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Here's a quick back story on this girl:
I was at pub trivia a couple weeks ago with some friends. After it had ended, I went to the bathroom, only to return to my table with my buddies handing me a note. The slip read, "You're cute! xxx-xxx-xxxx -Sam" (I actually wrote a post about why I think she gave me her number last month.) My friends told me that some girl came by and said to give the note to me.
Over the course of the next 2-3 weeks, we texted back and forth, constantly trying to set something up but everything kept falling through. We finally found a time to meet up for a quick margarita on a Wed afternoon - I couldn't stay long because I actually had to be back at my apt that night since another girl was coming over later.
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Sexual Framing
Now, fast forward a couple weeks. We ended up setting up a meet at my place for last night (a Saturday night). The original plan was to have a drink or two at my apartment, then head to main st for the night. However, she made things much easier for me when she texted me the day before the meet and told me she'll have to work Sunday morning so she'd rather just stay in for the night and take it easy at my place. Of course I had no problem with this.
She arrived and we just sat down at my table, had a few drinks and chatted a lil bit. I had just read a few GC posts about sexual framing/being sexual before she came over - something I'm working on getting better at - so I worked a lot of that into the conversation. It's truly amazing how this works! If you haven't read Ricardus's post on the 9 secrets to being a sexual man, it's a MUST READ!
Ego Depletion and Coming Up for Air - Getting her to stay the night
After a few drinks, it's getting close to midnight and she starts to plan ahead. As she's typing out a text to her roommate, she asks me, "So what time do you think I should tell my roommate to pick me up?" In the past, before reading GC as a regular, I would have been totally fazed here. This would have thrown me off so bad, and I probably would have told her a time for later that night and chalked it up as a loss. But not this time. Without hesitation I said back to her, "What time do you usually wake up when you have work at 11 AM?" She responded, "I usually wake up 30 minutes before I go to work." So doing some quick math, and giving her a grace period to get home, I said to her, "Then tell her to pick you up at 10 AM. That'll give you 30 extra minutes so you should definitely make it to work on time." It was THAT EASY!!! She told her roommate she'd call her tomorrow morning at 10 when she woke up.
So at this point, I know she's staying the night. Now all I needed to do was move her to my bedroom. I had already done all the "prep-work," like sexual framing, deep diving, getting her to stay, etc. It was mine to screw up now. I decided since she had just made a big decision, I would keep it light in the minutes that followed. Chase really delves into this in mega-detail in his post on ego depletion, but a key point he makes is to take breaks between hard sells - essentially, come up for air after she's made a big decision. So in the meantime, I decided to pull up some action photos of some of the puppies I've raised over the years. She melted. We finished our drinks and headed for bed.
Physical Escalation and Sex
As we get into my room, she finds my baby pictures, which I intentionally leave out on my desk (you can read my post on why I leave baby pictures on my desk if you want to see why/how I think it works). Once we're both in bed, I hit the lights and we immediately begin to passionately make out. About a minute later, I slip my hand up her shirt to get a feel for the level of resistance I'll get, if any. However, instead of resistance, she flips me over, gets on top of me, throws her shirt off and unclips her bra. In the meantime, I jokingly mutter, "Oh I see, we're each doing the work for ourselves..."[/i ]and proceed to take off my shirt. I flip her back over, unbutton her pants and she slides her pants and panties right off. Then she reaches for my pants, unzips them and pushes them down my legs. What a wild 2 minutes!
We're both naked now so I reach for a condom, but as I'm unwrapping it, she asks me, "Are you sure we should have sex?" I replied with a softly spoken yes and that's all it took. She slipped on the condom and slid me inside her. About 20-30 minutes in, she asked if I was almost finished. I told her I thought I was getting close and to give me a few more minutes. After about 40 minutes, she asked again and I told her that I wasn't any closer than I was 10 minutes prior. So she said I should take the condom off and that it was okay, she was on birth control, so long as I pull out. And to make the offer even better, she said, "Just let me know when you're gonna pull out and you can cum in my mouth." And yes, she swallowed.
After Sex - More sexual framing
Afterwards, she told me she hadn't had sex with a guy in like 6 months and that she usually doesn't sleep with a guy so soon... When she said this, I immediately knew my sexual framing earlier that night had paid me HUGE DIVIDENDS, as I had done what no other guy previously could do with her! I gave myself a round of applause inside. She continued to tell me that she hopes I don't think she's a slut for having sex with me so early. Now, back before I started reading GC, if a girl told this to me, I would have had no idea what to say, causing her to believe that I really did think she was a slut and probably never to come back again.
But I'm a new me; I knew what to do this time, thanks to Ricardus. I told her how I think the word 'slut' is just a social judgment created BY WOMEN as a way to keep each other in check. I went further to point out that in my opinion, society tells women they have to present themselves in a proper way that doesn't allow them to express what they truly want; but that I applaud her for being so independent and taking what she wants. I even pointed out she did exactly that 3 weeks ago when she gave her number to me (also subliminally conveying the whole "it wasn't me" frame). Finally, I just told her that we are wired to act on our instinct and follow our emotions, and there's nothing wrong with that.
After I told her all of this, it was like the air in the room became fresher. You could tell I had just put her mind at ease. She suddenly felt so comfortable in my arms and any tension was gone. She even started talking about how she was going to come over several more times in the future so we could watch certain movies I mentioned I hadn't seen. It was like we had known each other for months.
In Conclusion...
As a result, I'm now TOTALLY sold on the idea of sexual framing. It works wonders and isn't terribly hard to do. I'm also sold on the idea that the sooner you have sex with a girl, the more likely you are to have a chance at a future relationship with her. I mean, as soon as we had sex, and once I set the right sexual frames, the connection between us was on a whole 'nother level. With the exception of one-night-stands, this is the quickest I've ever bedded a girl. Oh, and did I mention, she's the 2nd girl in as many nights!? Things are finally lookin' up, after a YEAR of reading/practicing/applying things from Girls Chase.
Persistence pays off
~ Cheers
P.S. If anyone is reading this and wants me to expand more on specifically how I used sexual framing with this girl, just post a reply and I'll elaborate as best I can.
I was at pub trivia a couple weeks ago with some friends. After it had ended, I went to the bathroom, only to return to my table with my buddies handing me a note. The slip read, "You're cute! xxx-xxx-xxxx -Sam" (I actually wrote a post about why I think she gave me her number last month.) My friends told me that some girl came by and said to give the note to me.
Over the course of the next 2-3 weeks, we texted back and forth, constantly trying to set something up but everything kept falling through. We finally found a time to meet up for a quick margarita on a Wed afternoon - I couldn't stay long because I actually had to be back at my apt that night since another girl was coming over later.
-------------------------
Sexual Framing
Now, fast forward a couple weeks. We ended up setting up a meet at my place for last night (a Saturday night). The original plan was to have a drink or two at my apartment, then head to main st for the night. However, she made things much easier for me when she texted me the day before the meet and told me she'll have to work Sunday morning so she'd rather just stay in for the night and take it easy at my place. Of course I had no problem with this.
She arrived and we just sat down at my table, had a few drinks and chatted a lil bit. I had just read a few GC posts about sexual framing/being sexual before she came over - something I'm working on getting better at - so I worked a lot of that into the conversation. It's truly amazing how this works! If you haven't read Ricardus's post on the 9 secrets to being a sexual man, it's a MUST READ!
Ego Depletion and Coming Up for Air - Getting her to stay the night
After a few drinks, it's getting close to midnight and she starts to plan ahead. As she's typing out a text to her roommate, she asks me, "So what time do you think I should tell my roommate to pick me up?" In the past, before reading GC as a regular, I would have been totally fazed here. This would have thrown me off so bad, and I probably would have told her a time for later that night and chalked it up as a loss. But not this time. Without hesitation I said back to her, "What time do you usually wake up when you have work at 11 AM?" She responded, "I usually wake up 30 minutes before I go to work." So doing some quick math, and giving her a grace period to get home, I said to her, "Then tell her to pick you up at 10 AM. That'll give you 30 extra minutes so you should definitely make it to work on time." It was THAT EASY!!! She told her roommate she'd call her tomorrow morning at 10 when she woke up.
So at this point, I know she's staying the night. Now all I needed to do was move her to my bedroom. I had already done all the "prep-work," like sexual framing, deep diving, getting her to stay, etc. It was mine to screw up now. I decided since she had just made a big decision, I would keep it light in the minutes that followed. Chase really delves into this in mega-detail in his post on ego depletion, but a key point he makes is to take breaks between hard sells - essentially, come up for air after she's made a big decision. So in the meantime, I decided to pull up some action photos of some of the puppies I've raised over the years. She melted. We finished our drinks and headed for bed.
Physical Escalation and Sex
As we get into my room, she finds my baby pictures, which I intentionally leave out on my desk (you can read my post on why I leave baby pictures on my desk if you want to see why/how I think it works). Once we're both in bed, I hit the lights and we immediately begin to passionately make out. About a minute later, I slip my hand up her shirt to get a feel for the level of resistance I'll get, if any. However, instead of resistance, she flips me over, gets on top of me, throws her shirt off and unclips her bra. In the meantime, I jokingly mutter, "Oh I see, we're each doing the work for ourselves..."[/i ]and proceed to take off my shirt. I flip her back over, unbutton her pants and she slides her pants and panties right off. Then she reaches for my pants, unzips them and pushes them down my legs. What a wild 2 minutes!
We're both naked now so I reach for a condom, but as I'm unwrapping it, she asks me, "Are you sure we should have sex?" I replied with a softly spoken yes and that's all it took. She slipped on the condom and slid me inside her. About 20-30 minutes in, she asked if I was almost finished. I told her I thought I was getting close and to give me a few more minutes. After about 40 minutes, she asked again and I told her that I wasn't any closer than I was 10 minutes prior. So she said I should take the condom off and that it was okay, she was on birth control, so long as I pull out. And to make the offer even better, she said, "Just let me know when you're gonna pull out and you can cum in my mouth." And yes, she swallowed.
After Sex - More sexual framing
Afterwards, she told me she hadn't had sex with a guy in like 6 months and that she usually doesn't sleep with a guy so soon... When she said this, I immediately knew my sexual framing earlier that night had paid me HUGE DIVIDENDS, as I had done what no other guy previously could do with her! I gave myself a round of applause inside. She continued to tell me that she hopes I don't think she's a slut for having sex with me so early. Now, back before I started reading GC, if a girl told this to me, I would have had no idea what to say, causing her to believe that I really did think she was a slut and probably never to come back again.
But I'm a new me; I knew what to do this time, thanks to Ricardus. I told her how I think the word 'slut' is just a social judgment created BY WOMEN as a way to keep each other in check. I went further to point out that in my opinion, society tells women they have to present themselves in a proper way that doesn't allow them to express what they truly want; but that I applaud her for being so independent and taking what she wants. I even pointed out she did exactly that 3 weeks ago when she gave her number to me (also subliminally conveying the whole "it wasn't me" frame). Finally, I just told her that we are wired to act on our instinct and follow our emotions, and there's nothing wrong with that.
After I told her all of this, it was like the air in the room became fresher. You could tell I had just put her mind at ease. She suddenly felt so comfortable in my arms and any tension was gone. She even started talking about how she was going to come over several more times in the future so we could watch certain movies I mentioned I hadn't seen. It was like we had known each other for months.
In Conclusion...
As a result, I'm now TOTALLY sold on the idea of sexual framing. It works wonders and isn't terribly hard to do. I'm also sold on the idea that the sooner you have sex with a girl, the more likely you are to have a chance at a future relationship with her. I mean, as soon as we had sex, and once I set the right sexual frames, the connection between us was on a whole 'nother level. With the exception of one-night-stands, this is the quickest I've ever bedded a girl. Oh, and did I mention, she's the 2nd girl in as many nights!? Things are finally lookin' up, after a YEAR of reading/practicing/applying things from Girls Chase.
Persistence pays off
~ Cheers
P.S. If anyone is reading this and wants me to expand more on specifically how I used sexual framing with this girl, just post a reply and I'll elaborate as best I can.