Taken from my journal...
I need help getting past my sticking point. How come I can get numbers, but never get dates? I mean, the first interaction was quick, and sort of awkward, so I don't really expect anything from it, but the second one was better in my opinion. Still, both girls didn't respond to my text (asking them out).
I honestly think it is just a matter of handling my fundamentals.
December 20
Went out today to get some Christmas shopping done. Also, did a handful of approaches and received two numbers.
1.
Me: "quick question"
Her: *looks at me*
Me: "are you single?" *squint eyes*
Her: "no."
Introductions.
Light banter about why she's at the mall, Christmas shopping and stuff.
Tease her about the many bags she's carrying.
Deep dive about school.
Do the usual building up (oh, so you must be a pretty good persuader - because she's in business). She responds: "I guess... when I have to." I reply: "which must be a loottt of the time." Provide positive feedback about how she has her shit together. Knows what to do with her life while a lot of other people still don't know what they really want to do with theirs.
Her: *thinks about it* "that's true."
Number close.
She enters her number in my phone.
Light banter about what she does for currency.
Says she works at a make-up, cosmetics place.
Me: "ahh...so along with being good at business, you make girls prettier."
Her: "thanks!"
Me: "so what's your schedule look like?"
Her: "pretty busy"
Me: "cool, i'll just give you a text right now so you have my number, just make sure you don't text me 24/7"
Her: "haha, okay."
Her: "got it. Shall I text you?"
Me: "well.. that would break the rule." Should've said: "if you can't resist"
Her: "haha okay."
Make our farewells.
Sort of an awkward, tense vibe throughout this conversation.
2.
Sit beside a blonde girl on the bus. There were a lot of people on the bus, so it didn't break the law of least effort to approach her.
After 15 seconds...
Me: "going anywhere interesting?"
Her: "just homee, you?"
Me: "hooommeee"
We both smile.
Light banter about Christmas shopping and stuff. Tease her about: "are you sure you left enough things for everyone else?"
She mentions she's from the island but here because of her boyfriend going to school.
So we talk briefly about his goals, and then I use this to transition into what her dreams are.
She said she doesn't know.
Me: "me neither! I'm in like the same stage! Probably like vacation or something, right?"
Her: "hahah, exactly!"
At one point on the bus ride, two cheerful guys get on and sit in front of us and start light bantering with us. But we quickly get back to talking one on one.
I ask her if she could have absolutely any job, what it would be?
She responds: "everyone asks me that, but I really don't know!"
Me: "yeah, when I got out of high school, everyone asked me that as well... it would make me so angry!"
Her: "yeah!"
Me: "like, I just want to liveee!"
She agrees.
Pretty good vibe so far, and good frame set.
Number grabbed here on a high point, while she was laughing.
Then light bantered about what she did in her spare time: work.
Me: "so you must be a very fashionable person." (since she works in a clothing store)
Talked a bit about that, then she got off at her stop.
Better, more light, carefree conversation. Still feel a bit awkward in my interactions. I think more sexual innuendo and chase / sex frames would be beneficial.
I need help getting past my sticking point. How come I can get numbers, but never get dates? I mean, the first interaction was quick, and sort of awkward, so I don't really expect anything from it, but the second one was better in my opinion. Still, both girls didn't respond to my text (asking them out).
I honestly think it is just a matter of handling my fundamentals.