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Recently lost a girl I had a pretty good interaction with from night game to another guy. I’ve analyzed the interaction and it seems like I just had terrible luck but I’d like to get feedback to see if there's anything I could have done better.
For context, I've been going out consistently (about 2-3 nights a week) for the past 2 months now in my college town. I've seen a lot of really weird behavior from women over these months so I'm mostly desensitized to a lot of things at this point. However, this is a new one.
I feel like night game at college towns is pretty different from night game in a big city since a lot of people most likely know each other already so it's a weird mix of night game and social circle. Tonight wasn't that different from any other night at the beginning. I've been working on pre-opening with eye contact and working on my non-verbals so I glanced over at this girl with an interesting necklace, gestured her over and asked what her necklace was. We then had a really good interaction with lots of teasing, flirting, deep diving etc. I made sure to meet the friends that she was with (she had a couple guys in her circle) but they were all pretty receptive to me. I managed to isolate her outside where we talked even more and I escalated the touch (rubbing on her thigh). It felt like I could have gone for a kiss but I'm not a big fan of public makeouts, especially in bars and that early.
The only thing I didn't do was check for logistics/attempt a pull to see where I was at on the compliance ladder. She had already mentioned that her friend had just gotten to the bar so I figured it was too early to pull. She then asked me to help her find said friend which we did. I had to go use the bathroom so I asked her to hold my drink while I went. When I came back, her friend group had gotten bigger with even more people pouring in. She had also started having conversations with her friend so I decided it was time for me to leave and possibly reopen or text her later. I left, went to go talk to other girls (I later had an annoying situation where another girl who really wanted me kept getting "cockblocked" by her friend - her friend was a bit too drunk and she had to watch over her. This new girl seemed really into me so I thought she would pull through and subconsciously stopped putting effort into my later approaches. I also didn't want it to seem like i was spam approaching. Unfortunately I went home empty handed)
After getting home, I decided to try my luck with girl from earlier and texted her to come over. I got a weird/disrespectful response that I'm a 100% sure came from a guy so she definitely went home with someone else.
Is there anything I could have done better? Maybe I should have kept my eye on her a bit more - when I leave sets like these, I usually truly forget about them for the time being and only reopen if fate allows. I also wanted to keep my options open since it was a bit early. My guess is one of her friends from her group managed to get her
For context, I've been going out consistently (about 2-3 nights a week) for the past 2 months now in my college town. I've seen a lot of really weird behavior from women over these months so I'm mostly desensitized to a lot of things at this point. However, this is a new one.
I feel like night game at college towns is pretty different from night game in a big city since a lot of people most likely know each other already so it's a weird mix of night game and social circle. Tonight wasn't that different from any other night at the beginning. I've been working on pre-opening with eye contact and working on my non-verbals so I glanced over at this girl with an interesting necklace, gestured her over and asked what her necklace was. We then had a really good interaction with lots of teasing, flirting, deep diving etc. I made sure to meet the friends that she was with (she had a couple guys in her circle) but they were all pretty receptive to me. I managed to isolate her outside where we talked even more and I escalated the touch (rubbing on her thigh). It felt like I could have gone for a kiss but I'm not a big fan of public makeouts, especially in bars and that early.
The only thing I didn't do was check for logistics/attempt a pull to see where I was at on the compliance ladder. She had already mentioned that her friend had just gotten to the bar so I figured it was too early to pull. She then asked me to help her find said friend which we did. I had to go use the bathroom so I asked her to hold my drink while I went. When I came back, her friend group had gotten bigger with even more people pouring in. She had also started having conversations with her friend so I decided it was time for me to leave and possibly reopen or text her later. I left, went to go talk to other girls (I later had an annoying situation where another girl who really wanted me kept getting "cockblocked" by her friend - her friend was a bit too drunk and she had to watch over her. This new girl seemed really into me so I thought she would pull through and subconsciously stopped putting effort into my later approaches. I also didn't want it to seem like i was spam approaching. Unfortunately I went home empty handed)
After getting home, I decided to try my luck with girl from earlier and texted her to come over. I got a weird/disrespectful response that I'm a 100% sure came from a guy so she definitely went home with someone else.
Is there anything I could have done better? Maybe I should have kept my eye on her a bit more - when I leave sets like these, I usually truly forget about them for the time being and only reopen if fate allows. I also wanted to keep my options open since it was a bit early. My guess is one of her friends from her group managed to get her
