Knowing when to talk in groups

[Spyce D]

So , if i am in a group whether of friends or in a mixed group ( which i approached in a club ) , I don't know when to interject or lead the conversation .

I tried being the quite listener but it has been backfiring me as the people usually loose interest .

I think i am being way too polite .
Say if me and wing are talking to 2 set and both the girls are listening to him , i don't talk till he is over but this usually leads to girls loosing interest in me.

Should I just talk and get the attention of my girl in a calibrated way or is there some better / ballsy way to do it ?

 

[ulrich]

Not talking during a conversation is not the reason why you lose value.
You lose value due to inaction, uncalibrated action or being boring.

You don’t have to talk all the time nor hold the spotlight but what you have to do is make the times you do very valuable.

Focus on quality, not quantity. Whenever you speak, make it worth it. Induce some feelings, make them think and react, have fun and be a little unpredictable.
And when you’re not speaking, don’t stay still, use your non-verbals (expressions, eye contact, posture…) to elicit reactions.

Quiet mysterious > uncalibrated talkative

 

[Lobo]

Try to focus on adding value and upping the vibe. You can elicit value from their response and increase the vibe and also dive deeper. Or do some other forms of emotional stimulation.

As for the wing, if he's not roping you in for a clean entry then i think that's more on him being a bad wing(for you and himself). Unless he can pull off the threesome, there's no reason why he shouldn't find a way to get you into a conversation with one of the girls. Generally, it's uncalibrated to interject if they are both giving him a lot of attention. If they started to get bored, then that's a different story, and you can provide value easily.