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ouch, this one hurts boys.
Again, same issue, I was under false impression that I get rid of it. I tried be more sexual, not sure where is the issue if not me.
So, last two weeks, 3 dates, all from tinder.( I am 28)
CONTEXT, you can skip to ACTUAL DATE
first one, let's call her Shakira, 28, date ended up with sex, nothing to talk about, but I run same routing from Shakira dates also with ladies below
second one, let's call her Inflation, 24, ends with passionate kissing. After kissing on walk in park I proposed to come to my place(1 min of walk..), she almost immediately called taxi to her home. Next day later I texted her cheeky if she is thinking about me, she said of course, all nigh, then silence...ghosted. Tried one msg 2 days later, then voice msg. Nothing.
Whole date I had (wrong) feeling that I had her, that's why I was so quick with text after date, I just felt that I messed up escalation to my place and she was maybe scared or, some availability issue(?).
During date we changed locations (on first location we had intense eyes contacts, but was not possible to sit next to each other, so we changed bar, in new location she was leaning about me, i was playing with her shoulder strap, hair, later hold her around shoulders...unfortunately there was a unexpectedly band performance and not possible to chat to much...but tension was there, she went with me without problem to park, there she first dodged kiss, I continued and then she immediately started very (!) passionately. We kissed for a while, I told her let's continue to walk and then when we were close to my street I told her I live near and the...she did what I described at the start of paragraph.
This third actually mentioned the "lack of sexual spark" ..so let's go(i mentioned 2 dates before because on all of them I run same routine bar->sitting next to each other -> eye tension,casual flirting, touching arms later hair, direct intense compliment to eyes, and with this one, I was able to put sexual talk) ->
So the third one, let's call her Recession, 30, ends with passionate kissing again, near to my fucking flat. Again. FUCK. Ahahaha, I love it.
This one I will give more description, I did some huge mistakes with her but ...context will hopefully helps.
We matched 2 weeks ago, she appreciated ice breaker, I was pretty in rush so I was pushing her to go out, she chickened out in evening before, that she has something important but she proposed other dates later plus her IG. (I said cool, but called her little bit out with something like "its cute like you are shy little girl", i was going out of country in 2 days and decided to push her and play it risky -> it failed but not miserably)
After I came back, I saw her on line, asked her after and ...ahahaha -> she wrote longer text in which she said: no, she needs to restore her "female energy"
Love it.
After few msgs we agreed on date, I decided to play risky again and in day of meeting (we weren't chatting 2 days and I had feeling she will skip again) I send her voice msgs that: looking forward to see you at "place x" will be near to "place y", i will be looking handsome, see ya babe, be sexy"
She replied that the audio msgs is too intimate thing to do.
She came. We talked about it and she asked me if I am really that "confident". In bar they messed up reservations and again..sitting in front of each other.
No problem, intense eye contacts, I did direct compliments about her appearance, face..later touching her...wasn't really able to change it to sex talk, it was awfully loud there. In middle of date she asked me again about my confidence, if I am aware how high is (in some situations I can be really confident, in other, like normal human being, I mess up, I am no womanizer, not virgin either.)
Have this issue often, like in my thread https://www.skilledseducer.com/thre...-have-friendzone-situation.25864/#post-146345
I was actually little bitch (because in previous dates I had feelings that I was too much unavailable etc.)
ACTUAL DATE
When she came back from toilet, she asked me about other dates, If I am flirting often. I did not give her clear answer, we agreed for a walk.
In front of the bar she went for cigarette, the tension was high. Issue with my direct compliments is..they knew I like them. I deliver them confidently but here, she was telling boring story, I told her I am listening to it only because I found you hot, but its boring, she laughed, then she asked me what I am thinking -> me looking her deeply into eyes "I am thinking about kissing you Recession", she said not here, let's leave it to park but looked horny.
WHAT A DUMASS. Too direct. Too cocky. (but we were outside, no one was really near us)
We went to park,(10 minutes away, the closer one was ..unexpectedly closed..I am not kidding..logistics messed up).
10 minutes is a long way and I failed to carry on with atmosphere. I forgot everything from Chase's article about changing location. Totally failed to boring topics about city and life. Actually, it get even worse, I emphasized withe her(honestly) about pretty dark topic (quickly realized and changed to some nonsense)
Park was of course totally full, after a few mins of walking without place for privacy I told her "baby,if there will be no where to sit, I am gonna grab you and kiss you right there. There I kissed her, now when I am writing this butchery of a date, I am realizing...
The kissing was ok, but I tried for a deep dive, went all in, then started to touch her for butt and tits...she told me she is not horny, let's sit. (let me go for a shower, memories are killing me with cringe...but she was smiling and talkative so it was not totally ruined)
I was trying to be more sexual then with the Inflation, so we were sitting, overlooking nice view on city, She leaned on me, I was playing with her hair, tights, almost around pussy (she was wearing skirt). We were kissing, I asked her what she likes in bed -> nothing special, pretty ordinary, but she likes hard cock. Then she asked me and before I told her, she told me "you like to be dominant right?"(during kissing I chocked her a little).
And if you still reading, here is another royal fuck up-> she asked me when I had last time sex -> I said two weeks ago (you fucking donkey, that's when you cca matched!). Some type of morality said through me "sorry". She said that's ok.. (well..)
After a minute we walked, holding hands, than she called her roommate (Recession forgot the key)...I told her you don't need it, invited her to my place, she refused, I did stop and kissed her passionately, we continued to walk ( i was thinking to my place) , she asked me about my friends...and then in crossroad, she told me she is going home.
I asked her to kiss me, she kissed me, deeply, I also went all in. Then went even deeper with tongue, (I was really fighting that last minute resistance haha) but she broke it and said bye bye.
I should left her go, but I told her no, come to my place, I have great chocolate..she said she would go for pizza..finally kicked in I was just ruining my chances and felt pretty confident I will get her next time so I did not fight it anymore, told her bye.
Next nigh(again, I need to do same fucking mistake 5x till i learn) I text her (because liek with Inflation, I felt like I have it in a bag and "next time we fuck")
EDIT
when she came home, she sent me text "I am safely at home, thanks for evening, you did your job with empowering women very good ->5/5"
"Hi Recession, I was thinking about you and there is something about you...I decided to give you another chance" + time frame proposition"
She replied the she also thought about me and "she is not ready to take this generously presented shot"
Then, lots of compliments about how interesting, intelligent and opinionated person I am", but she DID NOT FEEL SEXUAL SPARK between us.
I told her "ok, pussy"
Then we texted back and forth for a bit, I think she liked attention, possibly texting also with her girlfriends but I..have nothing to lose, taking it as a learning experience.
Since she did not feel sexual spark, I was very sexual, asking her to my place, send some bdsm msgs, she replied I am never gonna get her and that she is just teasing me.(she also sent some teasing msgs)
Two days later I texted her that "you really don't like choking?" cmon Recession
She replied -> "Why you don;t leave it?" I am not interested in casual fucking,jsut it"
Now, all msgs above look obviously dumb, but she confused me with sexual tension part, so that's why I was so sexual with texting. It probably did irreversible damage, I did wrong assumption.
What next with her gentlemen? Ask her for a coffee?
Where did I mess up with Inflation? Kissing?(btw she is taller then me)? Before?
Also, there is tons of other mistakes I did not mention, but it is already too long.
Again, same issue, I was under false impression that I get rid of it. I tried be more sexual, not sure where is the issue if not me.
So, last two weeks, 3 dates, all from tinder.( I am 28)
CONTEXT, you can skip to ACTUAL DATE
first one, let's call her Shakira, 28, date ended up with sex, nothing to talk about, but I run same routing from Shakira dates also with ladies below
second one, let's call her Inflation, 24, ends with passionate kissing. After kissing on walk in park I proposed to come to my place(1 min of walk..), she almost immediately called taxi to her home. Next day later I texted her cheeky if she is thinking about me, she said of course, all nigh, then silence...ghosted. Tried one msg 2 days later, then voice msg. Nothing.
Whole date I had (wrong) feeling that I had her, that's why I was so quick with text after date, I just felt that I messed up escalation to my place and she was maybe scared or, some availability issue(?).
During date we changed locations (on first location we had intense eyes contacts, but was not possible to sit next to each other, so we changed bar, in new location she was leaning about me, i was playing with her shoulder strap, hair, later hold her around shoulders...unfortunately there was a unexpectedly band performance and not possible to chat to much...but tension was there, she went with me without problem to park, there she first dodged kiss, I continued and then she immediately started very (!) passionately. We kissed for a while, I told her let's continue to walk and then when we were close to my street I told her I live near and the...she did what I described at the start of paragraph.
This third actually mentioned the "lack of sexual spark" ..so let's go(i mentioned 2 dates before because on all of them I run same routine bar->sitting next to each other -> eye tension,casual flirting, touching arms later hair, direct intense compliment to eyes, and with this one, I was able to put sexual talk) ->
So the third one, let's call her Recession, 30, ends with passionate kissing again, near to my fucking flat. Again. FUCK. Ahahaha, I love it.
This one I will give more description, I did some huge mistakes with her but ...context will hopefully helps.
We matched 2 weeks ago, she appreciated ice breaker, I was pretty in rush so I was pushing her to go out, she chickened out in evening before, that she has something important but she proposed other dates later plus her IG. (I said cool, but called her little bit out with something like "its cute like you are shy little girl", i was going out of country in 2 days and decided to push her and play it risky -> it failed but not miserably)
After I came back, I saw her on line, asked her after and ...ahahaha -> she wrote longer text in which she said: no, she needs to restore her "female energy"
Love it.
After few msgs we agreed on date, I decided to play risky again and in day of meeting (we weren't chatting 2 days and I had feeling she will skip again) I send her voice msgs that: looking forward to see you at "place x" will be near to "place y", i will be looking handsome, see ya babe, be sexy"
She replied that the audio msgs is too intimate thing to do.
She came. We talked about it and she asked me if I am really that "confident". In bar they messed up reservations and again..sitting in front of each other.
No problem, intense eye contacts, I did direct compliments about her appearance, face..later touching her...wasn't really able to change it to sex talk, it was awfully loud there. In middle of date she asked me again about my confidence, if I am aware how high is (in some situations I can be really confident, in other, like normal human being, I mess up, I am no womanizer, not virgin either.)
Have this issue often, like in my thread https://www.skilledseducer.com/thre...-have-friendzone-situation.25864/#post-146345
I was actually little bitch (because in previous dates I had feelings that I was too much unavailable etc.)
ACTUAL DATE
When she came back from toilet, she asked me about other dates, If I am flirting often. I did not give her clear answer, we agreed for a walk.
In front of the bar she went for cigarette, the tension was high. Issue with my direct compliments is..they knew I like them. I deliver them confidently but here, she was telling boring story, I told her I am listening to it only because I found you hot, but its boring, she laughed, then she asked me what I am thinking -> me looking her deeply into eyes "I am thinking about kissing you Recession", she said not here, let's leave it to park but looked horny.
WHAT A DUMASS. Too direct. Too cocky. (but we were outside, no one was really near us)
We went to park,(10 minutes away, the closer one was ..unexpectedly closed..I am not kidding..logistics messed up).
10 minutes is a long way and I failed to carry on with atmosphere. I forgot everything from Chase's article about changing location. Totally failed to boring topics about city and life. Actually, it get even worse, I emphasized withe her(honestly) about pretty dark topic (quickly realized and changed to some nonsense)
Park was of course totally full, after a few mins of walking without place for privacy I told her "baby,if there will be no where to sit, I am gonna grab you and kiss you right there. There I kissed her, now when I am writing this butchery of a date, I am realizing...
The kissing was ok, but I tried for a deep dive, went all in, then started to touch her for butt and tits...she told me she is not horny, let's sit. (let me go for a shower, memories are killing me with cringe...but she was smiling and talkative so it was not totally ruined)
I was trying to be more sexual then with the Inflation, so we were sitting, overlooking nice view on city, She leaned on me, I was playing with her hair, tights, almost around pussy (she was wearing skirt). We were kissing, I asked her what she likes in bed -> nothing special, pretty ordinary, but she likes hard cock. Then she asked me and before I told her, she told me "you like to be dominant right?"(during kissing I chocked her a little).
And if you still reading, here is another royal fuck up-> she asked me when I had last time sex -> I said two weeks ago (you fucking donkey, that's when you cca matched!). Some type of morality said through me "sorry". She said that's ok.. (well..)
After a minute we walked, holding hands, than she called her roommate (Recession forgot the key)...I told her you don't need it, invited her to my place, she refused, I did stop and kissed her passionately, we continued to walk ( i was thinking to my place) , she asked me about my friends...and then in crossroad, she told me she is going home.
I asked her to kiss me, she kissed me, deeply, I also went all in. Then went even deeper with tongue, (I was really fighting that last minute resistance haha) but she broke it and said bye bye.
I should left her go, but I told her no, come to my place, I have great chocolate..she said she would go for pizza..finally kicked in I was just ruining my chances and felt pretty confident I will get her next time so I did not fight it anymore, told her bye.
Next nigh(again, I need to do same fucking mistake 5x till i learn) I text her (because liek with Inflation, I felt like I have it in a bag and "next time we fuck")
EDIT
when she came home, she sent me text "I am safely at home, thanks for evening, you did your job with empowering women very good ->5/5"
"Hi Recession, I was thinking about you and there is something about you...I decided to give you another chance" + time frame proposition"
She replied the she also thought about me and "she is not ready to take this generously presented shot"
Then, lots of compliments about how interesting, intelligent and opinionated person I am", but she DID NOT FEEL SEXUAL SPARK between us.
I told her "ok, pussy"
Then we texted back and forth for a bit, I think she liked attention, possibly texting also with her girlfriends but I..have nothing to lose, taking it as a learning experience.
Since she did not feel sexual spark, I was very sexual, asking her to my place, send some bdsm msgs, she replied I am never gonna get her and that she is just teasing me.(she also sent some teasing msgs)
Two days later I texted her that "you really don't like choking?" cmon Recession
She replied -> "Why you don;t leave it?" I am not interested in casual fucking,jsut it"
Now, all msgs above look obviously dumb, but she confused me with sexual tension part, so that's why I was so sexual with texting. It probably did irreversible damage, I did wrong assumption.
What next with her gentlemen? Ask her for a coffee?
Where did I mess up with Inflation? Kissing?(btw she is taller then me)? Before?
Also, there is tons of other mistakes I did not mention, but it is already too long.
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