- Joined
- Jan 17, 2014
- Messages
- 83
Hello gents,
I've been using a tactic that seems to work, and I wanted to know your opinions on it.
So for the past 2 weeks, I've just been working up on my confidence, going up to girls at my schools library and sitting with them. When I do get a hit, (~75% of the time) I sit with them, make some small talk, and try to deep dive, etc.
I found that a good way of making the girl disarm herself (I'm assuming I have the correct definition of disarming) is to make an assumption about her that actually raises her value (sounds contradictory, I know, but hear me out). For example, one that I've managed a 100% success rate in having her disarm herself is when she sees some of her friends walking by. If one or two of her friends walk by and say hello and get her attention, I'll say in a sly tone "you sure are popular, huh?" after they leave. She's guaranteed to at least laugh a bit and then take herself down a peg by saying "oh, no, those are just my friends/teacher, etc"
Or the other day I had a girl who was focusing on her computer screen, then her phone, then back to the screen, back to the phone, etc. I said "you look like you are intensely in deep thought." Again, she laughed and disarmed herself, saying she was just going through some stuff with classes and friends, easy ways to make new conversation.
-Randy Bobandy
I've been using a tactic that seems to work, and I wanted to know your opinions on it.
So for the past 2 weeks, I've just been working up on my confidence, going up to girls at my schools library and sitting with them. When I do get a hit, (~75% of the time) I sit with them, make some small talk, and try to deep dive, etc.
I found that a good way of making the girl disarm herself (I'm assuming I have the correct definition of disarming) is to make an assumption about her that actually raises her value (sounds contradictory, I know, but hear me out). For example, one that I've managed a 100% success rate in having her disarm herself is when she sees some of her friends walking by. If one or two of her friends walk by and say hello and get her attention, I'll say in a sly tone "you sure are popular, huh?" after they leave. She's guaranteed to at least laugh a bit and then take herself down a peg by saying "oh, no, those are just my friends/teacher, etc"
Or the other day I had a girl who was focusing on her computer screen, then her phone, then back to the screen, back to the phone, etc. I said "you look like you are intensely in deep thought." Again, she laughed and disarmed herself, saying she was just going through some stuff with classes and friends, easy ways to make new conversation.
-Randy Bobandy
