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JRob

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Okay this is kind of a compound question. I'll start with the question and then backtrack to the story. 1) What the hell do I do when I'm out on a date, and another girl that I'm into calls? 2) If you're dating a girl that's kinda open minded but from a religious background, how aggressive can you be? On to the report

So I was on my 2nd date a woman, K2, and it was basically the beginning of the date. The 1st date went well but was brief since she had work (axe throwing, banter, live band, and positive touching actually from her). So while waiting for the event to start we explored a shop in mid city when all of a sudden K1 calls in the car. I hang up a say oh I'll catch that later. We go to the shop, get some items, banter a bit about the item, and go to the event. While at the event we have some good conversation and deep dive, turn sexual, and then back to regular convo again (she kinda indicated that she didn't want to stay on it so I redirected). She did seem like she wanted me to ask more about her background though. So I did get into that a bit. Later we took a walk and went back to my place. We watched a movie, a little more convo, a lot more touching, I ask her to stay over she said yes, if I grab something from the car. Then when I got back she was talking about being sleepy and when I tried to set the mood with candles and music she was like she needed to get back to her place. So I guess I've got two things to fix. Damage control on K1 and put things back on track with K2. Ideas gentlemen?
 
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For K1- "I was out with friends". If she asks "girls?" say "yeah Guys too. Any way What's up?" and goon with your life. You arent going to interrupt your interactions with people face to face for someone on the phone. End of story.

K2 - Don't ask a woman to spend the night until she has caused you to ejaculate. Work on creating the sexual excitement . My guess is K2 is going to ghost you.
 

JRob

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Okay this is kind of a compound question. I'll start with the question and then backtrack to the story. 1) What the hell do I do when I'm out on a date, and another girl that I'm into calls? 2) If you're dating a girl that's kinda open minded but from a religious background, how aggressive can you be? On to the report

So I was on my 2nd date a woman, K2, and it was basically the beginning of the date. The 1st date went well but was brief since she had work (axe throwing, banter, live band, and positive touching actually from her). So while waiting for the event to start we explored a shop in mid city when all of a sudden K1 calls in the car. I hang up a say oh I'll catch that later. We go to the shop, get some items, banter a bit about the item, and go to the event. While at the event we have some good conversation and deep dive, turn sexual, and then back to regular convo again (she kinda indicated that she didn't want to stay on it so I redirected). She did seem like she wanted me to ask more about her background though. So I did get into that a bit. Later we took a walk and went back to my place. We watched a movie, a little more convo, a lot more touching, I ask her to stay over she said yes, if I grab something from the car. Then when I got back she was talking about being sleepy and when I tried to set the mood with candles and music she was like she needed to get back to her place. So I guess I've got two things to fix. Damage control on K1 and put things back on track with K2. Ideas gentlemen?
Okay, so I have an update. K2 actually asked me out for a 3rd date. We were supposed to chill at the pool in my apartment. Unfortunately, by the time she got there it started raining. So we went inside to watch a movie. We were pretty much cuddling during the movie, but things pretty much escalated close to the end of movie. I can't really take credit for this. It was mostly her advancing the position. We talked a lot. A lot of deep dive and mirroring but I can't be positive about what I got right. Maybe the talking happened after the 1st time in the couch. 2nd time was on the bed. I'm hoping I get a 3rd, because I didn't get to do everything that I do. Also, I really like her. It's good conversations. I still don't know how to work time management with 2 people to go out with though. FYI, I'm looking for LTR
 

JRob

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For K1- "I was out with friends". If she asks "girls?" say "yeah Guys too. Any way What's up?" and goon with your life. You arent going to interrupt your interactions with people face to face for someone on the phone. End of story.

K2 - Don't ask a woman to spend the night until she has caused you to ejaculate. Work on creating the sexual excitement . My guess is K2 is going to ghost you.
Well, I hope not, but K1 might. She called saying she was coming over to my place, then changed her mind at the last minute and wanted to go for a ride. These mixed signals have me confused as hell man
 
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