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I just did my first cold approach. A cute girl sat next to me on the bus, she had her earphones on. I wasn't going to open but later on I noticed a drawing of an anime character in the back of her phone. I tapped the drawing lightly, she took off her earphones off and I asked her if it's that [character's name], she said yes then I told her that the hair color is different, then she said that she liked that better or something. I asked her if she draw that and she said yes, then I asked if she had a IG account where she posts her art. She asked if I mean where she posts her art like she didn't hear me, or maybe she was a bit nervous. I thought about saying "..or your personal one " or something of the sort but I figured it'll be asking too much too soon?
I got her art IG account. I'm not on social media anymore, I just have a IG account that I check once in a blue moon with like 7 followers and no photos. I put a profile picture so that she knows me, and I'm thinking how should I go from here. Questions:
- Her account has +2.5k followers and she sells her art, so I guess she's receiving alot of DMs, how can I differentiate myself?
- How can I transition from "I like your art" to "Let's meet" (I shouldn't show my interest now right? But why else would I want to meet her?).
- We both got off at the same bus stop, she goes to a uni 15 min away from my house by foot. Would meeting her there be a good idea?
I didn't do a cold approach yet on the street because as soon as I see a girl and decide to approach, my mind get flooded with thoughts and I choose not to because I believe that I won't be able to think clearly with all that overthinking and that I'll look nervous. For this one the same thing happened but it was logistically better? (she's sitting next to me), and I just finished listening to an article about the winner effect and I wanted to kick start my winning streak. ( normally I can't talk myself into action logically, so I suspect that it was an emotional decision but I'm still not sure what caused it)
I got her art IG account. I'm not on social media anymore, I just have a IG account that I check once in a blue moon with like 7 followers and no photos. I put a profile picture so that she knows me, and I'm thinking how should I go from here. Questions:
- Her account has +2.5k followers and she sells her art, so I guess she's receiving alot of DMs, how can I differentiate myself?
- How can I transition from "I like your art" to "Let's meet" (I shouldn't show my interest now right? But why else would I want to meet her?).
- We both got off at the same bus stop, she goes to a uni 15 min away from my house by foot. Would meeting her there be a good idea?
I didn't do a cold approach yet on the street because as soon as I see a girl and decide to approach, my mind get flooded with thoughts and I choose not to because I believe that I won't be able to think clearly with all that overthinking and that I'll look nervous. For this one the same thing happened but it was logistically better? (she's sitting next to me), and I just finished listening to an article about the winner effect and I wanted to kick start my winning streak. ( normally I can't talk myself into action logically, so I suspect that it was an emotional decision but I'm still not sure what caused it)