Less being more?

[Anonymous]

Everywhere I go I feel as if I place my foot directly in my mouth. The worst part about it women even consider me very attractive, I've even had shots with some of the most desired women around at the time. Do I succed? no, I only sit and wonder how could I possibly stop failing. Failing at seducing beautiful women, failing at closing and not screwing thing up. Yes I may still land the ocassional lay but I want to stop doing so much, talking so much lowering my attractiveness,
flirting with every women ruining my chance with the onesI really want by seeming over flirtacius and needy for attention. I need help to not put out so much effort, in building confidence and becoming a smooth strong silent man. Please someone assist.

 

[Chase]

Hey DeSilva,

Everywhere I go I feel as if I place my foot directly in my mouth.

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Yes I may still land the ocassional lay but I want to stop doing so much, talking so much lowering my attractiveness, flirting with every women ruining my chance with the onesI really want by seeming over flirtacius and needy for attention. I need help to not put out so much effort, in building confidence and becoming a smooth strong silent man.

What have you tried already to do less, talk less, and flirt less?

I sort of get the impression you're butterflying - e.g., being the social butterfly who feels the need to go around and talk to every girl. When you're butterflying too much, the best medicine is to simply begin training yourself to lock in on a girl you really like, and then just refuse to focus on anything other than her until either the two of you leave there to go become lovers, you have her contact info and plans for a date, or you've completely bombed out and it's time to move onto the next girl.

Chase