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New to the forum, first post... before I say anything else, I need to say:
THANK YOU CHASE. Your material is gold, you are brilliant, and you clearly LOVE to help people. There is no greater gift in this world than that, in my opinion. You've helped and are helping me BIG TIME. I owe you, and I admire you.
Background: we're both early 30's, she's a nurse who works overnight shifts usually, Korean, smoking body, lives with her mom still (born in Korea and moved here at 16 yrs old, still very "traditional" according to her...even though we fucked)
- teased her about living with her mom (see: "grounded" below) a few times but always clearly jokeful about it
Met a girl (Kelly) about 2 weeks ago at a huge party my brother was hosting. Kept the initial interaction to 5 min or so, definite interest from her, got her # and arranged a date.
Met for drinks last Friday, stayed at the bar for about 2-3 hours (she paid...I tried to say we'd split it, she just said she'd get the tab so I let her...Chase is a f'in Genius), took her home to have some wine and chill. Took her as my lover within 10 min of getting home, MAD PROPS TO CHASE!!!
Only resistance she put up was for the 1st kiss...she turned away and giggled. I pulled her back in within seconds and she didn't resist anything else, all the way through sex. On the drive to my place she did mention how her legs weren't shaved (seemed shaved to me, plus she had on some short ass shorts...so not sure if she was just second guessing what was about to happen or what), and mentioned it again at my place. made some comment before we even kissed about how she didn't plan on anything like "this" on the first date etc...I just shrugged it off more or less.
Anyways, sex was pretty good (as unbiased as I could be), took her back to her car near the bar and said goodnight after 2-3 hours of intimacy. Texted next morning (Saturday), and here's the dialogue since then:
May 10 - Saturday 10:54am
Me: Hey Kelly, had a great time last night. Hope you aren't too tired for work and didn't get grounded
11:21am
Kelly: I had a great time too! still tired but good pain
Have a good weekend
May 13 - Tuesday 11:56am
Me: Hey Kelly, hope you're rested from work all weekend. What's your schedule look like Wed-Friday? I'm thinking of grabbing Thai food or cooking you a delicious dinner the next time we meet since you paid for our drinks. Which day's best?
May 14 - Wednesday 12:47pm
Kelly: Hi ____, I worked from Sat night to last night. Just woke up (she put a "sleeping" emoticon face). How is your week going?
8:59pm
Me: Wow, you work some crazy hours! Busy week for me too, need more sleep! So tomorrow forgot I have a football game, but Fri I am house/dog sitting for my bro. Will have the house all to myself... Let me know if you're down for a cooked meal and movie, and maybe a personal tour if you promise to behave...
10:48pm
Kelly: Lol a cooked with movie sounds good. It's tempting
Kelly: *cooked meal
11:29pm
Me: Very tempting
Let's say Fri at 7:30pm. That good on your end?
11:48pm
Kelly: Just got a text from hospital asking for help Friday night..,,
(she sent a screenshot of the text from her hospital manager/friend asking for help... I guess as "proof" ?----in reality she could have had a friend send her the text I suppose. It was odd she sent this, so immediately I was like "huh?")
Kelly: Thinking about going to work at 11pm Friday night
May 15 Thursday 11:12am
Me: Completely understand, your job is very unpredictable! Let me know what you end up deciding... you work too much and need to relax more!
8:38pm
Me: Hey Kelly! So dinner, yes/no? Want to figure out my plans for tomorrow... either way is cool
8:51pm
Kelly: Maybe no. Haven't decided whether to go to work, but I don't want to hold you. I'm sorry
Please feel free to:
1) Critique any of my texting
2) Provide insight into her decline to a 2nd "date"
3) How to react to this now... where to go from here if I want to see her again (dont think shes gf material but even hard for me to say at this point). Thus far I haven't replied at all...
I've read a TON on girlschase.com, but I haven't seen all that much material in what to do when/if girls don't agree to 2nd dates AFTER intimacy on the first date... Chase? Would be awesome if he weighed in on this. I appreciate any comments though from the readers.
THANK YOU CHASE. Your material is gold, you are brilliant, and you clearly LOVE to help people. There is no greater gift in this world than that, in my opinion. You've helped and are helping me BIG TIME. I owe you, and I admire you.
Background: we're both early 30's, she's a nurse who works overnight shifts usually, Korean, smoking body, lives with her mom still (born in Korea and moved here at 16 yrs old, still very "traditional" according to her...even though we fucked)
Met a girl (Kelly) about 2 weeks ago at a huge party my brother was hosting. Kept the initial interaction to 5 min or so, definite interest from her, got her # and arranged a date.
Met for drinks last Friday, stayed at the bar for about 2-3 hours (she paid...I tried to say we'd split it, she just said she'd get the tab so I let her...Chase is a f'in Genius), took her home to have some wine and chill. Took her as my lover within 10 min of getting home, MAD PROPS TO CHASE!!!
Only resistance she put up was for the 1st kiss...she turned away and giggled. I pulled her back in within seconds and she didn't resist anything else, all the way through sex. On the drive to my place she did mention how her legs weren't shaved (seemed shaved to me, plus she had on some short ass shorts...so not sure if she was just second guessing what was about to happen or what), and mentioned it again at my place. made some comment before we even kissed about how she didn't plan on anything like "this" on the first date etc...I just shrugged it off more or less.
Anyways, sex was pretty good (as unbiased as I could be), took her back to her car near the bar and said goodnight after 2-3 hours of intimacy. Texted next morning (Saturday), and here's the dialogue since then:
May 10 - Saturday 10:54am
Me: Hey Kelly, had a great time last night. Hope you aren't too tired for work and didn't get grounded
11:21am
Kelly: I had a great time too! still tired but good pain
May 13 - Tuesday 11:56am
Me: Hey Kelly, hope you're rested from work all weekend. What's your schedule look like Wed-Friday? I'm thinking of grabbing Thai food or cooking you a delicious dinner the next time we meet since you paid for our drinks. Which day's best?
May 14 - Wednesday 12:47pm
Kelly: Hi ____, I worked from Sat night to last night. Just woke up (she put a "sleeping" emoticon face). How is your week going?
8:59pm
Me: Wow, you work some crazy hours! Busy week for me too, need more sleep! So tomorrow forgot I have a football game, but Fri I am house/dog sitting for my bro. Will have the house all to myself... Let me know if you're down for a cooked meal and movie, and maybe a personal tour if you promise to behave...
10:48pm
Kelly: Lol a cooked with movie sounds good. It's tempting
Kelly: *cooked meal
11:29pm
Me: Very tempting
11:48pm
Kelly: Just got a text from hospital asking for help Friday night..,,
(she sent a screenshot of the text from her hospital manager/friend asking for help... I guess as "proof" ?----in reality she could have had a friend send her the text I suppose. It was odd she sent this, so immediately I was like "huh?")
Kelly: Thinking about going to work at 11pm Friday night
May 15 Thursday 11:12am
Me: Completely understand, your job is very unpredictable! Let me know what you end up deciding... you work too much and need to relax more!
8:38pm
Me: Hey Kelly! So dinner, yes/no? Want to figure out my plans for tomorrow... either way is cool
8:51pm
Kelly: Maybe no. Haven't decided whether to go to work, but I don't want to hold you. I'm sorry
Please feel free to:
1) Critique any of my texting
2) Provide insight into her decline to a 2nd "date"
3) How to react to this now... where to go from here if I want to see her again (dont think shes gf material but even hard for me to say at this point). Thus far I haven't replied at all...
I've read a TON on girlschase.com, but I haven't seen all that much material in what to do when/if girls don't agree to 2nd dates AFTER intimacy on the first date... Chase? Would be awesome if he weighed in on this. I appreciate any comments though from the readers.