Male sex issue.

[Anonymous]

Hello, I'm Vic and I was wondering if anyone out there had any knowledge on my particular issue in regards to sex.
Quick background: I recently started dating this girl and we go back from high school. After I graduated, I hadn't talked to her for about two years. Well it just so happened she text me a few weeks ago and we hit it off within a week. She is definitely into me.

For my problem though, it deals more along the lines of the male reproductive system. We ended up having sex for the first time at her house, but our only issue was her parents were there so it was a little risky. After about an hour into sex (I know it was definitely an hour, Netflix was playing this movie in the background) I began getting soft and thought the issue was some sort of mental block associated with her parents being there. I hadn't gotten off that night and we ended up just cuddling, then I eventually went home.

Well just last night, I had this same issue again and I haven't masturbated in a while, probably four or five days. We also didn't have sex since the last time which was about two weeks apart. We banged for a long while on my water bed (which is horrible for rhythm, I wouldn't suggest) and I ended up getting soft again and didn't cum. We ended up laying naked on the couch in my living room watching Netflix and cuddling. I thought to myself "Hey let's wait a while, maybe it's something with my body and I'll be a stiff horse again in an hour." Hour passed and we soon found ourselves indulging in foreplay. She was still REAL wet and horny, ready to go again. Me, well I was rock hard from the foreplay and right when I slipped the condom on, I went soft...Damn.

As a man, this is obviously disappointing. This girl built me up as this incredible man and told me how great I am with sex. I fear losing her if I can't deliver, but what's paramount to me is the fact that I can't send my goods during sex. Masturbation, I have no problem. Is this something mental? Am I waiting too long? I didn't feel ready to climax even in the beginning of sex with her though, but I get turned on by her and get inside her stiff as a baseball bat.

If anyone has had this problem and found a way to fix it, I'd be grateful for your help and advice. Similar stories about your experiences or someone you know would be awesome too.

Thanks in advance to anyone who reads and replies with any insight.

 

[Marty]

Vic,

Watch what you're taking, if anything... medicines, supplements etc. I being in my late thirties was applying this stuff to my scalp to prevent hair loss (it's called minoxidil) and it fucking killed my performance. Quit, a few days later I was banging her again like crazy. I'd rather have the hair loss, thank you very much. I don't think girls give a damn anyway. It's masculine.

Any kind of poor health issue (excess weight, stress, insufficient sleep) can exacerbate that problem as well. You're damn right it's embarrassing. Eat up your vegetables and get plenty of exercise and fresh air. No kidding

-Marty

 

[Rasta]

Hi there,

My friend had a problem similar to this the first time he tried losing his virginity. Got hard during foreplay, the chick put a condom on him, and it went soft. Talk about some BS!!!
If I remember correctly, he figured it was some kind of mental block caused by being really nervous about his first time.

Sorry I can't be of more help, but I did want to share the story so you know it happens to other people. If you're worried parents will walk in, try in your car or somewhere more private if you have the option. Good luck

 

[DAMKY]

Simple answer, there are 2 possibilities:

1. Mental - it's probalby mental, if you can do it for more than a hour when alone, so you probably can do it when with the girl.

2. physical - there are option that you exhaust yourself, that mean that you REALLY use muscles in all of your body, what could take available blood from your penis to other area and can cause this too.

You need to ask yourself if it's not option 2, if you unsure, just try to be more physicaly relaxed next time OR just check when you alone, if you can errect for long even when you exhaust yourself.

 

[LucidityComeBackToMe]

I am not sure what your current diet is but work on improving it if it's bad. Eat a lot of watermelon and red beets. I started juicing fruits and vegetables a month ago and have noticed I am having much harder erections. Also waking up with intense morning wood. Watermelon contains citrulline an amino acid which is converted to arginine. This raises the level of nitric oxide in the body which promotes better blood flow. You have to consume a large amount which is easy to do with the juicer. Having red beets also seems to be beneficial for me. I believe it lowers your blood pressure and helps bring cholesterol levels down. Not sure if it is a placebo effect or not but it seems to work for me. Try it out.