Mind Your Eyes 👁️👁️

[mist]

I was experiencing some tough momentum (self imposed) and started rationalizing really hard on nonsensical things.

Quite vividly I remember many times looking at men with dreads or who were tall and going "he has it easier just because of that"

this is confirmation bias and victim mentality. You must pay attention to the things your brain repeatedly calls attention to.

Don't let a negative loop blind you to the fact that it can only take one good thing to flip that whole thing.

Dreadheads and tall niggas aint the cockblocks holding the pussy away...you are

 

[Spyce D]

this is confirmation bias and victim mentality. You must play attention to the things your brain repeatedly calls attention to.

Yeah .

This really happens .

It's like taking zero responsibility for our results and blaming it on the world , other guys ( who may not even get laid even if they are tall or whatever)

The only way to remove it IME is channeling our aggression towards right direction .

 

[mist]

The only way to remove it IME is channeling our aggression towards right direction .

yup

reticular activation system

learn about this and use you body to influence the mind.

 

[Spyce D]

yup

reticular activation system

learn about this and use you body to influence the mind.

I had no idea about such term .

Is it like meditation or something ?

Cuz I am on a digital detox ...so don't really search anything these days .

Actually , my digital detox + Nofap helped me to channelize my energy towards the world .... Rather than using porn , internet .

Don't know if you can relate to that .

Anyways, going back to your topic .

I remember when I used to think that handsome guys can't get laid ( don't ask me how I got this mindset ) , so I purposely focused on looking ugly .

Even used to cut my own hair , basically staying bald to avoid looking good .

I am glad I am years past those days .

Victim mentality is really scary .

 

[mist]

I had no idea about such term .

Is it like meditation or something ?

Cuz I am on a digital detox ...so don't really search anything these days .

Actually , my digital detox + Nofap helped me to channelize my energy towards the world .... Rather than using porn , internet .

Don't know if you can relate to that .

Anyways, going back to your topic .

I remember when I used to think that handsome guys can't get laid ( don't ask me how I got this mindset ) , so I purposely focused on looking ugly .

Even used to cut my own hair , basically staying bald to avoid looking good .

I am glad I am years past those days .

Victim mentality is really scary .

it happens I just had to snap myself outta a dumb one too.

"women think I'm too cool and reject me"

lmao

Your mind and body are one

Consciousness flows throughout not just your brain, but one of the most directly connected parts is the window to the soul

Neuroscience shit but also important to just anyone

look up reticular activation system and confirmation bias or just study how your eyes influence your worldview period and you'll never be the same.

Any tension, belief, sensation is not merely experienced in one spot.

Consciousness is whole.

A good picture is the sensory representation of a homunculus, chakras talk about it, and behavioral psychology.

This aint new shit.

Mind body relationship

 

[Spyce D]

it happens I just had to snap myself outta a dumb one too.

"women think I'm too cool and reject me"

lmao

Your mind and body are one

Consciousness flows throughout not just your brain, but one of the most directly connected parts is the window to the soul

Neuroscience shit but also important to just anyone

look up reticular activation system and confirmation bias or just study how your eyes influence your worldview period and you'll never be the same.

Any tension, belief, sensation is not merely experienced in one spot.

Consciousness is whole.

A good picture is the sensory representation of a homunculus, chakras talk about it, and behavioral psychology.

This aint new shit.

Mind body relationship

Very interesting .

Yeah , it's not new shit .

I may learn it from a local temple . Cuz chakras .

I will tell one anecdotal experience of mine .

Due to my own experience in Daygame years ago and seeing my wings game .

I was telling another pua 3 days ago about my observation that asian looking chicks are attracted to indian guys ( I am talking in indian context , not in western one )

And guess what I just recently saw 4 couples like this yesterday only .

Maybe it was a cognitive bias .

 

[mist]

Yeah , it's not new shit .

I may learn it from a local temple . Cuz chakras .

It's a very worthwhile study.

I will tell one anecdotal experience of mine .

Due to my own experience in Daygame years ago and seeing my wings game .

I was telling another pua 3 days ago about my observation that asian looking chicks are attracted to indian guys ( I am talking in indian context , not in western one )

And guess what I just recently saw 4 couples like this yesterday only .

Maybe it was a cognitive bias .

Two things pop out to me

1. Noticing patterns in your environment is not bad and can be great feedback, but if you must actually be vigilant in testing what you notice repeatedly and question why this pops for you if your results/position in life isn't what you'd like.Try asking these asian and Indian couples how they met...could find that they are all widely different people or maybe you've tapped into a circle in your city that exists. "We met in Zumba/college/online" vs "he approached me in a club" vs "I asked a friend to introduce us." never know maybe your pattern is good intel on a hobby you could be doing to meet more of those chicks. Be curious about patterns rather than defeatist

2. On a small scale picture I'll paint why this is worthwhile to know and monitor

In SMMA Gun talks about getting comfortable projecting and looking at women sexually and recently Chase made a very concise thread on blindspots that can occur when a newbie or rusty as hell.

Sexually inexperienced men need time and exposure to receptive women to learn to sense and respond to receptive women's signals

Last week I posted an article on how surprised I was when I first started coaching at men's relative inability to recognize female signals: https://www.girlschase.com/article/girls-signs-interest-why-cant-most-men-see-them I'm doing some work on my romantic attraction book and just came across...

www.skilledseducer.com

In my experience literally Saturday I looked at a woman she was beautiful and very elegant and in that instant I stop registering her or any of her signals.

Just wiped. I instead decided to pursue this flippant girl with a thong poking out her dress.

Well by happenstance I end up at the same table as elegant woman and I have zero plans to open or interact with her Mystery would say something along of evolutionary pop science that I "deemed myself sexually unworthy and left her for a fitter mate"

Despite that I out of habit threw intrigue bait in the air of a convo she was listening into

She lights up and what once was partially a group convo is now a one on one with miss elegant.

I never got over the glaze in my eyes despite her many signals and even taking my plausibly deniable bait. She was signaling the whole time she wanted to meet someone too.

If you are not mindful of your eyes and beliefs then women signaling you will literally not even register and you'll be unintuitive to the many opportunities and cuties motioning for you.

It literally won't even register to you.

Mind your eyes for they are the window to your soul.

If they are closed off or fixed on things inefficient, unproductive, and or distracting then how can you expect different results

I guess the irony is if your eyes are engaged in inefficient, unproductive, distracting things that is your soul

you reveal a lack of desire to change

confirmation bias is protection

fuck that

mind your eyes

 

[Spyce D]

I can definitely use this RAS in game .

 

[mist]

I can definitely use this RAS in game .

quick shotgun tips to retrain your eyes

1. develop periphery perception and awareness

2. don't look away if women look at you or catxh you looking. it's not an accident.

3. Be able to look at or visualize women and get hard.

4. Slow down how quickly you move your eyes/head when something outside your direct field of view wants your eye contact protip get your eyes to the direction before your head.

5. start being mindful of positioning and eye contact/focus. both powerful for women in set and your general social moves.

tap into this nonverbal power. What are your eyes telling you and what could they tell you

years ago i walked like a loser and I started to do it again 2020 until I realized looking at the ground was one of the main contributing facts...i cut it out and started always looking up and maintaining eye contact even when I felt tense and weak

people say i walk like a king and very important man. this took time but it started with where I was looking and how it shaped my worldview.

my body and actions changed before my mind

 

[Spyce D]

1. develop periphery perception and awareness

I am already working on it.

2. don't look away if women look at you or catxh you looking. it's not an accident.

Bro , I get shy/scared .

So , if she looks at me (we make an eye contact) , Should I smile a bit .

Remember doing it to a chubby chick 4 years ago , she smiled back . But , I got really scared and broke the eye contact .

Actually , I want to learn opening with a smile / eye contact ....without saying a word .

I don't wanna stare her soul out .

3. Be able to look at or visualize women and get hard.

+1

already working on it .

4. Slow down how quickly you move your eyes/head when something outside your direct field of view wants your eye contact protip get your eyes to the direction before your head.

Yeah .

Deliberate movements .

5. start being mindful of positioning and eye contact/focus. both powerful for women in set and your general social moves.

Already learning this infield .

Even working on my eye roll . lol

tap into this nonverbal power. What are your eyes telling you and what could they tell you

years ago i walked like a loser and I started to do it again 2020 until I realized looking at the ground was one of the main contributing facts...i cut it out and started always looking up and maintaining eye contact even when I felt tense and weak

people say i walk like a king and very important man. this took time but it started with where I was looking and how it shaped my worldview.

my body and actions changed before my mind

That's awesome , man .

Hope , we improve ourselves even further .

 

[mist]

Bro , I get shy/scared .

So , if she looks at me (we make an eye contact) , Should I smile a bit .

Remember doing it to a chubby chick 4 years ago , she smiled back . But , I got really scared and broke the eye contact .

Actually , I want to learn opening with a smile / eye contact .

I don't wanna stare her soul out .

sometimes i'll nod, sometimes i'll smile, sometimes i may wave, fair amount i eventually approach, but principally

don't look down if you feel you're about to strike out...it's kneejerk i know so more tied to your cognitive behavioral relationship...which plays into your nervous system and brain chems yada yada causing your brain/body to crack

Don't crack. Purposely train your eyes to seek eye contact and truly connect even if ignored, you creep, or it's overaggressive.

Depending on your issue train that

I am becoming over aggressive so I'm training my eyes to glaze and or look off into the distance...result

extra aggressive women behavior to get in my field of view and sometimes stand exactly where I am staring, opens that seem less predator prey and get more of a dance partner seduction dynamic, ability to nonverbally communicate loss of interest & up scarcity when a chick does something uncalibrated, weird, and or bratty

I have braces until august 1st and as a joke I told my orthodontist to turn mine pink...they look horendous but in it's place I smirk and remain a more stoic demeanor on my face...this vacuum gives her room to chase and invest which you'd be surprised how many women will do this

RAS is topnotch nonverbal shiz. I could write about it for days and the many influential, telling, engrossing things your eyes can shift not only the external world but the internal world in both yourself and the people/women you allow into your life

peace

 

[Kaida]

This is awesome @mist, I cant believe I havent heard of this before.

years ago i walked like a loser and I started to do it again 2020 until I realized looking at the ground was one of the main contributing facts...i cut it out and started always looking up and maintaining eye contact even when I felt tense and weak

This. Just a few months ago I started cutting this out more and more and I can already see much more positive reactions. I didnt know it was RAS tho

people say i walk like a king and very important man. this took time but it started with where I was looking and how it shaped my worldview.

my body and actions changed before my mind

Where can I dig deep and read more about this bro? I want to fully understand it

 

[mist]

Where can I dig deep and read more about this bro? I want to fully understand it

Eyes have always been deeply fascinating to me personally.

From existential to miniscule facts I find them incredibly intruiguing as well as the mind.

this is all to say I did not write this post in mind with a comprehensive idea of bringing others up to speed...sorta was preaching to the choir of people who have really tapped into

RAS related topics such as

signals, marketplace value, belief formation and execution, mind body relationship, sensory illusions, state management, CBT, etc etc

with an eye in mind for how their eyes influenced things

since I know this maybe either I will someday or another wiser in the ways of teacher will pick this up

I'm unprepared to give tons of info in a concise manner as you can tell. I'll sound like a knockoff brand of glow so

To any curious further on my thoughts or possible directions to start forming your own shoot me a DM.

This will help me and you

Spoiler: inspos

(off the top chase, gun, bacchus come to mind but don't think this has ever been a singular post. just something I've payed attention to regarding game and outside of it.)

 

[Teevster]

I was experiencing some tough momentum (self imposed) and started rationalizing really hard on nonsensical things.

Quite vividly I remember many times looking at men with dreads or who were tall and going "he has it easier just because of that"

this is confirmation bias and victim mentality. You must pay attention to the things your brain repeatedly calls attention to.

Don't let a negative loop blind you to the fact that it can only take one good thing to flip that whole thing.

Dreadheads and tall niggas aint the cockblocks holding the pussy away...you are

This is not unusual. Good observation. I also experience SOME of this when I experience low momentum: "women only want black guys (I do head to a club with tons of cool good looking black dudes, and where the social frame is that women there like them, yet I am still the guy who pulled the most from that place), guys who offer them coke, guys with tables" and so on. Gladly, I usually manage to put myself together and tell the devil inside to SHUT THE FUCK UP.

Never epxerienced any of this outside low momentum.

Short but important post.
Kudos.

-Teevster

 

[Swati]

This is not unusual. Good observation. I also experience SOME of this when I experience low momentum: "women only want black guys (I do head to a club with tons of cool good looking black dudes, and where the social frame is that women there like them, yet I am still the guy who pulled the most from that place), guys who offer them coke, guys with tables" and so on. Gladly, I usually manage to put myself together and tell the devil inside to SHUT THE FUCK UP.

Never epxerienced any of this outside low momentum.

Short but important post.
Kudos.

-Teevster

Interesting, but I think that you underrate yourself if that's the case. you are one of the handful of COOL dudes I see, and you are pointing out mismatches


In my low momentum, is not wanting to approach, not hitting approach invitations or fumbling my openers/weak hookings, cause of lack of energy. less so for my physical attributes. Currently experiencing right now, also with weird social frame too so losing all my tools, like batman LOL

 

[Teevster]

Interesting, but I think that you underrate yourself if that's the case. you are one of the handful of COOL dudes I see, and you are pointing out mismatches

Intrerestingly, I only started thinking those things as a result of reading all the recent bitching of guys on forums and elsewhere on the internet. First time I though of my height (I am not tall at all) was in 2018 - 11 years after I started out with pick up. I had already pulled tons and never though of my height, but constantly reading all the bitching did affect me on an unconscious level. Ironic right?

In my low momentum, is not wanting to approach, not hitting approach invitations or fumbling my openers/weak hookings, cause of lack of energy. less so for my physical attributes. Currently experiencing right now, also with weird social frame too so losing all my tools, like batroom LOL

Oh yea, always been the case. Very true.

-Teevster

 

[Swati]

Intrerestingly, I only started thinking those things as a result of reading all the recent bitching of guys on forums and elsewhere on the internet. First time I though of my height (I am not tall at all) was in 2018 - 11 years after I started out with pick up. I had already pulled tons and never though of my height, but constantly reading all the bitching did affect me on an unconscious level. Ironic right?



Oh yea, always been the case. Very true.

-Teevster

red pill/LMS/ incels most of them are aspies, like the weirdo liberal/lgbqtq fem dudes who are unwell in the head... I just got off a discussion with one of my friends about this... they have this obsessive nature about them which is why these types of topics, tend to put it into a metric-based reading. completely ignoring the social aspect which is HARD for them to understand/develop, so they become super dogmatic about topics like these, cope cope

more of a reason to just ignore all the material they pump all together

 

[RedNeck]

In addition to what Swati said, it is just easier to comprehend physical evidences than the social, non-physical evidence.

1- You see a tall guy holding hand-to-hand with a hot chick. He is tall and she is hot, then, being tall is the key to success. It is just easier to make this connection because both pieces of evidence are physical and in front of you.

2- You see a short dude with a hot chick. Most people would assume he just got lucky or he has money. They have to deal with him to see his charisma / game.

 

[Police dog]

being tall is the key to success

That’s actually not far from truth, lol. I am always one of the tallest people around wherever I go and I cannot imagine what would I do if I was like 5’9 or something… but overall yes, you are totally correct, we must not let our brains fool us, this only leads to negative results and servers nothing good.

 

[Police dog]

years ago i walked like a loser and I started to do it again 2020 until I realized looking at the ground was one of the main contributing facts...i cut it out and started always looking up and maintaining eye contact even when I felt tense and weak

people say i walk like a king and very important man. this took time but it started with where I was looking and how it shaped my worldview.

my body and actions changed before my mind

I remember when I was 18 I found similar advice and started implementing it, besides walking I was intentionally holding eye contact with everyone I passed by for as long as I could. Was very difficult at first but helped a lot down the road.