Masturbation- Training to become a good lover

[Mr.Rob]

I just watched a cool video that was talking about using masturbation as a way of practicing to become a good lover. Essentially like what Chase was talking about in his last article on lasting longer in bed its all in your head and he lists the mental hacks you can use to last longer. The other day I started using these techniques while I masturbate and I was able to last 20 minutes before finishing (my second round), when I usually last 5 minutes tops.

You also get to get to know how your thought process and brain works during sexual encounters. Hopefully I can get to the point where I can last 20 minutes the first round of masturbation.

We get trained masturbating young to not condition ourselves to last long (since it's more work and self pleasure isn't supposed to be work) so why should we last long in bed. I also think masturbating often saps your motivation and I don't encourage that but when it does come time to give yourself a release you might as well work to condition yourself to become a good lover.

Cheers,

Rob

 

[Just_Dave]

Mr. Rob,

A very interesting outlook, and yes I was highly into that type of training too and it does pay off. Props to you as well for mentioning that masturbation will sap your motivation. I've had this happen to me as well.

I know Chase had mentioned to people and on the blog that women should be viewed as your only release, in terms of not becoming addicted to masturbation. Lol, which is why things can be sometimes best handled in moderation.

Critical Point: Pleasing Women in bed
Many complaints you'll hear from women is men not lasting long in bed. Connecting your original post, if one were to learn how to last longer through masturbation than one will be able to make the women come so often she'll be begging him to come.

A funnier route: Katt Williams
Katt Williams, a comedian, did a sketch on how during sex he focuses on everything but the woman. He'll be pounding her but, he'll be eyeing that piano the entire time. lol.

Anyway my two cents!

Dave

 

[Mr.Rob]

Glad to hear that it does pay off in the sack. It would suck to do all the work of lasting longer then get to the real deal and squeeze one off in 20 seconds.

I recently went overseas for a month and because I had so much new stuff and situations going on the entire time I chose not to pleasure myself the whole time there. As a result I had a much higher sex drive and was more motivated to push my limits socially and sexually while there. I highly recommend abstaining from self pleasure and maybe doing so once a week twice tops. When you do self please do so in a way where your training your brain to last longer than 2 minutes .

He'll be pounding her but, he'll be eyeing that piano the entire time. lol.

I get off too hard on piano's I think I revert to focusing on the pattern of the bedspread.

P.S. This stuff really is all in your head guys. The first girl I ever fucked I lasted 2 minutes. I wanted her to enjoy herself so I got started back up only to realize her ass had a flakey skin texture to it (like when you get dry flakey skin in the winter time) and it really was such a turn off. Every position I tried and every thrust I could feel her weird textured ass skin and I couldn't get off to save my life the 2nd time. But I was so focused the first round I hadn't even realized it.

Maybe TMI but goes to show what your orgasm is all in your head ... And your dickhead .

 

[Whizzy]

They key thing to remember is helping the other person to finish and not just be looking for the quick and easy release that masturbating normally gives. I will agree with everyone else on this thread that it does indeed sap motivation a little as well

 

[Grand Pooba]

I just watched a cool video that was talking about using masturbation as a way of practicing to become a good lover. Essentially like what Chase was talking about in his last article on lasting longer in bed its all in your head and he lists the mental hacks you can use to last longer. The other day I started using these techniques while I masturbate and I was able to last 20 minutes before finishing (my second round), when I usually last 5 minutes tops.

It also helps to practice kegels and reverse kegels as a weekly routine (like going to the gym for your penis), increasing physical control of when you come and also how hard your penis stays through the course of sex. I' think, and have experienced, at the upper echelons of these types of training you can control your male climax to occur without ejaculating, by strengthening and squeezing the PC muscle, thus allowing multiple male orgasms/climaxes without releasing semen, or maybe just a tiny fraction of the full amount and you can stay hard a lot longer.

There are a lot of articles on the web with ways to do this, and it takes time to build up the muscle and training.

Anyway, I've noticed that the days after I masturbate I feel less motivated all around, but a few days later I feel unable to control myself sexually.