@DaVinciMatrixStyle
Heres a route to building friends when youre not in a simple context where it naturally happens as weve been more used too in earlier years.
One of the fastest routes to improve initial meet social skills is to learn
elicitation. In the piece i link too i focus on a special angle on
mirroring. But i would suggest to learn
pacing too. We talk about it in the comments. These two "techs" in combo will get you very far as a social likeable person.
Then add
shooting invites left and right and you will slowly become a social magnet. To enable that a strong approach in terms of social role taking is to choose to become a
social connector. This means continually keeping an eye on events and get to know the cool spots/things so that when you meet people you can invite them to cool happenings you already know about or will find in a few days. You can smartly choose some that appeals to the crowd you wanna hang with. or things that has an ambience you like.
Go do this anywhere with elicitation and shooting invites - at hobbies, events, meetups, from cold approach hell i know people who did it with tinder girls they dated slowly building a friends circle. Follow up on encounters on set level and invite for things as i outlined
here for how to do it with girls. You can do the same with guys. Or with mixed groups. From there pick friends.. invite some more, one on ones etc. Its a fluid nice process where friendships slowly form. You can do this from the getgo. But dont stop - continue until you have a circle as you like. Bring them all together and create a spiderweb around YOU.
One example:
- go to a local event xxxx
- Speak with 2 -10 people and elicit their worlds and passions. sprinkle in stimulation and your own experience that resonates with them. If you have none dont worry just ask into theirs curiously.
- shoot invites - hey im going to xxx on saturday if you wanna join. just shoot me a text
- person: ok but i dont have your number..
Any current place you already have contacts just start inviting..
Gradually build friendships and a small SC. Replace as you move further with people that resonate more with you. On the guy side of things you can form a small strong friend group. I do it with girls for seductive purposes as i have long term good male friends and guys mostly get in my way seductively.
A key is just to start where ever and with whoever. As you build this out and get the feel of things you can change it. Dont think you need cool guys etc. just get going. the momentum will ignite u.
