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Okay, so this FR is not a recent one, but from a year or two back.Still, I wanted to put it here because it's one of the very few were I actually got to exchange numbers and addresses, in order to get things starting up.
And yes, things failed in quite a way.
But now, let's start:
It was once again a house party which i was visiting. There happened to be a neighbor of mine, we were acquaintances of each other.
As I was sipping my drink, an unknown woman stepped inside. She was quite beautiful, and had a really fancy dress.
We just happened to end up standing next to each other, and initiated an conversation. Things were quite civil, but we had chemistry.
Some other guys tried also to open up the woman verbally, but she wasn't interested in them.
She was only interested in talking with me.
We talked about whiskey brands, movies and about ourselves. I found out that she had designed by herself the dress which she was wearing. This was one more + in my eyes. But, as unexperienced as I was, and as it was quite a busy period, me studying around the clock to beat the deadlines, I had to apologize her and leave the party to return continuing my studies.
But things don't end up here. No, they were just beginning.
A few hours later the doorbell of my apartment rang. I went up to the door, it was my neighbour.
- Seriously, you need to come back to the party. My friend was really impressed by you.
I was literally astounded - (she's a friend of her? What a coincidence! And also, WHAT THE HELL IS GOING ON, THIS GIRL IN THE PARTY IS INTO ME?) But I kept my calm, answering in a hint of a questioned manner,
- Okay..(?) Well I guess it's better to return then.
So I saved my work, shut my computer and returned to the party.
This time, she was a bit more drunk but man, was she into me.
We continued to speak of various topics, but this time she went more flirtatious on me.
ME, at one part of the conversation: So you fancy camping? I also enjoy nature, but unfortunately I don't always have the time to thread overnight-journeys into nature. But well, once my studies are over there's plenty of time to do that.
HER: Oh I would take you camping, anytime.
ME, having a small breath of a laugh at her flirting: Oh yeah?
HER: Yes.
I'm sure we could have exchanged kisses at this stage, but my intuition told me to wait. Something was amiss.
Soon after this we exchanged numbers + addresses, and I sent a friend request for her on Facebook.
She was in need of a smoke, and I told her to wait as I had a box of small cigars at my apartment.
HER: I love men who smoke cigars.
So we chatted some more at the balcony, smoking the cigars.
As we returned inside, I continued deep diving, and she continued her flirting.
ME: So you like (culture x)? Tell me more about it. It's very intriguing as I'm too into this culture.
HER: Yeah? Well I have even tattoos of it. Check this out.
She started showing her skin to me, where she had her tattoos.
Be in mind that this all happened during when there were all sorts of men around us, sitting. Muscle men, alphas and all sorts of other guys.
But I didn't mind them. This was our conversation.
The party was about to end, and she was starting to take her leave.
Her: I have to go now. It was nice talking to you.
And this was were she made her revelation:
- My boyfriend's probably sleeping.
Damn was I disappointed. I could've had maybe even asked to escort her to the apartment, continuing the night, had she not had a boyfriend. But this was what my guts were trying to tell me. It was all too good to be true, she had a boyfriend.
Next day I noticed that she hadn't added me on Facebook.
A week later, as I was returning from one party, I received a text message. It was her.
HER: Hi. Do you have any goings for this evening? I'm really bored..
ME: Where are you at this moment?
HER:In the central, at a bar. Do you mind having a glass or two with me?
ME, having a bad feeling of where this was going: You have your boyfriend with you?
HER: No. He's at one of those parties of his. He doesn't take me with him so I'm left all alone.
At this point I was furious. Was this girl just ignorant thinking it's just "okay" for her seeing other guys behind the boyfriends back, or was she just trying to make me into a secret lover of hers.
And if she was trying to make me into a sl, did she really think I would be so dumb to go for it, if she just hooked me up a little and flirted a few times to me.
Did I look that dumb in the eyes of her?
And yes, I had searched her boyfriend's FB-profile. He looked like the kind of guy who eats iron nails for breakfast. The kind of guy you don't want to mess with.
So I wrote a small novel of a text for her, stating how I had my principles and that I'm not going to see a girl behind her boyfriend's back, let alone without him knowing of it.
She answered,
- Oh you got this all wrong here. My boyfriend's cool for me seeing other guys. It's not that strict between me and him you know.
I wasn't taking any risks and remained adamant (no pun intented), texting
- Sorry. Not going to happen.
Maybe she was stuck in a bad relationship. I've seen those happen. But I wasn't going to become her white knight to ride with my horse with shining armor and rescue her.
Nor was I going to become this hook-up guy who's going to hang out with her, and then possibly create a conflict when her guy knows about it, and then the girl's going to be,
- Oh Mark, this guy's nothing. You know we love each other, we are in a relationship and all. It was this guy who's the culprit.
And then I'm going to get beaten up or something and the woman will get her man to get interested in her again, possibly start taking her to parties again. Maybe. If she just would get her man jealous and start seeing her as important again.
These were the things I were seeing, and why I dumped the girl.
This was the story. I'm interested to hear your comments on it.
One more note. I actually checked her profile recently, and she lives in another city now. There's no pictures of her with her boyfriend anymore, and I didn't find her boyfriend's profile anymore from her friend list. Of course, it could be that he has just switched his profile picture and I just can't connect the picture to the person (also can't remember the guys name)
I'm thinking of contacting the girl again, but seeing how I dumped her, maybe that's not the best idea.
What do you think?
And yes, things failed in quite a way.
But now, let's start:
It was once again a house party which i was visiting. There happened to be a neighbor of mine, we were acquaintances of each other.
As I was sipping my drink, an unknown woman stepped inside. She was quite beautiful, and had a really fancy dress.
We just happened to end up standing next to each other, and initiated an conversation. Things were quite civil, but we had chemistry.
Some other guys tried also to open up the woman verbally, but she wasn't interested in them.
She was only interested in talking with me.
We talked about whiskey brands, movies and about ourselves. I found out that she had designed by herself the dress which she was wearing. This was one more + in my eyes. But, as unexperienced as I was, and as it was quite a busy period, me studying around the clock to beat the deadlines, I had to apologize her and leave the party to return continuing my studies.
But things don't end up here. No, they were just beginning.
A few hours later the doorbell of my apartment rang. I went up to the door, it was my neighbour.
- Seriously, you need to come back to the party. My friend was really impressed by you.
I was literally astounded - (she's a friend of her? What a coincidence! And also, WHAT THE HELL IS GOING ON, THIS GIRL IN THE PARTY IS INTO ME?) But I kept my calm, answering in a hint of a questioned manner,
- Okay..(?) Well I guess it's better to return then.
So I saved my work, shut my computer and returned to the party.
This time, she was a bit more drunk but man, was she into me.
We continued to speak of various topics, but this time she went more flirtatious on me.
ME, at one part of the conversation: So you fancy camping? I also enjoy nature, but unfortunately I don't always have the time to thread overnight-journeys into nature. But well, once my studies are over there's plenty of time to do that.
HER: Oh I would take you camping, anytime.
ME, having a small breath of a laugh at her flirting: Oh yeah?
HER: Yes.
I'm sure we could have exchanged kisses at this stage, but my intuition told me to wait. Something was amiss.
Soon after this we exchanged numbers + addresses, and I sent a friend request for her on Facebook.
She was in need of a smoke, and I told her to wait as I had a box of small cigars at my apartment.
HER: I love men who smoke cigars.
So we chatted some more at the balcony, smoking the cigars.
As we returned inside, I continued deep diving, and she continued her flirting.
ME: So you like (culture x)? Tell me more about it. It's very intriguing as I'm too into this culture.
HER: Yeah? Well I have even tattoos of it. Check this out.
She started showing her skin to me, where she had her tattoos.
Be in mind that this all happened during when there were all sorts of men around us, sitting. Muscle men, alphas and all sorts of other guys.
But I didn't mind them. This was our conversation.
The party was about to end, and she was starting to take her leave.
Her: I have to go now. It was nice talking to you.
And this was were she made her revelation:
- My boyfriend's probably sleeping.
Damn was I disappointed. I could've had maybe even asked to escort her to the apartment, continuing the night, had she not had a boyfriend. But this was what my guts were trying to tell me. It was all too good to be true, she had a boyfriend.
Next day I noticed that she hadn't added me on Facebook.
A week later, as I was returning from one party, I received a text message. It was her.
HER: Hi. Do you have any goings for this evening? I'm really bored..
ME: Where are you at this moment?
HER:In the central, at a bar. Do you mind having a glass or two with me?
ME, having a bad feeling of where this was going: You have your boyfriend with you?
HER: No. He's at one of those parties of his. He doesn't take me with him so I'm left all alone.
At this point I was furious. Was this girl just ignorant thinking it's just "okay" for her seeing other guys behind the boyfriends back, or was she just trying to make me into a secret lover of hers.
And if she was trying to make me into a sl, did she really think I would be so dumb to go for it, if she just hooked me up a little and flirted a few times to me.
Did I look that dumb in the eyes of her?
And yes, I had searched her boyfriend's FB-profile. He looked like the kind of guy who eats iron nails for breakfast. The kind of guy you don't want to mess with.
So I wrote a small novel of a text for her, stating how I had my principles and that I'm not going to see a girl behind her boyfriend's back, let alone without him knowing of it.
She answered,
- Oh you got this all wrong here. My boyfriend's cool for me seeing other guys. It's not that strict between me and him you know.
I wasn't taking any risks and remained adamant (no pun intented), texting
- Sorry. Not going to happen.
Maybe she was stuck in a bad relationship. I've seen those happen. But I wasn't going to become her white knight to ride with my horse with shining armor and rescue her.
Nor was I going to become this hook-up guy who's going to hang out with her, and then possibly create a conflict when her guy knows about it, and then the girl's going to be,
- Oh Mark, this guy's nothing. You know we love each other, we are in a relationship and all. It was this guy who's the culprit.
And then I'm going to get beaten up or something and the woman will get her man to get interested in her again, possibly start taking her to parties again. Maybe. If she just would get her man jealous and start seeing her as important again.
These were the things I were seeing, and why I dumped the girl.
This was the story. I'm interested to hear your comments on it.
One more note. I actually checked her profile recently, and she lives in another city now. There's no pictures of her with her boyfriend anymore, and I didn't find her boyfriend's profile anymore from her friend list. Of course, it could be that he has just switched his profile picture and I just can't connect the picture to the person (also can't remember the guys name)
I'm thinking of contacting the girl again, but seeing how I dumped her, maybe that's not the best idea.
What do you think?