Ok so my girlfriend is now 22 and we have been together for a little over 2 months now. She told me she has wanted breast implants ever since she was 17. I am not the best at gauging bra sizes, but my guess is that she is a 32 B or something along those lines. I have told her that I am extremely against implants unless the receiver had a masectomy from breast cancer or some other cause that leaves a disfigurement. Sounds pretty logical and reasonable right? Well here is the other side: She tells me that it isn't to impress anybody, and that it is for HERSELF. I find that hard to swallow. I have read many opinions on the net and talked to people and the majority of suggestions were that they aren't for it personally, but will support her if she does it. I told her I would still love her either way, even if she alters her body. Deep down I don't know if that is really the truth. I don't want to come off as the controlling jealous asshole. It was never in my character and I do agree that it is her body and she can do what she wants with it. I did try to explain to her that I may only be 5'6 and have a 6 inch dick and although my size gets me alot of rejections I have learned to live with it. This did not seem to get through to her. No matter how much I have told her that she is beautiful the way she looks, spend more time on her tits than downstairs during sex, tell her she has it better than alot of women, that complications from surgery are possible, etc. It does not make her see otherwise. Since I like my women confident and comfortable with themselves I am scared I will fall out of love with her and the relationship will nosedive into the ground after she theoretically gets the implants. We got in a nasty fight over it today and instead of having sex like she wanted today she just told me to drive her home instead. I feel pretty conflicted at the moment and really want to explore all options to make this work. Any thoughts or advice would be appreciated. Thanks!
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Well. tell me Andres, What do you think about breast implanting ? is it bad ?
If not so, are you just afraid of jealousy fact ?
Here is my opinion.
I think, you want to open up your mind little bit about this fact. We all have different kind of likes and dislikes. That is why, it is important to parallel both of your opinions in long-term relationship. However I don't think that, there is a single couple in the world, who have same ideas, same opinions, who think same in every single time..
Look, I don't think we can't judge it in this way.. Someone likes their body the way it is, and someone doesn't.. That is why majority of people go to the gyms. It can be to impress someone, or it can be just for herself to feel good about her. I don't think we can judge it in that way unless we have a super power to read others minds. I think in this situation, If she says, it is only for herself, then you need to trust her.
Think about this, If you can not trust her, what is the purpose of staying with her ? If you feel that she is going to do this to impress others, it really doesn't matter whether you stop this or not, she will continue to impress others with somehow. (If she is faithful to you, I don't think that it is a bad thing either, till she remains good looking and impressing others, your attraction to her will remain also, and it is a good thing to have in a relationship rather than expiring your attraction and looking for a another girl)
Well. I don't think that it is either logical or reasonable. I think, you want to ask from yourself "What do I think about breast implanting ? "
If you think that it is a bad thing to do unless the receiver had a mastectomy from breast cancer or some other cause that leaves a disfigurement, as you have mentioned .. then you really need to open up your mind. You have prejudged about it.
Look.. like you have likes and dislikes and she also has, May be she really doesn't like her boobs the way it is.. May be she doesn't feel good at it. It is seems to be that you like more natural rather than artificial. What you want to do is, open up your mind to feel both, Do not make a frame and categorized into I prefer natural or I hate natural. May be when you open up, it will make you feel better and happier than you think and feel right now. To know it better you have to open up your mind first, Until you open your mind, I don't think you will be able to find the real happiness in this world. It is important explorer new things which are not harmful or involved risk element.
However,
If you say, I don't like it because of the risk factor involved with this, then you sound pretty much logical and reasonable.
Whatever the reason I don't think, fighting is not the way you want to go about this.
If not so, are you just afraid of jealousy fact ?
Here is my opinion.
I think, you want to open up your mind little bit about this fact. We all have different kind of likes and dislikes. That is why, it is important to parallel both of your opinions in long-term relationship. However I don't think that, there is a single couple in the world, who have same ideas, same opinions, who think same in every single time..
Look, I don't think we can't judge it in this way.. Someone likes their body the way it is, and someone doesn't.. That is why majority of people go to the gyms. It can be to impress someone, or it can be just for herself to feel good about her. I don't think we can judge it in that way unless we have a super power to read others minds. I think in this situation, If she says, it is only for herself, then you need to trust her.
Think about this, If you can not trust her, what is the purpose of staying with her ? If you feel that she is going to do this to impress others, it really doesn't matter whether you stop this or not, she will continue to impress others with somehow. (If she is faithful to you, I don't think that it is a bad thing either, till she remains good looking and impressing others, your attraction to her will remain also, and it is a good thing to have in a relationship rather than expiring your attraction and looking for a another girl)
Well. I don't think that it is either logical or reasonable. I think, you want to ask from yourself "What do I think about breast implanting ? "
If you think that it is a bad thing to do unless the receiver had a mastectomy from breast cancer or some other cause that leaves a disfigurement, as you have mentioned .. then you really need to open up your mind. You have prejudged about it.
Look.. like you have likes and dislikes and she also has, May be she really doesn't like her boobs the way it is.. May be she doesn't feel good at it. It is seems to be that you like more natural rather than artificial. What you want to do is, open up your mind to feel both, Do not make a frame and categorized into I prefer natural or I hate natural. May be when you open up, it will make you feel better and happier than you think and feel right now. To know it better you have to open up your mind first, Until you open your mind, I don't think you will be able to find the real happiness in this world. It is important explorer new things which are not harmful or involved risk element.
However,
If you say, I don't like it because of the risk factor involved with this, then you sound pretty much logical and reasonable.
Whatever the reason I don't think, fighting is not the way you want to go about this.
Thanks. I have touched fake tits before (on strippers). it felt like those rubber balls you see in sports therapy as far as firmness is concerned. They also did not seem very mobile. Myabe that stripper had just messed up shopping for them. I didn't like the feel. You do have a point though. The following day we acted like nothing had happened and the topic hasn't been brought up (for now). If it does come up again I will just stop arguing with her over it and let her do what she wants and hope for the best.
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It is really good you found this, because I think , this is the really reason behind your post.
Because you have already experienced it before and it wasn't really great at all. May be it was a one of bad breast implanting situation. (I mean , Who knows.. ?)
To be honest, I don't have any experienced about this subject yet. So, Let's wait what experienced people have to say "How do they feel it ? "
May be googeling about "How do men feel fake boobs ?" will help you..
FINGERS CROSSED.