Happened a few hours ago
Little me on a Buddhist retreat goes upstairs into our lovely tearoom-lounge, great social context, everyone is freely approachable.
Little me spots a lovely MILF sitting with a free armchair next to her, casually sit down, introductions, etc. We start a casual chatter about Buddhism, which I quickly turn onto her personality, non-violent nature. Turns out she's an academic (!), and recently got divorced.(Me making some mistakes in the conversation, but not too bad.)After a while we start a REALLY good conversation about male-female and relationship dynamics, and surprisingly, she equals my view about equality not being the same as identical. I go a bit deeper into her love life of the past, and something l pull off:
She:I just can't meet a single capable man
Me: Miss, I'm deeply offended!
She: (laughter) I mean in the ideal age.
By this point I was still considering making a move on her, she's not THAT hot, but still...hot enough
.
So I ask her age, guessing she must be about 33-34 (love that). Turns out, she's bloody 42!
I'm 21.
The game was on.
I start being more and more direct
She: I haven't had a single date since we were separated (18 months)
Me: Do you want to grab a tea?
She: (I think she started to sense that I wasn't just being polite)
So we carry on our conversation about relationships and her needs (she wants a committed man, but no kids). I ask about casual, she says it never worked out for her, but she tried! I suggest she may have been with the wrong man. She says it worths a thought. Somehow, we got into a point where she complains about nobody approaching her. At that point, I say nothing but wave my hand. She says: Wow, you are quick! (and blushes massively)
Than I go flat out direct, telling her that I'm not interested in any sort of commitment. She says that that's what she's looking for. I reason, that that's not something I would give her, but I can give her care. She does a horrible job trying to hide her attraction. Her face was red like a beetroot.
I try to move her into a private space (we had people around us), she resists.
At one point:
Me: Look, I can't give you a relationship. So I can either walk away and sit with someone else, or we can keep talking.
She: ...I'm quite happy talking to you.
I start complimenting her:
She: I bet you would have said that to any woman you would be sitting next to.
Me: Why do you think I sat here?
EDIT: This line was also good:
She: Tell me, in an ideal world, what would you want to happen.
Me: Whisper in her ears: Well, we get out of here to somewhere more private, we make out, get intimate, and have sex. Sounds good?
She's massively contested with herself. We still don't go anywhere.
Later, it turns dinnertime (we've been flirting for about half an hour, and chatting for another half both could be more)
Dinner with more people around us, I'm touching her under the table. She tries to refuse, but eventually gives in. (However, I think she haven't liked that).
Later, finally, I get us private. She says we can't be doing this on retreat, and that's not what she came for (quite a strong argument). She's only been divorced, and tries to get together. I reason that that's what I could help with. I basically tear her arguments apart. She admits that she finds my attractive, and my offer is tempting (THAT'S THE FIRST TIME ANYONE EVER SAID THAT, MASSIVE THANKS GIRLSCHASE!). I try to go for a kiss, but she resists. She makes a few steps towards the door, and I play safe: Okay, I see that's not what you want right now. It's just the retreat, is it? Well, in that case, can I just grab your phone number? Your town isn't that far away from here...
She agrees that it isn't, and that I can have her number later.
Later, we say goodbye, and walk our separate ways.
In my head: Tick-tock-tick-tock.
How do I keep things going? I don't want to loose her, but we have 10 days between me meeting her today, and meeting her than.
She leaves in 4 days. I must keep the iron hot somehow.
HELP!!!
Little me on a Buddhist retreat goes upstairs into our lovely tearoom-lounge, great social context, everyone is freely approachable.
Little me spots a lovely MILF sitting with a free armchair next to her, casually sit down, introductions, etc. We start a casual chatter about Buddhism, which I quickly turn onto her personality, non-violent nature. Turns out she's an academic (!), and recently got divorced.(Me making some mistakes in the conversation, but not too bad.)After a while we start a REALLY good conversation about male-female and relationship dynamics, and surprisingly, she equals my view about equality not being the same as identical. I go a bit deeper into her love life of the past, and something l pull off:
She:I just can't meet a single capable man
Me: Miss, I'm deeply offended!
She: (laughter) I mean in the ideal age.
By this point I was still considering making a move on her, she's not THAT hot, but still...hot enough
.So I ask her age, guessing she must be about 33-34 (love that). Turns out, she's bloody 42!
I'm 21.
The game was on.
I start being more and more direct
She: I haven't had a single date since we were separated (18 months)
Me: Do you want to grab a tea?
She: (I think she started to sense that I wasn't just being polite)
So we carry on our conversation about relationships and her needs (she wants a committed man, but no kids). I ask about casual, she says it never worked out for her, but she tried! I suggest she may have been with the wrong man. She says it worths a thought. Somehow, we got into a point where she complains about nobody approaching her. At that point, I say nothing but wave my hand. She says: Wow, you are quick! (and blushes massively)
Than I go flat out direct, telling her that I'm not interested in any sort of commitment. She says that that's what she's looking for. I reason, that that's not something I would give her, but I can give her care. She does a horrible job trying to hide her attraction. Her face was red like a beetroot.
I try to move her into a private space (we had people around us), she resists.
At one point:
Me: Look, I can't give you a relationship. So I can either walk away and sit with someone else, or we can keep talking.
She: ...I'm quite happy talking to you.
I start complimenting her:
She: I bet you would have said that to any woman you would be sitting next to.
Me: Why do you think I sat here?
EDIT: This line was also good:
She: Tell me, in an ideal world, what would you want to happen.
Me: Whisper in her ears: Well, we get out of here to somewhere more private, we make out, get intimate, and have sex. Sounds good?
She's massively contested with herself. We still don't go anywhere.
Later, it turns dinnertime (we've been flirting for about half an hour, and chatting for another half both could be more)
Dinner with more people around us, I'm touching her under the table. She tries to refuse, but eventually gives in. (However, I think she haven't liked that).
Later, finally, I get us private. She says we can't be doing this on retreat, and that's not what she came for (quite a strong argument). She's only been divorced, and tries to get together. I reason that that's what I could help with. I basically tear her arguments apart. She admits that she finds my attractive, and my offer is tempting (THAT'S THE FIRST TIME ANYONE EVER SAID THAT, MASSIVE THANKS GIRLSCHASE!). I try to go for a kiss, but she resists. She makes a few steps towards the door, and I play safe: Okay, I see that's not what you want right now. It's just the retreat, is it? Well, in that case, can I just grab your phone number? Your town isn't that far away from here...
She agrees that it isn't, and that I can have her number later.
Later, we say goodbye, and walk our separate ways.
In my head: Tick-tock-tick-tock.
How do I keep things going? I don't want to loose her, but we have 10 days between me meeting her today, and meeting her than.
She leaves in 4 days. I must keep the iron hot somehow.
HELP!!!
