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Men challenging your power and control- what would YOU do in these situations?

Ryan

Ryan

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In these situations, what would you do to survive the power struggle between someone who is jealous of you or is just a horrible person?

In order of seriousness:

1. He teases you or is passive-aggressive against you in front of your friends/girlfriend.


2. He verbally abuses (e.g. racist language) you in front of your girlfriend/lover.

3. He verbally abuses your girlfriend/lover in front of you.


4. He threatens you in front of others.

5. He threatens your girlfriend/lover.
 
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metomeya

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Re: Men challenging your power and control- what would YOU do in these situation

Hey Ryan,

I've only been in the first situation. In the past, I've ignored it. But to be honest with you it did leave a bad taste in my mouth. The opposite would be to call him out on it, but then you look crazy or like a loose cannon. Thats exactly they want from you.

I think the best option (no recent opportunity to try it myself) is to acknowledge it while keeping in control of our emotions. You can simply look at them and say, "oh boy." Don't try to be overly sarcastic about it either. And don't escalate/acknowledge it any further. You are trying to take a position above them the same way you would talk down to a child and ignore them when adults are talking.

Luckily, I don't have to put up with such behavior too much.

Anything further down on your list, I would have to question how a person let themselves get in that situation in the first place. Hopefully, anything between 2-4 you can seeing or feel something isn't right and leave before something like that happens. Personally, I would be afraid things could escalate badly.
 
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