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Keep It Simple, Stupid
Tl;dr = live somewhere with a sufficient supply of female candidates, be healthy, be emotionally stable, be financially stable, and (ideally) have a meaningful life goal.
I was responding to a member and thought I'd make a post instead, in hopes of being helpful to more than one.
I am (still) painfully self-critical and analytical. It was helpful early on in my journey because it allowed me to diagnose my social retardation and improve quickly, but it soon became more self-destructive than helpful. All the theories, techniques, mindsets, nuances, whatever are definitely important and useful, but you may lose focus of the bigger picture. For me at one point, love and sex became more like a game--a strategic sequence of events for mental trophies and brownie points from this forum--as opposed to sales, which is what I think it all boils down to. From a girl's perspective, you need to sell yourself on: Who tf are you and why should I risk/bet the rest of my life on you?
And to sell yourself, you just gotta:
1. Be in a good location, and
2. Have a better product, and
3. Try, obviously
An example of a good location is the city, preferably near a college. Continuous supply of college girls, young professionals, and tourists who come and go. Male to female ratio doesn't really matter if you have a superior product.
Try to be at least above average compared to the other men in your area across the primary criteria on which women select men. The primary criteria I believe are: physique, emotional stability, and financial stability. Order of importance and their desired levels will obviously vary per girl, but I think those 3 summarize it.
You don't need to be shredded and/or stoic af and/or a multi-millionaire. Progress and potential are more important than perfection. You just have to at least be above average and balanced, to give women reason to choose you over other options, and demonstrably be on a upward trend.
I believe having a meaningful life goal is the X factor to being a better man who stands out. I have a primary life goal and a primary subgoal. The primary life goal is simply to be a great father and husband because I had a shitty alcoholic father. I've had multiple subgoals stemming from that main goal (in order to get to it in steps), and I've actually sufficiently met all of them: I'm a fit, stoic, software engineer. I wanted to be a healthy, stable man so I can support a family--which I can now, if I want. My primary subgoal is to start a business and do better than a 6-figure salary.
Tbh when I didn't have that subgoal, I felt like an aimless wanderer despite being a relatively competitive male candidate. But now, the goal and my progress towards it is what gets me up every morning and is the source of my confidence, energy/drive, positivity/happiness, etc. over all the other fit, stoic, 6-figure corporate drones out there.
Good products are easier to sell without the need for fancy marketing techniques. "Hi, how are you?" become sufficient openers.
Tl;dr = live somewhere with a sufficient supply of female candidates, be healthy, be emotionally stable, be financially stable, and (ideally) have a meaningful life goal.
I was responding to a member and thought I'd make a post instead, in hopes of being helpful to more than one.
I am (still) painfully self-critical and analytical. It was helpful early on in my journey because it allowed me to diagnose my social retardation and improve quickly, but it soon became more self-destructive than helpful. All the theories, techniques, mindsets, nuances, whatever are definitely important and useful, but you may lose focus of the bigger picture. For me at one point, love and sex became more like a game--a strategic sequence of events for mental trophies and brownie points from this forum--as opposed to sales, which is what I think it all boils down to. From a girl's perspective, you need to sell yourself on: Who tf are you and why should I risk/bet the rest of my life on you?
And to sell yourself, you just gotta:
1. Be in a good location, and
2. Have a better product, and
3. Try, obviously
An example of a good location is the city, preferably near a college. Continuous supply of college girls, young professionals, and tourists who come and go. Male to female ratio doesn't really matter if you have a superior product.
Try to be at least above average compared to the other men in your area across the primary criteria on which women select men. The primary criteria I believe are: physique, emotional stability, and financial stability. Order of importance and their desired levels will obviously vary per girl, but I think those 3 summarize it.
You don't need to be shredded and/or stoic af and/or a multi-millionaire. Progress and potential are more important than perfection. You just have to at least be above average and balanced, to give women reason to choose you over other options, and demonstrably be on a upward trend.
I believe having a meaningful life goal is the X factor to being a better man who stands out. I have a primary life goal and a primary subgoal. The primary life goal is simply to be a great father and husband because I had a shitty alcoholic father. I've had multiple subgoals stemming from that main goal (in order to get to it in steps), and I've actually sufficiently met all of them: I'm a fit, stoic, software engineer. I wanted to be a healthy, stable man so I can support a family--which I can now, if I want. My primary subgoal is to start a business and do better than a 6-figure salary.
Tbh when I didn't have that subgoal, I felt like an aimless wanderer despite being a relatively competitive male candidate. But now, the goal and my progress towards it is what gets me up every morning and is the source of my confidence, energy/drive, positivity/happiness, etc. over all the other fit, stoic, 6-figure corporate drones out there.
Good products are easier to sell without the need for fancy marketing techniques. "Hi, how are you?" become sufficient openers.
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