Mixed Signals?

[Talmadge]

Hey guys! I have been flirting with this chick and finally snatched her number. She's always in a great mood when she sees me and is always receptive to flirting with me. So naturally, I waited about 2 or 3 days before I texted her. I followed Chase's texting technique down to the letter, and kept things short and to the point. When I inquired about a date and asked if her weekend was free, she said no and apologized. This didn't bother me and I just told her something like "Alright, maybe another time". Here is where things get slightly strange.

Before I dive into that part, maybe you should know a bit about me. I discovered GC about two years back, and it changed my life. I had been chasing a girl for a little less than three years from high school. Anyways, between the transition to high school to college I found the site. Since then, I improved my game constantly and worked on my fundamentals, body language, social status, and mindset. I'm exercising and constantly being complimented on how I dress. So it's fair to say girls flirt with me.

Now let me get back to this girl. So, I'm talking to a group of friends the next day and having a good time in general, when I see her walk up. She walks up to where I'm sitting and says "Hi Tal" in a real sexy way and starts to run her fingers through my hair. I knew how to be cool about the situation and just had the shit-eating grin that said "I'm used to this and it's great". Anyways, she walks away and for the rest of the week remains flirty.

So I sent her another text and asked if here weekend was free and she said no and apologized like last time. I'm temporarily disappointed and send back a two word reply saying no problem, but without the promise of a next time. To my amusement, she texts back, saying sorry again, like she's trying to emphasize it. This really confused me and I sent back another two worded text saying no sweat.

She's not a flirt, so I know that's not the case. Any insight, suggestions,questions, or advanced technique tips would be strongly appreciated. Thanks for reading!

 

[fsc]

She's not a flirt

How do you know for sure?

When a girl flirts with me, I take it as a strong sign that she sees herself as above me and/or she is socially experienced, which is why she feels comfortable enough to flirt and shit with me.

Try thinking in her shoes. How easy is it for you to flirt and dick around with girls you're not interested in? How easy is it for you to flirt and dick around with attractive girls you are interested in?

If she was interested in you, she would prolly try to engage you in a conversation that goes beyond surface-level banter and flirting. She'll prolly be too cautious to talk to you in a sexy voice and touch your hair in fear of appearing too needy or slutty and being judged by you (because if she was really interested in you, she would be at least somewhat worried about not screwing up). It's nice of her to reject you and apologize, but if she was really interested in you, she would try to reschedule or suggest another time.

 

[Talmadge]

Perfect insight and I greatly appreciate it. This is something I have not considered and is really valuable advice. I wonder, and I could be overthinking this, but could she have been playing off my social status to boost hers? I'm pretty confident that I'm a high value guy and have plenty of preselection, plus I was leading the interaction with my friends. I'm wondering if by openly flirting with me in public, she thought it might boost her status amongst other girls? To repeat myself, I could be overthinking this, but I'm a detail oriented person so it comes to mind to ask this.

 

[fsc]

Yeah, I obviously can't say for sure, but that's quite possible because girls do compete with each other.

You can try putting yourself in her shoes again: if you went up to a high-value, attractive girl and flirted with her in sexy voice and played with her hair, you'd obviously get a ton of social status points in the eyes of the audience.

To add onto that, you did a good job by responding coolly to it. Your grin showed minimal effort, and you didn't take a status hit (it prolly even improved your status). You may have taken a status hit if you tried to flirt back or whatever--depending on how much effort you put into the response and how she responded to your response, you could've looked tryhard or whatnot. You would've taken a status hit if you responded really excitedly.