I was biking home today after class, around 2:30pm, and I noticed a few decent-looking girls out and about, which got me thinking about how I want to get more practice with more girls - right now there’s just the one girl from volleyball and it’s frustrating because it’s like all my eggs are in one basket. I also realized that I had never asked a girl if she was single before.
So anyway, I was getting to the end of the downtown area and I decided to turn around, lock up my bike, and walk up the street to practice cold approach. Right as soon as I finished locking my bike, this girl walked by me and slowed right down, looking at her phone. I thought it might be an approach invitation but didn’t talk to her.
I started walking down the street, noticed another attractive girl walking in my direction, and let her walk by me. I thought “I wonder how many cute girls I’m gonna pass up on before I ask them ‘Are you single’ or say anything at all”. I started counting. I set a limit at 10, so that if I let 9 go by then I would be forced to approach the next girl I saw. I would only count girls that were by themselves and that were attractive. (Also if they were pushing a stroller, that didn’t count either.)
Number 10 came and went, and I still hadn’t opened my mouth. Then number 15 came along. I said “Excuse me,” but she had headphones on and assumed I had said hi, smiled and didn’t stop walking. I chuckled to myself and kept going.
Now I was walking on a long stretch of sidewalk, with a park beside it, so you could see people coming from far away. I noticed a girl by herself about 40 m in front of me, walking towards me. I thought “OK, I’ll ask her if she’s single”. But I chickened out.
After number 16, I lost count. I got some shawarma and walked back down the street, but I didn’t approach anymore. There was a cute girl with pretty good fashion walking the same way on the other side of the street, but she was on the other side of the street so I couldn’t approach her (excuses, excuses). Then I noticed a girl, and her sister? who was pushing a stroller, behind me, and the girl without the stroller was really pretty, but I didn’t approach her. By now, rush hour was starting up, it was getting darker, and my mood wasn’t as good as it was when I got off my bike an hour before, and I went home.
I consider the one interaction where I opened my mouth to be a victory and something to build on. I’ll try to do this again soon and hopefully I'll actually approach girls more.
So anyway, I was getting to the end of the downtown area and I decided to turn around, lock up my bike, and walk up the street to practice cold approach. Right as soon as I finished locking my bike, this girl walked by me and slowed right down, looking at her phone. I thought it might be an approach invitation but didn’t talk to her.
I started walking down the street, noticed another attractive girl walking in my direction, and let her walk by me. I thought “I wonder how many cute girls I’m gonna pass up on before I ask them ‘Are you single’ or say anything at all”. I started counting. I set a limit at 10, so that if I let 9 go by then I would be forced to approach the next girl I saw. I would only count girls that were by themselves and that were attractive. (Also if they were pushing a stroller, that didn’t count either.)
Number 10 came and went, and I still hadn’t opened my mouth. Then number 15 came along. I said “Excuse me,” but she had headphones on and assumed I had said hi, smiled and didn’t stop walking. I chuckled to myself and kept going.
Now I was walking on a long stretch of sidewalk, with a park beside it, so you could see people coming from far away. I noticed a girl by herself about 40 m in front of me, walking towards me. I thought “OK, I’ll ask her if she’s single”. But I chickened out.
After number 16, I lost count. I got some shawarma and walked back down the street, but I didn’t approach anymore. There was a cute girl with pretty good fashion walking the same way on the other side of the street, but she was on the other side of the street so I couldn’t approach her (excuses, excuses). Then I noticed a girl, and her sister? who was pushing a stroller, behind me, and the girl without the stroller was really pretty, but I didn’t approach her. By now, rush hour was starting up, it was getting darker, and my mood wasn’t as good as it was when I got off my bike an hour before, and I went home.
I consider the one interaction where I opened my mouth to be a victory and something to build on. I’ll try to do this again soon and hopefully I'll actually approach girls more.
