Observations Matriachy is just Man's fault in the end. Here's what happened

[trashKENNUT]

Hi Guys,

As my relatives visited me and observing my new found non-verbal language with children, practicing with various children over this two years and seeing how they interact with me and see as a "pillar", I realize that most guys, which is here boyfriends, husbands. They reward "bad" behavior every time their wife's and children do bad things. What do i mean by rewarding bad behavior is paying attention to them.

Matriarchy exist only because i personally feel that men do not take charge.

Women needs to protect the child, and spend time with the child. But Man needs to remind her, show her desire that he still wants her. That Oedipus complex. IF the child cries, don't attend to him all the time, despite this is politically INCORRECT. I am not saying that you do not nurse, milk or give food to the child, Because The mother would attend to the child but the mother need "pillar". What happens here in today's society is that (and this is obvious with single mothers) she's nurturing the child and she also burdening the child, because the child is perceived as the "pillar" by the mother. The mother doesn't consciously know this but every woman needs that "pillar". This is where man comes in, to remind her and also at the same time, help the child nurse from the mother without really relying on her because the mother "belongs" to the father and also, you helping the child to become a better version of you, because he or she didn't rely both parents so much. This will become an investment back and forth like when you first date a girl, your son or daughter trying to get you to invest and you do, vice versa,

You kill two birds with one stone. Helping your wife and she not losing respect for you, and building a foundation for your child. Fathers are important but not the kind of characteristics of today. This is what i see. Obviously things are not easy and Feminist will not be happy. Haha

Zac

 

[trashKENNUT]

Why a Father is important, but not the characteristics of today.

This is further supporting statements.

http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/con ... -or-spouse

Zac

 

[Chase]

A large part of it I think is the decline in childbirth rates and the lack of early conception you see among women in late-stage civilizations entering their decadence phases. I used to think we were in an unparalleled stage due to contraceptives, but it turns out it's quite normal among late-stage successful civilizations to enter into periods of population decline where the people begin engaging in rampant casual sex / hedonism and the birthrate plummets to well below replacement rate. This seems to typically preface a civilizational decline or collapse, but I'd need to read more on it to say with much certainty. The sources I've read that study late-stage civilizations seem to say or imply as much, though.

Anyway, I've noticed that in the societies where women are basically birthing / childcare machines, this doesn't happen, because the woman is producing children from an early age and continues to produce them until menopause, and focuses exclusively on family... all of this because her man keeps sleeping with her, keeps impregnating her, and she keeps producing one child after another after another. This is really the "quantity" approach to reproduction, whereas developed societies take the "quality" approach, where each couple only has 1 or 2 children because they more or less only have the resources necessary to clothe and feed and educate a handful of children in as expensive a society as theirs. They also only have a limited amount of time to direct toward childcare and rearing, as they tend to be caught up in long lists of either professions or leisure activities.

This is quite different from early-stage civilizations, where children are needed to help the parent or parents at home (the mother, if the father is a soldier and frequently off at war; she needs the support - or, both parents, if the farmer is a father or skilled tradesman and he needs the additional farmhands or apprentices in order to increase his level of productive output on his farm or in his shop or smithy).

In advanced nations, children shift from being a benefit to a liability, as they move off the farm or out of the shop and into expensive, increasingly longer-in-duration academies that require more and more time to prepare them to be able to operate effectively in the increasingly complex and labyrinthine society they inhabit.

So, women spend much of their youth in developed nations not pregnant, but instead figuring out their sexual market value, and by the time they figure that out and select a mate they're well past their reproductive primes (a woman becomes most easily pregnant at age 20, with her ability to become pregnant declining every year after this, at first by a little bit at a time, and then once she passes into her thirties by leaps and bounds each year). Only 1 or 2 children are produced, as the woman is no longer especially fertile and both partners are anyway otherwise engaged in their lives, careers, travel, adventure, social statuses, etc., and lack the time to focus on family that you see in early stage civilizations where the man and woman don't have much to do but have sex, make babies, and raise their kids.

Matriarchy-like underpinnings seem to be a natural signature of late-stage civilization due to the decline in birthrates and shifting of attention away from the rearing of children that the accumulation of wealth, safety, and leisure time such a society affords and even necessitates.

Chase

 

[trashKENNUT]

Chase,

I cannot say very much but there's a lot of things that i was ignorant, here pretty much. The notes you have given are highly important because it's not always "a pattern".

Our human brains can be lazy. There is patterns in this world but there is also change up here and change up there, or some sort of variation when different topics arises. It's a good reminder to actually know things are not always "this" or "that".

I was too obsess with noting that man as being important to society, and forgotten i went away with the subject title.

Zac