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Hey lads,
I hope you are all good. I need your help very badly, since I don't know what to do. I will try to be as detailed as possible so you can understand me, if some parts are unnecessary please bear with since I am only trying to communicate the situation effectively.
So there is this girl, shy excited type, no makeup perfect characteristics, awesome athletic body and conservative clothes. She is with me in engineering class.
One day I randomly was in the row in front of her, drinking some soda or something, and it was shit, so I turned around and said "this soda is so shit, how could someone fuck it up so bad?" And she started giggling and thats when I first noticed her. A bit of chit chat about the lecture and then we didnt really spoke again.
Then the other day I was behind her, working on my laptop, and she turned around and said "it's huge!", and I was like "Thanks" and she started giggling again. So thats when I started noticing her more and more.
This is where I decided to take action.
One day, sitting close to her, noticing her checking me out occasionally,I waited for the lecture to end, then followed her, sprinted a bit, and as soon as I was close slowed down my pace and said "Hey you from engineering!"
She stopped, turned back, and we started walking together .
"What's up?"
"All good you?"
"Good, didn't catch your name the other day, what is it?"
"X"
"CaptainHenley, nice to meet you"
A little talk on our way home on what activities she is doing and how her schedule is like, with me giving a few compliments on her style. Right before my house, I said to her we need to organize something, and she said phone number would be the best choice. We exchanged numbers and were on our way. Later I texted her my name with a "nice meeting you "
Texted a couple of texts concerning our lectures, then asked her about her schedule. She didnt answer for two days. The third day, while in class, I texted her to wait for me at the end because I wanted to talk to her. She did, with her friends. I started talking to her, the friends kind of drifted away.
Talking about some random stuff about the Uni, and then I told her that we need to talk about our date. She said she doesnt have time at all. I said come on, that cant be true. And she kept insisting on it, while I was just saying that you must have some time to spare. Turned to one of her friends and told her "I am trying to take your friend out but she comes up with those silly excuses! Help me out!" And they both started laughing and all. That was on a Friday, two weeks go to be exact. She said we should meet next week, and I countered that by saying thats too late and we need to meet up that Weekend. She said maybe Saturday afternoon, I said "most likely" -"maybe"
"quite likely-"
maybe"
"very likely"
And then I joked "Thats all the English I know dear",At this point I really needed to leave because of other obligations, so I said, See you tommorow and said to her
friend "You are my mate on this one, text her all the time to meet up tommorow, like Captain Henley is a great guy etc etc"
Texted her on Saturday(i have actually a post on that) saying I have time to spare from 3pm and on wards, she replied that she is sick and cant make it, to which I proposed that we do something simple like cooking or just hanging out.She didnt respond.
So Tuesday comes up and I chatted her up in the same manner. Small talked a bit, and then I asked her about her schedule again. Mind you at that time I had a lot of other difficulties, so I felt really weak and needy, fearing rejection and all. She insisted that she has no time at all, and I said come on I will help you find some time. And started saying what about Monday, what do you do, Tuesday then, Wednesday ? etc. Then she was busy at the Weekend aswell. This is obviously awful and I achieved nothing by doing that whatsoever. Right before my house I said "ok wait a minute" She kept walking, I started making slow big steps saying dont make me chase you, which she replied "Please stop I am so tired, I dont want to, I will talk to you another time "( she did say that she had only slept 3 hours the previous night).
I didnt talk to her until this monday, when I texted her in the morning if she is back from her hometown. She said "yes unfortunately", and i replied "why the frown" to which she gave no reply. At the end of the lecture, I stopped her again. I said what's up and all that stuff, and told her that we really need to go out, and that it is going to be great and amazing. She said she didnt know when. I said "Alright, lets forget that, lets just find a day where we can say that we will talk about how to orgianize it all, pinky promise?" She replied " No pinky promise, just promise ", and we said goodbye.
That day was supposed to be Wednesday, but I couldnt find her after the lecture to talk. I called her up, and she said she is sick in bed and left the Uni a bit earlier(she was there before, I just didnt find her at the end)
I said alright see you soon, she said see you later and hung up.
Now English isnt my first language so I thought that by saying see you later she actually meant we would go out later, and I texted her asking her that.
She said "No, I am in bed and wont go out at all"
"Hope you get well soon. How did you get sick anyways?"
"No idea. I pity the people who have to hear my presentation tommorow"
"Play it off as intentional. You wanted to sound clear, sultry and ill-sounding" (The lecturer told us to think about what we wanted to sound like)
A bit of random texting about her presantation.
Then I texted her today if she is staying at one lecture, because I wanted to talk to her. No reply. She actually did stay, I was there aswell.
During the end she passed near me with her friends, without looking at all at me, and I said "Wait wait I need to talk to you" and she said "I am in a hurry " to which I replied "It will only take a second". And she and her friends started running through the corridors(what the fuck).
I didnt run after them obviously, but guessed where they were going and went there through a shortcut. I was actually correct, and I found them.
"What are you doing haha?" I said while she and her friends where walking towards the exit. She was laughing and all ."Quite the cute escape you had there" We were all laughing together. Her friends insisted that she goes a certain way with me and they would leave, and so that happened. We started talking and walking back home again. Some random stuff about school, a compliment on her coat,saying "Are you a captain with that coat? "
"Yes I am"
"A royal one?"
''No"
"So you are a pirate then?
"yup"
Something else I dont remember, and I said we should finally plan our date. She said she didnt want to. I said we dont have to get married or anything, just talk, see if we like each other, and take it from there. She said she knew herself well enough to know that she wont like it, and that she isnt a talkative person. I said now its your chance to talk and have fun. She said no . I said "you can spare a couple of hours"
"No, I am sick and I am dying, I cant and dont want to"
"You are dying?"(by the way at some point she told me she is going running later on the afternoon)
"Yes, all the time"
"Thats what we all do, for the next 70 years!"
she started laughing
"Thats why you need to have good experiences and remember them, life is short!"
"I know what experiences I want, and I dont wanna go out"
So at this point I really didnt know what to do. I was just saying how can you be so sure and she just insisted on saying no.
So I tried to bluff (i guess?) by saying" are you sure? 100% sure? engineering precision sure? Becuase then I will stop texting you, there is refund policy here. "Which she replied yes to all of them and said she didnt want to.
But she was kind of laughing. So I got really confused, and thought I should insist more. Kept saying the same things though. She said now you are being annoying, but still laughing. Said that a couple of times. I kept persisting, commenting on how she is laughing and obviously isnt serious. I asked her a couple of times if she is actually serious. She said yes, and told me to stop being pushy because the answer will always be no. I asked her why she is smiling then? She said I am a happy person.
I replied that I am a happy person aswell, we are walking in the same direction, we have so many things in common(joking manner) and we should give it a try. She said no again, and at that point I had to stop walking with her to go home. I said alright, cheers, see you around, and left.
Now that I am typing it all down, I see some mistakes. If you could point them out that would be great, also if you could show me how to persist in a better way that would also be appreciated.
I really like this girl. I have ben cold approaching, night gaming aswell, and I am doing pretty good for a beginner. But this girl....god, I see that she is a perfect match for me. All of our friends say the same aswell(hers and mine). She is the shy-excited type. We have so many things in common, I can sense it. The way she talks, walks looks etc. Even her clothing choices are in line with my style and taste. But I dont think she realises that. Do you think there is a way of turning this around?
I would be surprised if there was, but I really want it to turn around. Its just such a shame.
Cheers guys, I hope you have a good one.
(EDIT: So on another note, I really like those girls best. Right now have long hair, and kind of a rebel type lets say (not quite, but wearing leather biker jackets boots etc) ...would cutting my hair or appearing a bit more conservative increase my chances? By the way, the haircut I have now suits me, and I do take care of it, and receive a lot f compliments )
I hope you are all good. I need your help very badly, since I don't know what to do. I will try to be as detailed as possible so you can understand me, if some parts are unnecessary please bear with since I am only trying to communicate the situation effectively.
So there is this girl, shy excited type, no makeup perfect characteristics, awesome athletic body and conservative clothes. She is with me in engineering class.
One day I randomly was in the row in front of her, drinking some soda or something, and it was shit, so I turned around and said "this soda is so shit, how could someone fuck it up so bad?" And she started giggling and thats when I first noticed her. A bit of chit chat about the lecture and then we didnt really spoke again.
Then the other day I was behind her, working on my laptop, and she turned around and said "it's huge!", and I was like "Thanks" and she started giggling again. So thats when I started noticing her more and more.
This is where I decided to take action.
One day, sitting close to her, noticing her checking me out occasionally,I waited for the lecture to end, then followed her, sprinted a bit, and as soon as I was close slowed down my pace and said "Hey you from engineering!"
She stopped, turned back, and we started walking together .
"What's up?"
"All good you?"
"Good, didn't catch your name the other day, what is it?"
"X"
"CaptainHenley, nice to meet you"
A little talk on our way home on what activities she is doing and how her schedule is like, with me giving a few compliments on her style. Right before my house, I said to her we need to organize something, and she said phone number would be the best choice. We exchanged numbers and were on our way. Later I texted her my name with a "nice meeting you "
Texted a couple of texts concerning our lectures, then asked her about her schedule. She didnt answer for two days. The third day, while in class, I texted her to wait for me at the end because I wanted to talk to her. She did, with her friends. I started talking to her, the friends kind of drifted away.
Talking about some random stuff about the Uni, and then I told her that we need to talk about our date. She said she doesnt have time at all. I said come on, that cant be true. And she kept insisting on it, while I was just saying that you must have some time to spare. Turned to one of her friends and told her "I am trying to take your friend out but she comes up with those silly excuses! Help me out!" And they both started laughing and all. That was on a Friday, two weeks go to be exact. She said we should meet next week, and I countered that by saying thats too late and we need to meet up that Weekend. She said maybe Saturday afternoon, I said "most likely" -"maybe"
"quite likely-"
maybe"
"very likely"
And then I joked "Thats all the English I know dear",At this point I really needed to leave because of other obligations, so I said, See you tommorow and said to her
friend "You are my mate on this one, text her all the time to meet up tommorow, like Captain Henley is a great guy etc etc"
Texted her on Saturday(i have actually a post on that) saying I have time to spare from 3pm and on wards, she replied that she is sick and cant make it, to which I proposed that we do something simple like cooking or just hanging out.She didnt respond.
So Tuesday comes up and I chatted her up in the same manner. Small talked a bit, and then I asked her about her schedule again. Mind you at that time I had a lot of other difficulties, so I felt really weak and needy, fearing rejection and all. She insisted that she has no time at all, and I said come on I will help you find some time. And started saying what about Monday, what do you do, Tuesday then, Wednesday ? etc. Then she was busy at the Weekend aswell. This is obviously awful and I achieved nothing by doing that whatsoever. Right before my house I said "ok wait a minute" She kept walking, I started making slow big steps saying dont make me chase you, which she replied "Please stop I am so tired, I dont want to, I will talk to you another time "( she did say that she had only slept 3 hours the previous night).
I didnt talk to her until this monday, when I texted her in the morning if she is back from her hometown. She said "yes unfortunately", and i replied "why the frown" to which she gave no reply. At the end of the lecture, I stopped her again. I said what's up and all that stuff, and told her that we really need to go out, and that it is going to be great and amazing. She said she didnt know when. I said "Alright, lets forget that, lets just find a day where we can say that we will talk about how to orgianize it all, pinky promise?" She replied " No pinky promise, just promise ", and we said goodbye.
That day was supposed to be Wednesday, but I couldnt find her after the lecture to talk. I called her up, and she said she is sick in bed and left the Uni a bit earlier(she was there before, I just didnt find her at the end)
I said alright see you soon, she said see you later and hung up.
Now English isnt my first language so I thought that by saying see you later she actually meant we would go out later, and I texted her asking her that.
She said "No, I am in bed and wont go out at all"
"Hope you get well soon. How did you get sick anyways?"
"No idea. I pity the people who have to hear my presentation tommorow"
"Play it off as intentional. You wanted to sound clear, sultry and ill-sounding" (The lecturer told us to think about what we wanted to sound like)
A bit of random texting about her presantation.
Then I texted her today if she is staying at one lecture, because I wanted to talk to her. No reply. She actually did stay, I was there aswell.
During the end she passed near me with her friends, without looking at all at me, and I said "Wait wait I need to talk to you" and she said "I am in a hurry " to which I replied "It will only take a second". And she and her friends started running through the corridors(what the fuck).
I didnt run after them obviously, but guessed where they were going and went there through a shortcut. I was actually correct, and I found them.
"What are you doing haha?" I said while she and her friends where walking towards the exit. She was laughing and all ."Quite the cute escape you had there" We were all laughing together. Her friends insisted that she goes a certain way with me and they would leave, and so that happened. We started talking and walking back home again. Some random stuff about school, a compliment on her coat,saying "Are you a captain with that coat? "
"Yes I am"
"A royal one?"
''No"
"So you are a pirate then?
"yup"
Something else I dont remember, and I said we should finally plan our date. She said she didnt want to. I said we dont have to get married or anything, just talk, see if we like each other, and take it from there. She said she knew herself well enough to know that she wont like it, and that she isnt a talkative person. I said now its your chance to talk and have fun. She said no . I said "you can spare a couple of hours"
"No, I am sick and I am dying, I cant and dont want to"
"You are dying?"(by the way at some point she told me she is going running later on the afternoon)
"Yes, all the time"
"Thats what we all do, for the next 70 years!"
she started laughing
"Thats why you need to have good experiences and remember them, life is short!"
"I know what experiences I want, and I dont wanna go out"
So at this point I really didnt know what to do. I was just saying how can you be so sure and she just insisted on saying no.
So I tried to bluff (i guess?) by saying" are you sure? 100% sure? engineering precision sure? Becuase then I will stop texting you, there is refund policy here. "Which she replied yes to all of them and said she didnt want to.
But she was kind of laughing. So I got really confused, and thought I should insist more. Kept saying the same things though. She said now you are being annoying, but still laughing. Said that a couple of times. I kept persisting, commenting on how she is laughing and obviously isnt serious. I asked her a couple of times if she is actually serious. She said yes, and told me to stop being pushy because the answer will always be no. I asked her why she is smiling then? She said I am a happy person.
I replied that I am a happy person aswell, we are walking in the same direction, we have so many things in common(joking manner) and we should give it a try. She said no again, and at that point I had to stop walking with her to go home. I said alright, cheers, see you around, and left.
Now that I am typing it all down, I see some mistakes. If you could point them out that would be great, also if you could show me how to persist in a better way that would also be appreciated.
I really like this girl. I have ben cold approaching, night gaming aswell, and I am doing pretty good for a beginner. But this girl....god, I see that she is a perfect match for me. All of our friends say the same aswell(hers and mine). She is the shy-excited type. We have so many things in common, I can sense it. The way she talks, walks looks etc. Even her clothing choices are in line with my style and taste. But I dont think she realises that. Do you think there is a way of turning this around?
I would be surprised if there was, but I really want it to turn around. Its just such a shame.
Cheers guys, I hope you have a good one.
(EDIT: So on another note, I really like those girls best. Right now have long hair, and kind of a rebel type lets say (not quite, but wearing leather biker jackets boots etc) ...would cutting my hair or appearing a bit more conservative increase my chances? By the way, the haircut I have now suits me, and I do take care of it, and receive a lot f compliments )
