I've often asked to friends, colleagues -only the "safer", cooler ones of course- or even girls I was pursuing who gave me the BF line if they had a free pretty friend to introduce me to.
Some of the most outspoken acquaintances of mine, male ones of course, mentioned how terrible it was of me asking that.
Now if only I cared about what they thought...
.
What I did care about, though, was that this strategy didn't really work much at all: I had just never gotten far with a woman from an intro.
Actually, with a relatively small circle around me, I don't even remember ever having been introduced to someone at all.
Until this week.
THE INTRODUCTION
I met her through a female colleague of mine whom I had bugged for a long time, always half jokingly, to intro me some of her friends.
It was on a Friday out to a street food event.
She was a tad taller than I am in spite I had boots with sizable heel, and really pretty I thought, and new in town.
In the group I behave social, or as social as an introvert can be.
Made the people around me laugh, introduced someone new to the group, and chit chatted with different people.
I move in with another group for a while and then join them back. Once sitting later on I speak a bit longer to another girl in the group and make her laugh a lot. Then I moved to this prettier girl who was sitting beside me and asked her a bit more deeply about her and her current relationship status (had "someone" in another city, but nothing serious and definitely not a relationship).
When they left to some other bar I stayed waiting for another friend and we bid farewell without exchanging contacts -I didn't wanna spend TOO much time with them anyway and asking for contact in front of other people would have heightened peer pressure and made me a tad less "cool" (I was introduced as super cool and, I believe, as quite sexy by the common friend).
CONTACT
So the Monday after I asked the common friend for her contact -got an email-, wrote her and set something up (very promising BTW, she replies quickly and tells me she's open almost any day to meet).
On the day of the meeting, she actually wrote me a confirmation text in the morning.
Talking about starting with the right foot lol, that was another strongly positive sign.
It made me think she both had a good impression and she felt very safe. Good advantage of the social circle.
MEETING
So we met and I proposed my place and a bar.
She picked the bar.
And we sat in front of each other, which is something I'm not so worried about: in the kind of tables/seat combo we had here, sitting beside was actually weirder (this can happen often depending on the venues you go to).
From the get go the atmosphere was fantastic: she was really good fun, laughing all the times and always open to accept or make a joke at her own expense.
She was also extremely easy going in the conversation, opening up about her life, then asking me back sometimes but never ever challenging or trying to come up on top or trying to hide anything.
The only one of two things which worried me was actually just that: we were laughing so much I was almost thinking it was too much.
And the second worry one was of course the common friend, which I made sure never to mention -she did herself, though, and I didn't pick on that-.
I noticed an extremely positive sign which I learned to recognize as attraction and/or willingness of physical proximity: when we were laughing after I poked some fun at her, she extended her arm towards me as if she wanted to meet my body/my own arm and touch each other (imagine her laughing and then extending her arm towards you as if to say "oh, you...)".
As much as I recognize that signal from past good interactions I'm not yet always 100% sure how to act on it, though this general rule should apply: not extending your arm to meet hers will make you look colder and more on the assholish side, making your touch available to her will make you look more relatable and easier to get.
In this case, she was already helping me a lot down the road of the seduction, so I made it easy for her to get some touch.
THE PULL
After the first drink was gone she was up for another one, but I corrected her that I meant "another drink somewhere else" and added "I have (at home)... ".
She complained Cognac was too strong, I said it wasn't that strong, then corrected that we could put water and if she still didn't like it we would just leave it or drink a wine, which I also had.
And she accepted.
I was actually I bit nervous myself on the walk back, as I felt my reputation was at stake because of the common friend -the friend thinks very highly of me, she's my best flirt and female friend at work and I like her a lot, I didn't wanna ruin that-.
I calmed completely down though as she was whistling some melody, a clear sign she was actually much more nervous herself, LOL how cute of her.
Back home as I opened the wine she came back from the living room closer to the kitchen to speak, another sign to me she's very interested.
Indeed once we sat back we barely sipped the wine and started making out. Then moved quickly to the bed, overcame the "period" resistances with a thick towel hard pressed on her face and that's it.
LOL just a dark joke on the towel of course, we put it beneath her .
She kissed quite badly if not "very badly" with way too much tongue and tongue out her mouth. Actually it remembered me a bit of a Sex And The City episode where one of the actresses there meets a bad kisser, and that series was all about caricatures and exaggerations. And yet she came very close to it lol.
But I didn't mind too much tongue as I liked her and thought she was hot and actually made her look cute for the inexperience.
She had very nice "meat around her bones" physic and was bigger/taller than I am which was a while I hadn't had like this, and with super nice boobs, all things which turned what would have otherwise been average period sex into a very good one.
Some of the most outspoken acquaintances of mine, male ones of course, mentioned how terrible it was of me asking that.
Now if only I cared about what they thought...
.What I did care about, though, was that this strategy didn't really work much at all: I had just never gotten far with a woman from an intro.
Actually, with a relatively small circle around me, I don't even remember ever having been introduced to someone at all.
Until this week
.THE INTRODUCTION
I met her through a female colleague of mine whom I had bugged for a long time, always half jokingly, to intro me some of her friends.
It was on a Friday out to a street food event.
She was a tad taller than I am in spite I had boots with sizable heel, and really pretty I thought, and new in town.
In the group I behave social, or as social as an introvert can be
. Made the people around me laugh, introduced someone new to the group, and chit chatted with different people.
I move in with another group for a while and then join them back. Once sitting later on I speak a bit longer to another girl in the group and make her laugh a lot. Then I moved to this prettier girl who was sitting beside me and asked her a bit more deeply about her and her current relationship status (had "someone" in another city, but nothing serious and definitely not a relationship).
When they left to some other bar I stayed waiting for another friend and we bid farewell without exchanging contacts -I didn't wanna spend TOO much time with them anyway and asking for contact in front of other people would have heightened peer pressure and made me a tad less "cool" (I was introduced as super cool and, I believe, as quite sexy by the common friend).
CONTACT
So the Monday after I asked the common friend for her contact -got an email-, wrote her and set something up (very promising BTW, she replies quickly and tells me she's open almost any day to meet).
On the day of the meeting, she actually wrote me a confirmation text in the morning.
Talking about starting with the right foot lol, that was another strongly positive sign
.It made me think she both had a good impression and she felt very safe. Good advantage of the social circle.
MEETING
So we met and I proposed my place and a bar.
She picked the bar.
And we sat in front of each other, which is something I'm not so worried about: in the kind of tables/seat combo we had here, sitting beside was actually weirder (this can happen often depending on the venues you go to).
From the get go the atmosphere was fantastic: she was really good fun, laughing all the times and always open to accept or make a joke at her own expense.
She was also extremely easy going in the conversation, opening up about her life, then asking me back sometimes but never ever challenging or trying to come up on top or trying to hide anything.
The only one of two things which worried me was actually just that: we were laughing so much I was almost thinking it was too much.
And the second worry one was of course the common friend, which I made sure never to mention -she did herself, though, and I didn't pick on that-.
I noticed an extremely positive sign which I learned to recognize as attraction and/or willingness of physical proximity: when we were laughing after I poked some fun at her, she extended her arm towards me as if she wanted to meet my body/my own arm and touch each other (imagine her laughing and then extending her arm towards you as if to say "oh, you...)".
As much as I recognize that signal from past good interactions I'm not yet always 100% sure how to act on it, though this general rule should apply: not extending your arm to meet hers will make you look colder and more on the assholish side, making your touch available to her will make you look more relatable and easier to get.
In this case, she was already helping me a lot down the road of the seduction, so I made it easy for her to get some touch.
THE PULL
After the first drink was gone she was up for another one, but I corrected her that I meant "another drink somewhere else" and added "I have (at home)... ".
She complained Cognac was too strong, I said it wasn't that strong, then corrected that we could put water and if she still didn't like it we would just leave it or drink a wine, which I also had.
And she accepted.
I was actually I bit nervous myself on the walk back, as I felt my reputation was at stake because of the common friend -the friend thinks very highly of me, she's my best flirt and female friend at work and I like her a lot, I didn't wanna ruin that-.
I calmed completely down though as she was whistling some melody, a clear sign she was actually much more nervous herself, LOL how cute of her
.Back home as I opened the wine she came back from the living room closer to the kitchen to speak, another sign to me she's very interested.
Indeed once we sat back we barely sipped the wine and started making out. Then moved quickly to the bed, overcame the "period" resistances with a thick towel hard pressed on her face and that's it.
LOL just a dark joke on the towel of course
, we put it beneath her .She kissed quite badly if not "very badly" with way too much tongue and tongue out her mouth. Actually it remembered me a bit of a Sex And The City episode where one of the actresses there meets a bad kisser, and that series was all about caricatures and exaggerations. And yet she came very close to it lol
.But I didn't mind too much tongue as I liked her and thought she was hot and actually made her look cute for the inexperience.
She had very nice "meat around her bones" physic and was bigger/taller than I am which was a while I hadn't had like this, and with super nice boobs, all things which turned what would have otherwise been average period sex into a very good one.
