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I find running simple thoughts, simple believes, simple lines in my head will bring out new behaviors and thinking.
But sometimes things become more complicated and then I can't seem to boil it down to a simple core believe that works 80% of the time.
I need it simple, because otherwise I keep running mind loops and don't take action at all.
So I'm running this thought: "I'm a leader; a team captain"
No matter if this is with a girl you are hitting on, friends you are hanging out with, or people you do business with, you have some core believes of what it is to lead.
I ran with:
- Take action to move things forward
- Instead of asking, assume you are getting
Problem here is, it promotes dictator like behavior. I'd suppress people with a certain tension that they'd start to fear me. I'd even hurt people by taking them somewhere physically, emotionally or logistically where their baggage catches up with them. I didn't get far into this; I've only touched the borders and quickly realized that I don't want to go there and backed off on those behaviors.
The other end of lead is really weak or actually not leading at all. This is the team struggle I played with earlier in another tread.
- Purpose action to move things forward.
- Don't assume you are getting something, ask first.
While you do initialize things for yourself to get it on track in the way you want, it is a needy way of doing it. You give control away. It fucks with the law of least effort. People start ignoring your questions / proposals, if you keep doing this.
Any ideas on a healthy 'lead' mindset with people in general that makes you walk the fine line between becoming needy and dictating?
But sometimes things become more complicated and then I can't seem to boil it down to a simple core believe that works 80% of the time.
I need it simple, because otherwise I keep running mind loops and don't take action at all.
So I'm running this thought: "I'm a leader; a team captain"
No matter if this is with a girl you are hitting on, friends you are hanging out with, or people you do business with, you have some core believes of what it is to lead.
I ran with:
- Take action to move things forward
- Instead of asking, assume you are getting
Problem here is, it promotes dictator like behavior. I'd suppress people with a certain tension that they'd start to fear me. I'd even hurt people by taking them somewhere physically, emotionally or logistically where their baggage catches up with them. I didn't get far into this; I've only touched the borders and quickly realized that I don't want to go there and backed off on those behaviors.
The other end of lead is really weak or actually not leading at all. This is the team struggle I played with earlier in another tread.
- Purpose action to move things forward.
- Don't assume you are getting something, ask first.
While you do initialize things for yourself to get it on track in the way you want, it is a needy way of doing it. You give control away. It fucks with the law of least effort. People start ignoring your questions / proposals, if you keep doing this.
Any ideas on a healthy 'lead' mindset with people in general that makes you walk the fine line between becoming needy and dictating?