Calls & Texts Last minute inviting/texting around?

[Anonymous]

So I'm not sure if there was a topic on this yet, but I'm just curious about this.

Is there a ever a good reason to last minute invite girls to things which you know they will have no chance at making it to...? For instance, on the day/arvo text and just say "my mate and I are doing something or I am doing something and want to come to the [specific activity]?" Does doing this come across as needy? or does it potentially show you are in demand or having fun etc? otherwise what might doing this convey?

Also, upon them rejecting your offer when should be the next time you text to try and arrange to do something as just the two of you?

 

[Chase]

Jase-

So I'm not sure if there was a topic on this yet, but I'm just curious about this.

Is there a ever a good reason to last minute invite girls to things which you know they will have no chance at making it to...? For instance, on the day/arvo text and just say "my mate and I are doing something or I am doing something and want to come to the [specific activity]?" Does doing this come across as needy? or does it potentially show you are in demand or having fun etc? otherwise what might doing this convey?

Also, upon them rejecting your offer when should be the next time you text to try and arrange to do something as just the two of you?

Yes, that's a useful technique. One I've used myself many times with women I felt were borderline on whether they'd come out with me or not. It's a great way of coming across as a guy who gives out a lot of value without having to actually bring a girl out on an unproductive date.

You can go off the girl's response - some women will respond and say, "I can't make it! Are you doing anything the rest of the weekend?" and you can invite her to grab food / coffee / drinks then. Others will say, "OMG, I want to go! Let me know if anything else is going on!" in which case you've shot yourself in the foot a bit and she's now seeing you as her party connection. Still worth texting her to see if you can get her out one-on-one, and at least now you've got a clearer idea about how she sees you. Wait 4 - 5 days before inviting her out one-on-one, in that case (or in the case of some other response that isn't quite perfect).

Chase

 

[Anonymous]

Thanks for that.

I've just had an ahhh moment, where I've probably come across as too available/needy in a follow up text from previous times I've done it.

When I did it the other day, I didn't get any of those responses, but a "[im doing this]. Thanks for the invite]".......So this is probably not the best. But will wait a few days etc. before trying properly.