Date Report - Rhonda
Girl from Apps
I reviewed GirlsChase articles all day yesterday between chores and errands, thinking about how I would do this date differently than I did the last one. I wanted to focus on being calm, less spastic, less 'excitable', and I wanted to try a bit of 'Deep Diving' -- not only because it's part of the GC mindset but because I'm an adherent of Jordan Peterson's '12 Rules for Life', one of which is "Assume the Person You're Talking to Knows Things You Don't."
My primary takeaway from Chase's articles was that it was my job on the date to make a girl feel comfortable, calm, and well-understood. Given that she would not feel comfortable expressing her sexuality until that happened, I made it my primary focus not to 'attract her' or to 'game her'. But just to get her comfortable and, I suppose, let my fundamentals do the talking.
I met this girl at a bar about 40 minutes from my house, and 5 minutes from hers. Once again, I thought my internet date was prettier than her pics. She was ok in pics, but in person she was a petite brunette with big eyes and a nice body.
We sat at the bar, I ordered a Jack and Coke and asked her what she wanted while tossing a 20 on the counter. I wonder now if the simplified, nonchalant act of tossing cash on the counter helped me take the lead and moved things along, in that the girl no longer had to tire herself with 'Do I pay? Does he pay? Is he poor?'' etc. On my previous date I made zero effort to pay for the girl at the first place, she just took out her wallet herself.
Well we talked for an hour, and I legitimately found her interesting, and the feeling was mutual. Once again our legs were touching underneath the bar.
After bitching out on making a move last time, I set an alarm on my phone--it would ring an hour into the date and that was when I had to try to kiss her. When it did go off she laughed and was like, "Why the fuck do you have an alarm going off at 9PM? That your bedtime?"
I waited about ten minutes until after the make-a-move alarm before deciding to go for it. She was rambling away about work, and meanwhile my dumb heart was pounding and I was getting flushed with stress. I chewed up some ice from my drink. Then I faced her, put my hand on her neck, and dragged her in for a kiss. She was into it, but nervous about the other people at the bar watching. We talked, held hands, and kissed for awhile at the bar. She was not too excited about kissing in front of other people; come to think of it, we were probably making a scene. So I told her we should go sit at a booth for some privacy.
We moved to a booth; she tried to sit across from me, I made her sit next to me. We spent the next hour in the bar alternating making out, talking, joking, holding hands. She had to leave because she had work the next day and I offered to walk her to her car. As soon as she go to her door I told her, 'wait, meet me in the backseat, just for a few minutes'.
We were back there kissing, cuddling, and petting each other for about a half hour. I pulled her hair, choked her, rubbed her ass, rubbed her crotch over her jeans. I really enjoyed choking that nice lady.
It was getting late, so I let her go.
I got to my car and checked my texts; another girl -- "Eliza" -- had hit me up, texting that she had alcohol. I began driving over to her city thinking, 'Oh shit, am I going to kiss two girls the same night, and maybe bone one?'
Just as my pride was swelling over the piece of shit I was becoming, she texted again to say she was almost asleep, let's hang another time. So instead I went to a burger place and ate up, then went home.
Positive Takeaways
-I was more aggressive than the last date. Made the move from platonically chatting away, to making out at the bar.
-I was more persistent than the last date. When dropping her off at her car, I made her meet me in the backseat for more time alone.
-I was calmer this time. Wasn't spastically laughing my head off at her jokes and being an overexcited twat, stoked to for once be on a date.
-I was kindof getting gnawed at about the girl from Wednesday's date, which went poorly. But after this one I immediately forgot about her.
Other Takeaways
-In the future I'd like to work more on my calmness, aggressiveness, and my ability to lead on dates. This is what made this date awesome.
The fundamentals pulled her in, not game. She was rubbing my arms and chest the whole night---all the drop sets paid off. She said she was turned on by my tattoos, my buff-ass arms, my body. It took several months of hard work at the gym to get to the good level of muscularity I've got going right now. The tattoos I was born with.
Other prospects
A few more from the apps. Working on scheduling them for this week.
