she came back (after, I heard she actually went out asking and looking for me). I told her if she wanted to go outside cause it was too loud in there, she agreed (IOI?) and we went outside to talk for a little bit but then, again, the same douche came and sat with us. PISSED beyond believe at this point. Some stuff happen here and there and then we went in but she was talking to other people and I was mostly just there standing, talking to some people from time to time but obviously waiting for her. I fell like THIS was the turning point. I felt like leaving at this time but I didn't. Didn't follow my gut feeling and I FU. Shortly after that she said she had to go and I asked her if she wanted to go out in the weekend, and she said she would let me know cause she might be busy. I asked busy with what (cause I knew it was bullshit) and she got kinda pissed at me and asked me why I was giving her an ultimatum. I said I wasn't...and she turned around and walked away. I was calling her name but she ignored me. Point was that I was asking her to hang out, not on a date and she didnt get that, so I texted her explaining that to her and she replied saying I was a little bit up in her business and that for future reference I should back out a little bit and I would have more success with girls.
Ever since that it has been kinda weird, I even texted her on a friday shortly after that letting her know (as a joke sort of) that my performance that night was on purpose, it can only go up from there...and she replied saying that she appreciated the persistence but that she really cant date right now. Again, she assumed I was asking her out when I truly wasn't.
I feel like if I had stayed there a little bit longer the first night, or if I had actually left earlier the night of the cockblock, I would have succeeded with her. As simple as that...this FU is what truly motivated me to learn more about the PUA world and to improve on my skills...
Maybe I still have a shot with her? For now I am just giving her space. I am finding other girls to talk to...
-Jeet