FR Last Night Party, few tips needed

[johnydones]

Hey guys , i wanted to share my experience about last night i spent in a club that i go very often to. My friends and I went for few drinks and i wanted to practice my fundamentals there. What happened last night never happened to me in my life before i found this site and forum .So here's a night timeline , i will try to be brief about it. Second part is what i need help about.

-When i first stepped into a club I took a 5 seconds pause at the stairs overlooking the whole place , and i saw everyone looking at me , great, that's what i wanted.
-Soon after i put on a bored look on my face and went to toilet , moving slow as a snail , and making eye contact with every single girl on the way. I noticed most of them looking at smiling , so i smiled back.
-I approached a cute brunette and opened with "I saw you dancing and i must admit you have some of the best moves i saw this night" and she responded playfully with "ahh, what a lame way to approach a girl" but she was smiling and i continued. She was with her friend so i talked to her a bit as well , thought its a good idea. Now after just about 5 minutes we were dancing and i kissed her in cheek but very slowly , she knew it was not "friend" kiss. I grabbed her hand to move her somewhere else but she did not want to move because her friend would be alone (What to do in this case ?) I spent a bit more with her and even though i knew she was quite interested i moved on to meet few more girls.

Now comes the best part of my evening.

- I went to my friends table and they met a couple of girls as well , my friend introduced me, and girls said "Yea we know you!" with big smile , i remembered they were the ones that gave me the biggest smile on my way to toilet. I was amazed! that never happened to me before , i was always the invisible guy.

-I turned my head to look around and saw this girl giving so obvious eye contact and smile (again , something i would never notice before ) so i reached my hand and guided her to me. She started talking and i just held eye contact , and did not say a word . After 30 seconds i kissed her , she smiled and said

HER: "I do not meet men in clubs , give me your number"
So i gave my number to her.

Now i'm positive i dropped the ball here , so please tell me where i did that.
-i was quite drunk and i avoid talking much in that case so i just listened to her. she started talking about how she is just out of one relationship
Conversation:
HER: "i do not need men for anything at the moment, not for dating , not for sex or anything else." I did not say a word on that and just went on with eye contact and a smirk saying "yea right" .
HER: "you should move on and meet a normal girl , not waste your time with me "
ME: "maybe i am interested in you and not other some other girl."
HER: Smiling and holding eye contact
- She went on blabbing about something , i do not even remember , i just listened She then said with playful tone of voice:
HER: Come on , you are just looking at me with those eyes and not saying a word while i am opening my soul here
ME: *kissed her (i did not know what to do ,what in gods name to say on that)

So soon after that her friends wanted to go so she went out with them while looking at me whole time.
But here is a kick in the nuts
i sent a message to her asking where she is when we got out , no response.
I sent another sms today with regular "hey , hows it going" message, no response . She was 100% interested in me , but what happened ? Did i drop the ball with my "mysterious silent eye contact guy type" or she just wanted to meet someone for that night and move on.

Was i supposed to invite her to my place when she said "i dont meet men in clubs" ?

Its quite important for me to see where i made mistakes so i can correct them , if any of you , more advanced guys can take a look it would mean a lot to me.

P.S. Sorry if English is a bit bad

Key notes for my fellow beginners :
1. Fundamentals , especially eye contact are powerful beyond belief
2. I am taking bored look to my bed now and everywhere i go.
3. "what do you think i do" or "study" or anything else , its great!
4. Facial hair ! i have put on a heavy stubble with clean shaven neck, great response for girls
5. Have a hint of smirk and smile at every girl , it actually makes your mood better as one of the articles stated , its confirmed!

 

[Verisimilitude]

Hey man nice job on getting a couple good approaches in at the club. For the girl who was with her friend, if she was interest in you, I would have stuck around and tried to get her friend to like you. If a girl's friend approves of you, she'll try to get the two of you together.

For the second girl, its hard to tell where you go wrong because you didn't put the whole conversation up. However, from what I've seen, I think you could have said after a while when you were talking to her was, "So if you don't meet men in clubs, let's meet up another time. Do you like coffee/movies/plays/whatever?" and gotten her number and set up a date. The whole thing about you needing to find another person is trying to drive you away and see if you listen. It also seems like it wasn't a good time for her. That's not to say she didn't want you, but she's trying to tell you she's in a tough spot. Also, while letting her talk is good, she got upset because you didn't communicate with her. When a girl is talking, its good to throw in a, "oh tell me more," or "oh that happened to me too" or "yeah I hate that". It builds an emotional connection. There's a good article about different styles of communication on the main page, I'd give that a look.

Good work for a beginner though!