Living Vicariously

[Just_Dave]

A lot times what I find myself doing is analyzing interactions between guys and girls that I normally wouldn't have the time or means to take part in myself.

Example:

I was at the library working on a group project when I overhead a conversation between two girls and a guy. They people were sitting a table, and from what I heard the conversation went like this.

Girl 1: So, what makes you different from every other guy?

Guy: Well, my awesome personality, good looks, charm, confidence, charisma etc... (Ironically, he said this while looking down the whole time and fidgeting with his fingers and hands.

Girl 1: You sound like the last guy.

Guy: Uh, uh ...(guy searches for something to change topic)

*tension now fills*

Girl 2: I can't believe I have all this homework.

My ears can't painfully listen to the interaction any longer. I consider this something like a simulation, you have a live opportunity of trouble shooting a guy's game. The best part is it's a live interaction. This way you can learn from mistakes of other people to make your own game better.

*Feel free to put input on your own experiences of what you would say to a question like "What makes you so different?"

Just Dave

 

[Chase]

Hey Dave,

*Feel free to put input on your own experiences of what you would say to a question like "What makes you so different?"

But you didn't say yours!

For the record, the best answer to, "What makes you so different?" is usually staring her intensely in the eyes and saying, very slowly, with a hint of a smile, "Absolutely NOTHING."

And then you ask her the same question back: "What makes YOU different?"

And she'll either qualify herself, or say she isn't different either (to which you can say, "Guess we're both just really boring people then," and then make a compliance demand to immediately show that, actually, you're a guy who takes charge).

Chase

 

[Just_Dave]

Hey Dave,

*Feel free to put input on your own experiences of what you would say to a question like "What makes you so different?"

But you didn't say yours!

For the record, the best answer to, "What makes you so different?" is usually staring her intensely in the eyes and saying, very slowly, with a hint of a smile, "Absolutely NOTHING."

And then you ask her the same question back: "What makes YOU different?"

And she'll either qualify herself, or say she isn't different either (to which you can say, "Guess we're both just really boring people then," and then make a compliance demand to immediately show that, actually, you're a guy who takes charge).

Chase

Good catch Chase,

The truth be told I've never been asked this question, unless it was during an interview for a job. In that case I have to qualify, in terms of women I don't look to have to qualify myself. Because I would be putting in too much effort scrambling for an answer. If I get a girl interested and comfortable around me, I'm the one who ask this question first. Like a frame that sets her up as the pursuer.

 

[AFCnoob]

@ JD: I like to observe as well, but I have so few chances recently because I'm either a) at work or b) in an interaction myself. I would really like to see more of these observations. If you have any more, or make any more, maybe you could put them in observation reports (OR over on Field reports board?

Just to continue the topic as well, I never get asked this question. I still get shit tested a lot, but I rarely get asked qualifying questions for some reason.

 

[Just_Dave]

@ JD: I like to observe as well, but I have so few chances recently because I'm either a) at work or b) in an interaction myself. I would really like to see more of these observations. If you have any more, or make any more, maybe you could put them in observation reports (OR over on Field reports board?

Just to continue the topic as well, I never get asked this question. I still get shit tested a lot, but I rarely get asked qualifying questions for some reason.

Thanks AFCnoob,

I'll be sure to post more reports in the OR. I think qualifying questions are weird sometimes, I feel like woman use them well basically test and qualify men. I present myself as very laid back and receptive as best I can. I find that calms people so they won't ask me "Who are you?" or "Why are you a big deal?" type of questions.

 

[Rationalis]

Hey Dave,

*Feel free to put input on your own experiences of what you would say to a question like "What makes you so different?"

But you didn't say yours!

For the record, the best answer to, "What makes you so different?" is usually staring her intensely in the eyes and saying, very slowly, with a hint of a smile, "Absolutely NOTHING."

And then you ask her the same question back: "What makes YOU different?"

And she'll either qualify herself, or say she isn't different either (to which you can say, "Guess we're both just really boring people then," and then make a compliance demand to immediately show that, actually, you're a guy who takes charge).

Chase

This is why Chase is the master, folks.