My Journal

[Sidhrnsksijf]

Hello everyone on the boards. I thought a journal would be a good place to start a post on the forum.

Now would be a good time to introduce myself. I am fortunately anonymous and have a random username. I’m new to the boards, but very familiar with the Girlschase website.

I’ve had my first successes with women thanks to Chases’ articles. His blog is the first I’ve seen that helped me significantly in seduction. Now I’m looking to further improve my skills.

I think a good place to start is with the newbie assignment, especially since I just moved to a new city. I like how the progression is laid out to ease people into the process.

I hope you all have a good day and wish everyone the best of luck in finding those amazing girls.

 

[Sidhrnsksijf]

Day 1

Hello Everyone. Today is the first day of my newbie assignment.

The goal today is to find 4 places that have the kind of women I want to meet. In addition, make sure there is enough turnover for sufficient approaches and the location is easy to get to so there is less mental resistance to overcome.

All of the places I found are easy access and short distance. These are the spots I found on my trip

Tourist Spot: This place has some history, but I’m interested in what it offers today. While there are a lot of vacationing families and older folks, there are always a few women out. Maybe they are alone looking for a romantic fling overseas

Market/mall hybrid: Near the tourist spot and filled with tourists. Busy all day every day. Lots of international foreigners speaking different languages. Some girls are eating alone, maybe hoping to meet someone

I tried another place, but there wasn’t much turnover, oh well.

Park: LOTS of girls open and by themselves. Either walking, walking with a dog, or sitting. There’s no pressure to avoid approaching, like security, and the atmosphere is more relaxed and well, welcoming. I like this place a lot so far.

Library: It’s a huge library with two sections: Quiet Study and Study. Common sense tells me people in the quiet section do not want to be disturbed. I won’t approach there anytime soon. The other section seems like fair play. Some girls are reading in between book isles on the floor, while other lounge about on their laptops. Plenty of approaches to be had.

BONUS Transit: I used the local trains to get around, it’s the fastest way around the city. Some stations were better than others, but I got a lot of approach invitations. One girl even walked across the train to stand next to me and put her phone away. If that doesn’t scream “I WANT TO MEET YOU”, I don’t know what does.

So far, I’ve checked out a couple places I can meet women: a tourist spot, library, park, and mall. I’ve struggled in the past looking for good watering holes, but now I’m confident in my new training grounds.

 

[Sidhrnsksijf]

Day 1 again​

Hello everyone. Today I am doing a little extra exploring before moving onto the next task. Yesterday I went to locations my guide had already taken me, so this time I want explore on my own.

Let’s see what I can find

College campus: Lots of girls walking in between classes, usually at the end of each hour. Plenty of girls sitting in the student union. If I bring a backpack and dress business casual, I fit in with the student/staff.

Cafés: Not a lot of turnover in each one, but when they are bunched together, there is plenty of turnover. Alternatively, I could just add one approach to the day in a coffee shop.

Museum: This one is free admission, and has a mix of tourists and locals. I’m sure a girl wouldn’t mind meeting a hot guy there.

Social event: I went to a small social meetup at the end of the day. Only a dozen or so people showed up. I think that using many social events may help increase the number of women I can meet.

Overall, not as eventful as the previous day, probably because I didn't have a guide to point me to the best locations.

 

[Sidhrnsksijf]

Day 2

Hello everyone. Today I’m back at the newbie assignment and the focus is on posture.

I went back the my first locations. As I watched people pass by, the first thing I notice is shoulder placement. People with their shoulders rolled behind their backs looked powerful, while people with their shoulders rolled forward looked feeble. The differences were present regardless of muscle mass.

As far as head placement goes, the most confident people had their head stacked over their spine. Anyone with their head arched forward or facing down looked like they were old and dying.

I didn’t really pay attention to how straight backs were, but all the confident walkers I saw had straight backs

Now it’s my turn. I didn’t see a whole lot more approach invitations than normal, until I looked in a mirror and realized why. I pulled my shoulders all the way back and UP, which made me look more like an alien than an attractive guy. Oops

On the second round with corrected posture, it was a world of a difference. Loads of glances from girls. Also, wherever I walked, people would move out of my way as if I had a forcefield.

Another thing I noticed was that people were more likely to move out of my way if I looked at them or in their direction. Even people with confident walks got out of my way

On the other hand, I would get more glances from girls in my peripheral view than my central view. I wonder why.

 

[Sidhrnsksijf]

Hello everyone. It’s a sunny day out today and the focus is on eye contact. My goal is to hold eye contact with people and observe their reactions.

The first person I made eye contact with didn’t last a second before his eyes darted down.

Most people wouldn’t hold eye contact with me for long, unless I was in a conversation with them.

It was harder for me to hold eye contact when I was talking, especially when I was thinking. I also felt uncomfortable holding eye contact with someone who looked intimidating, until they smiled and defused the pressure. I felt uncomfortable holding eye contact with someone if it looked liked I was putting pressure on them to hold eye contact.





There were a lot of different scenarios I felt uncomfortable holding eye contact, but recognizing when and maybe why helped me feel more comfortable holding strong eye contact.





Overall, a great exercise I would recommend.

 

[Sidhrnsksijf]

Day 4

Hello everyone. Today is the day I start talking to women. Well, it’s not the first time I’ve approached girls, but it’s been a long time since my last one.

The first person I said hi to was in line at a coffee shop. The second bumped into me on the street and I said high.

Problems
Then I tried to say high to people walking on the street. It didn’t go as expected. Most times I said high behind someone it fell on def ear. When I tried to say hi to girls walking past me, they did just that, they walked past me.

The goal of the exercise was to break the ice and engage women, but most didn’t engage.

Another problem I ran into was not wanting to approach in front of other people, unless it seemed lowkey. I felt a lot of pressure to avoid approaching.

My guess is my brain thinks that if I say hi and she responds cold, then it blows up in my face.

Approaches
The last four were at a park. One girl sitting on the bench. I walked past, turned around, turned around, and said hi. She looked at me but said nothing back. The last three were the same.

Solution
Either it’s my fundamentals or process. My guess is both. I can try smiling more and opening girls from the side or trying to stop girls before saying hi. I will also go to a different venue tomorrow

 

[Sidhrnsksijf]

TLDR

I approached 6 girls, asked them about their day, introduced myself, and a little more.

I confronted some beliefs I had on who would notice and what is allowed. I did this with little tests in public.

As much as Chase, and other awesome PUAs on the blog, have written for us, some things we just have to figure out on our own.

Some of my approaches fell on deaf ears, sometimes I persisted, and sometimes it worked.

Day 5 (beginning of post)

Hello everyone. Todays another big day. I ask girls how their day is going, and introduce myself, how fun.

Yesterday I ran into problems with girls being unreceptive on approach, outright ignoring it.

While reading through some articles last night, I may have found a solution. Lower the pressure on them to respond. Ask for directions or something situationally relevant, instead of walking up and saying hi. Let’s see how it goes.

Tried to approach in transit but it fell on deaf ears. I’ll have to make it more obvious next time, while remaining low pressure.

My first approach was in the library. Walking to the elevator, there was a lone girl waiting. I looked in her eyes until she looked back. I waved and said hi, she smiled. Then I motioned with my hand to take her earbuds out, so I could ask her how her day was going.

I wanted to build momentum, so I asked if she was studying too, what college she’s going to, what she’s studying, and what the major is about. Not bad.

I had this big fear about being noticed by other people that was stopping me from approaching, so I did a little test.

I sat down near everyone, pulled out my phone, and pretended to take a call from family. Nobody watched me, or even heard me. Most people had headphones in, were absorbed in what they were doing, or was out of earshot.

This is huge.

It didn’t take me more than a minute for my next approach and it was in front of people. I pulled a chair, sat down, stared at the girl in front of me until she looked back, and started small talking.

My third approach was in an elevator. I wasn’t planning on saying hi, but I got off on the wrong floor and hopped back in. I asked how her day was going, and introduced myself

Fourth approach, sitting down. I walked up to her side, asking her about her textbook, then sat down and asked how her day was going, and then introduced myself. This time both of us smiled, like a warm smile.

I went back to the station, practically empty. There was one girl I attempted to approach. I got her to look, smile and say hi. Then I asked how her day was going. But she didn’t hear, her headphones were in. Then the train came. Next time, I need to motion her earbuds out.

Out of the train, there was a cute girl behind me on the escalator and nobody was around to stop me. I quickly turned back, smiled and said hi. She looked at me, and then pretended I didn’t exist. Maybe she was uncomfortable because there was no one around, or I went to fast, or came across an uncalibrated way.

Waved at a girl on the street. No response. Maybe I need to stop and motion her to stop first.

On the bright side, I found another great place to meet more well put together women in the up and coming side of town

Fifth girl at the park. I she let me sit, but went back to doodling. I didn’t want this approach to go, so I pulled up a picture of what I thought the her art looked like to get her attention, then I said hi. Turns out, she wasn’t as cold when I finally got her headphones of. I’m sitting next to her as I am writing this paragraph. Onto the next one.

6th approach and my favorite. Back to the library and I walk past this absolute stunner. I grab a book and walk back to her, then walk past her thinking to myself, there is no way I…can approach HER! Then I say fuck it and walked to her anyways.

She was super warm. Her voice was soft and she welcomed me. It was awesome.

I’ll add a summary because a lot happened.

TLDR

I approached 6 girls, asked them about their day, introduced myself, and a little more.

I confronted some beliefs I had on who would notice and what is allowed. I did this with little tests in public.

As much as Chase, and other awesome PUAs on the blog, have written for us, some things we just have to figure out on our own.

Some of my approaches fell on deaf ears, sometimes I persisted, and sometimes it worked.

 

[Sidhrnsksijf]

Day 6

Hello everyone. Today is an off day, meaning I only need to approach one girl.

I went to an unfamiliar location, so it took a while to find a place I was comfortable to approach.

I ended up using one of my get out of jail free card openers, asking to pet a girls dog.

Then we chit chat about her dogs name and I bid farewell.

 

[Sidhrnsksijf]

Day 7
Hello everyone. Today I got back to the newbie assignment to do some genuine interest openers.

It’s been a minute since I’ve done a newbie task. I am learning to make time for approaching.

Here’s my approaches.

1.. a beautiful girl waiting for the bathroom. I decide I’m gonna compliment her wide leg pants. As I say hi, I stutter my words and toungetwist myself, and fumble the compliment hard. “Hey, I think your pants look great. They really.. make the outfit.. good”. She looked a little uncomfortable at how awkward I was. I felt uncomfortable, but shook it off and bid farewell.

I felt a lot better the next approach. Unfortunately, this cute Asian girl with a pink bowtie in her hair pretends I don’t exist when we make eye contact after I signal her. I want to stay lowkey so I don’t engage further

2.. across from me is a Latina, cute but not super cute. I approach anyways. I tell her, very slowly, that her braids really compliment her style and look professionally done. Then I give a slight smile. I introduce myself, tell her I had to tell her, then bid farewell. She was polite.

3.. This girl I didn’t want to approach at first because she was FaceTiming someone, but then I took a step back and asked myself, so what? I’ve seen people interrupt phone conversations and get warm receptions, so I wanted to try.

I signaled her AirPods off. I asked if she was talking to a friend (I wanted to screen if she was talking to her boyfriend). She said it was a friend. Then I delivered “Your hair looks (I wanted to say beautiful, but I didn’t know if that would work, so I almost searched for another word, but didn’t because I new if did, I would fumble like the first approach) beautiful. It’s really smooth and look professionally done”.

Before I could introduce myself, she asked my name and raised out her hand. She was so warm and positive, I continued the conversation with small talk. She’s does this, I do that, blah blah blah. Then I bid farewell

4.. This girl was a cute blonde. There’s no way I could screw it up after two solid approaches. Reader, you’re in for a treat. I signal off her headphones (what’s with girls wearing headphones all the time, geez) and lean in for my compliment. The second I do this she looks a little uncomfortable. I say she has a great sense of style and really well done hair, then immediately lean back to give her some space.

She smiles warmly and says she doesn’t even think it’s that good because she just finished a run. Then, I say… “no”. That’s it. In my brain, I said, no way you went for a run, your hair looks great. But my mouth just said no, and her charming smile faded away into nervous awkwardness. I bid her farewell, and walk away.

I’m happy I made the approaches. It’s ok that some fell flat, it’s only natural. I’m even happier with how warm the girls were.

This outing is also my first one done after work. My respect for anyone practicing game after 8 hours of draining work is sky high. Not easy, at least to start out with.

 

[Sidhrnsksijf]

Hello everyone. Today I tried two new openers.

My first approach used the sit down structure from the article chase provided. I spotted a cute blonde sitting and grabbed a book on my way to her.

Looking through the pages, I almost sat down next to her, but the seat was disgusting. I walked to another girls while still looking through the book. Then I opened

The opener chase gave me just seemed too out of character for me to use so I used indirect, which I never used before.

Me: pointing at her sticker, “you went to xx?”
Her: “I still go there”

Me:”cool, I have a friend there. How are you enjoying it?”
Her:”I like it”

Me:”do you normally come here and study this late?”
Her:”No haha, I usually go to xx, but I wanted a change in environment”

Me: “ya, I get that. I’m xx by the way” gives my hand to shake
Her: “I’m xx” shakes

Me: reads a little bit then leaves

She was polite and I even asked her a question that made her laugh. Nice

My second approach I wanted to try the sudden notice method, because it’s really funny and sounds so realistically effective.

I spotted a young professional at the street crossing and walked up to her to ask for obvious directions. I was confident as I asked.

However, She pointed it out so nonchalantly I was taken aback and fumbled over my words.

“Um kidding… sorry no”

After that I just ejected myself from the interaction. Definitely need to try that opener again, cause that’s the first time I’ve ever approached somebody in such a public and crowded area. But… I felt comfortable in public, also a first

 

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Day 8
Hello everyone. Today I overcame a misconception of social distancing by approaching on mass transit.

Approach 1 was a girl I bumped into walking to sit down for the train (I swear it wasn’t intentional, but I used it to approach nonetheless). She wasn’t particularly pretty. I don’t care.

I asked her if she was headed somewhere fun. She said she was heading home to sleep, cause she was tired. I replied with “yeah, get some rest, sounds great. Zeds” then the conversation kind of stopped.

The rule is two minute conversation, so I had to revive it. I asked if she was tired from working or from school. She said neither and I just sat there confused, like why is this girl tired. So i asked. Turns out she’s traveling.

That’s something I can latch on and keep it alive. I just keep talking to her for about 5ish minutes until the train arrives. then I leave her for the next approach.

The next two approach attempts I tried to open from the side of girls, but they were just to far that if they heard me, everyone else would. I was unconsciously not getting physically close to girls and that prevented me from approaching. I noticed this quickly and succeeded on my subsequent approach.

This girl was cute, like put her in a sushi roll cute. Walking up closer to the side of her, I asked if she was going anywhere fun. She wasn’t. I didn’t care, I just wanted to talk to her. We small talked for a minute and then the train came by.

I shit you not, she bid her farewell, but I used the noise of the train to pretend I didn’t hear her, and asked another question. As she was walking to her seat and answering, I sat down with her. We got close, really quick.

Then all sorts of positive things started to happen. Her eyes beamed. Her smile grew. She started twirling her hair, and she asked me questions. I think she may have been into me. Then I got off.

Overall, a great learning experience. I got closer to girls and more comfortable and I had to persist to do it.

 

[Sidhrnsksijf]

Day 10
Hello everyone. Today I used the direct opener “are you single”. One of my approaches worked so well that I will never discount this opener again.

Two of my approaches were on the street, while two were in transit.

My first approach was a brunette on the street. I walked up next to her and delivered my opener with my head tilted slightly up and in a suspicious tone. She responded no and went back to her phone. I left it at that

My second approach went similarly, but this girl was more cold. She gave me a face that screamed “did you really just ask that, uh no way Jose!”

The good approach
My third approach I asked if she was single and she said no… but it didn’t end there. I asked her a couple small talk questions and she positioned her body towards me. Neuron activation!

Then she started smiling. When the train arrived, I asked another question to communicate it wasn’t ending there. She complied. As we kept talking, I learned a lot about her. Like stuff girls never told me about. She even made some light jokes and gave me flirty faces. Something good was going on here. I think she was into me.

I decided to do what I wanted to yesterday, but failed before. I asked for her phone number. She gave it to me, and I just kept talking to her.

Before I got off the train, I asked her to go on a date.

“You’re going to send me a text, and I’m gonna text back ‘chipotle?’”

She said maybe. Still haven’t gotten a text from her. Oh well

Throughout the conversation, I had a nervous energy. I had a “didn’t think I was gonna get this far, now what?” feeling. I didn’t really know what to say or do.

Anyways, the last approach was like the second one. The French girl gave a hugely cold reaction. It didn’t feel personal, though.

Great day, learned a lot. For anyone who feels like the newbie assignment is too challenging, I feel you. It’s definitely challenging me, but I’m still doing it. I have to.

 

[Sidhrnsksijf]

Day 11
Hello everyone. Today I went to a large public event and walked around.

I read the article and tried to incorporate as much as possible.

Since the last time I worked on the walk and posture, I haven’t spent much time self monitoring it. This was a good chance to correct any mistakes.

public event
The public event was the largest I’ve ever been to, with tens of thousands of people everywhere. I didn’t know if my walk was making a difference in crowded areas. People could be distracted, or attracted, to something else.

However, when I walked through more secluded areas, the effects were powerful. The biggest change I saw was after I walked as slow as possible, like comically slow. It was challenging with people walking behind me, but worth it.

His walk
There was one stretch of the walk where this guy was walking like a cowboy, just like how chase described his walk when he was chaffing. Man it looked goofy, but I could tell girls would find it wildly sexy. In fact, I watched him pass a couple groups of girls, and they were either eyeing him or looking down, so now I had proof it worked.

I thought I was doing it too, but when I looked at myself in a window reflection, it was not noticeable enough. Getting this down would be huge.

 

[Sidhrnsksijf]

Day 12
Hello everyone. Today I do everything the same, but I have to lay it out there that I think she is cute.

Getting in the approaches was tougher than usual, because I approached at 2 o’clock. That’s when kids get out of school, and the girls I want to meet are at work/college right now. Not ideal.

Anyways my first attempt, I didn’t say I thought you were cute. There was this huge pressure it would blow up in my face because we were sitting in front of each, but far away enough that for her to hear me several other people would. I just used indirect, which doesn’t count.

My first actual approach was a cute brunette sitting by a water fountain. I just plopped down in front of her with my book. The table was covered with her laptop, iPad, book, and latte. When I sat down, she started moving her stuff, but I told her she didn’t need to. Then I said

“I thought you were cute and I wanted to say hi”
Her: “ok”
Me: “im x” reaches to shake
Her: “I’m x” shakes
Me: “watcha working on”
Her: “I’m a research” and she quickly went back to work

She seemed polite but not interested or busy, so I just left.

Second failed try was a girl writing her resume. I questioned about it and then asked if she was in college. She said she wasn’t, so I could instantly tell she was in highschool. There was no way I was gonna tell her she was cute. Maybe I should’ve delivered before asking if she was in college.

My second approach was another brunette sitting down, I guess the brown haired ladies are lucky today. It was in the same seat as the last time when I was nervous to delivered, but this time I doubled down.

Me “Watcha reading?”
Her “I’m just doing homework”
Me “you in college?”
Her “ya”
Me “I’m xx” reaches out
Her “I’m xx” shakes
Me “I thought you were cute and wanted to say hi”
Her “hi” (I thought it was pretty funny she said that and almost laughed”
Me “hi, watcha studying”
Her “editing and publishing”
Me “publishing what? book, songs?” (I remember from the conversationalist article to give suggestions to guide the listener when asking a question)
Her “authors of books”
Me “that’s cool. Also specific. What got you into it?”
Her “I don’t know. I’m just a Sophomore”
Me “oh, so you picked it while you were in school” (that’s what I guessed. The other option was that she only in her second year so she can choose to switch majors and that’s the one she picked freshman year, but she doesn’t know if she likes it yet
Her “yeah, but I started in psychology.”
Me “that’s what a lot of people start off with” smirking and looking off to the side. I think I took to long to say something else and just looked into her eyes
Her “it was nice to meet you” then she got back to studying

The third failed attempt was a Latina in the subway. I said high, waived, then asked if she could hear me. She pretended I didn’t exist, then turned and moved away. Maybe she was cripplingly afraid for some reason, oh well.

Then a couple more failed attempts later…

My third approach was this really well put together nursing student. I had no nervousness because I was just so done with everything and it went well.

Me “can you hear me”
Her “I can now”
Me “what a studying”
Her “I’m in nursing”
Me “cool, I thought you were cute and wanted to say hi”
Her looking flattered and smiling hard “thanks, but I have a boyfriend” (but… but! Almost sounds like she wish she didn’t have a boyfriend rn)

Then she got back to work

Fourth approach was a professional looking black girl with black hair and a minimalist outfit (no, not minimal clothing, but style). I plopped down by her and asked what she was studying for.

Her “the Lsats”
Me “oh wow, aren’t those in like 2 months” (just a guess, all I know is they happen 4 times a year. This is also where I should’ve told her I thought she was cute, not dig deeper)
Her “i don’t know, I’m just studying for next year”
Me “ok, I thought you were cute and wanted to say hi. I’m xx” reaches for handshake
Her “I’m xx, what’re you reading” shakes hand
Me “I don’t know, I just picked it off the shelf ” telling her honestly. Maybe I made a mistake and gave away that I never cared about the book. Maybe she isn’t happy because she studious and I’m not taking my reading seriously, idk
Her not happy look
Me “it’s about the diamond trade”

Then she went back to her work

When I got up from the seat and walked out, this girl (who was facing my back during the interaction) looked in my eyes and smiled at me. That’s the first time that happened. I infer it wasn’t by chance.

I think heard the whole thing. 2 things:

• That’s tells me that spot people will hear me.
• She heard me call a mother girl cute, start a conversation with her, and ended up smiling at me.

People didn’t think it was weird I approached, but liked it.

Overall, very challenging day with a lot of failures, but it worked out.

 

[Sidhrnsksijf]

Day 13
Hello everyone. Today, I added a little spice to my approaches with light banter. Now I can make girls feel flattered they got approached and at ease with a little verbal tomfoolery.

All my approaches were in the library

1.. dirty brunette with glasses. When I sat next to her, I was nervous to use my “watcha studying” opener because she was scrolling. Before I got a chance to just ask her how her days going, she got back to working on something.

Me “Can you hear me?” (She has Airpods in)
Her “yeah”
Me “watcha studying?”
Her “oh, I’m just working on a paper”
Me “I thought you weee cute and wanted to say hi” smile
Her “thank you ”
Me “I’m xx” with hand out
Her “I’m xx” shakes
Me “hi xx, you looked so engrossed into your work I didn’t know how if I could get your attention” I don’t know how to describe my voice, but it was playful, like confused but in awe.
Her “haha, I was just scrolling actually. What do you study?” She laughed like it was funny
Me “xx”
Her “wow that’s super cool. Is that —” pointing to my book
Me “this book isn’t for xx. I’m just reading for fun”

2.. A thin Indian (thindian) student. I sat in front of her. I reminded myself how much of a badass I am approaching girls in places 99.999% of guys are to afraid to. I had rock solid confidence.

Me “How’s your day going?” Smiling
Her “good, how’s yours?”
Me “pretty good. I thought you were cute and wanted to say hi.”
Her “thank you”
Me “I’m xx” hand out
… (I guess she didn’t understand she was supposed to say hers back)
Me “what’s your name?”
Her “xx. What’s yours?”
Me “xx, watcha studying” my first time saying the girls name back to her. Crazy, I know right.
Her “what am I studying, or my major?” My neurons started activating
Me “aren’t they the same thing?… Unless you living a double life?” I felt really smart coming up with this line on the spot
Her “haha, marketing”
Me “that’s cool” then I went back to my thing

3.. a black haired girl that look pale and scrawny. Don’t worry, I didn’t tease her on that. This approach had a lot more improv, though

Me “Do you work here?”
Her “uh… no, why?”
Me “oh well I saw the sticker on your laptop and the laniard around your neck, you fooled me” pointing at each item, in a seldom playful tone
Her “oh haha, no. I wish I did”
Me “you do?” Curious tone
Her “I work at xx down the street”
Me “that so cool… I’ve never heard of it” I thought this was funny, she didn’t
Her “its a clothing store”
Me “I thought you were cute and wanted to say hi” I know it didn’t feel right to say it at this time, but I didn’t know when I would eventually bring it up, and it felt awkward. I said it quietly, and inwardly (making myself small).
Her “what?” She didn’t hear me, but only saw I looked and sounded nervous. I could tell from her nonverbal she was confused
Me “I thought you were cute and wanted to say hi” this time a little better, but not that good
Her “….” She totally didn’t know how to respond to that, maybe she’s never been told that. Anyways, I took the lead
Me “I’m xx”
Her “what?” She didn’t hear me. I’m quiet when I’m nervous.
Me “I’m xx”
Her “I’m xx”
Pause two minutes. I went back to reading and she started putting her stuff away. I wonder if I scared her away.
Her “have a nice night” I didn’t hear her
Me “what?”
Her “have a nice night” in a quiet and nervous tone. I think she still liked that I approached her, and also related to me being nervous. She definitely didn’t seem that calibrated either
Me “thanks, you too” in a warm voice

Failed.. I tried to open this girl with a tease or lead her into a tease, but it didn’t work. I guess it might be better to lay out that I think she’s cute first.

Me “Do you have 2 phones?”
Her “yeah”
Me “whys that?”
Her “one’s personal and one’s for business”
Me “so like one is normal and the other is so people can’t track you”
Her “uh, no. One I use for my family and one is for real estate”
Me “that’s so cool”
Her “haha”

4.. was a really cute Japanese girl with horrid teeth. She didn’t know much English, which challenged how well I could tease her, but I tried. This conversation was longer, so it was harder to remember every exact line and order.

Me “how’s your day going?”
Her “good, I finished that class”
Me “cool. I thought you were cute and wanted to say hi, I’m xx”
Her “I’m xx, but it’s hard to say in English, so call me xx”
Me “ok xx. The text on your screen”
Her “it’s for my work. I’m in hr. Human Resources”
Me “oh that’s awesome. You’re from Japan?”
Her “yes”
Me “do you like it here?”l
Her “yes”
Me “I went to Japan last summer”
Her “last December?”
Me “yeah”
Her “summer?”
Me “yeah. I went to… let me pull it up in my phone. (Google maps) Here” there was no way in hell I was gonna tease her English, she looked like she must’ve been working so hard to get it right.
Her “I am from Osaka. Second largest city in Japan”
Me “cool. It was nice to meet you”
Her “nice to meet you. are you in college?”
Me “yes”
Her “what do you study”
Me “xx”
Her “cool. I send emails for my job… ” blah blah blah blah blah “… cause it would be weird for emails at midnight”
Me “yeah”
Her “I am working on my English in that class”
Me “your English is amazing. I understand everything you say”
Her “are you staying?”
Me “yeah”
Her “I’m leaving. Do you come here often?”
Me “yeah, I enjoy this place”
Her “nice to meet you”

There may have been more lines of dialogue, but I either wasn’t really listening or forgot.

One thing I noticed is I am 10 times more comfortable telling girls I think they’re cute. No need for a wordy compliment, she’s cute.

 

[Sidhrnsksijf]

Day 14: final day
Hello everyone. Today is the final day of the newbie assignment, where I’ll be getting 4 phone numbers and dates.

I split today into two days of approaching. GASP… how could I! This is blasphemy of the highest order.

I don’t have a lot of time to approach and some girls just weren’t digging my approaches. Not a big deal in the grand scheme of things.

I’ll give my parting thoughts on the whole assignment before what happened.

I think the assignment was awesome for me for my first approaches. There’s a lot of info on girlschase, so having a start guide is nice.

I overcame a lot of fears and misconceptions in approaching. I learned to approach on the subway and on the street. I also just got a lot more comfortable approaching in general.

The first days I had to approach were tough, but there was so little I had to on each approach, that I didn’t overthink and abort.

Would recommend

Now as approaches went, I’ll just summarize so nobody has to read a novel.

Approach plan
stand or sit down next to

Open with “how’s you day going?” or “watcha working on?”

After responding, I tell them I think they’re cute and I want to say hi

I introduce myself

I either small talk or banter first, then weave in a little more banter.

I tell her I would love to grab a bite wi the her sometime, and ask if she’d like that

If yes, I tell her I’ll text her or she just asks my phone number (crazy how into me these girls are

Approaches
1.. this cute brunette just devouring a book. I sat next to her and open her. She responds politely, not exactly jumping at me. I stay calm and talk slow with pauses. I tease her to lighten the mood and now she’s asking me questions. I go for the close and she’s game. Then we talk a little more and I eject.

2.. A well put together Asian girl that didn’t speak a lot of English. I had to repeat myself a couple times and she didn’t understand the banter. She did like that I called her cute and my fundamentals were enough for her to give me her number

3.. a decently cute dyed blonde girls with screens all over her. I sit in front of her, devouring my book. I notice her and open her. She’s studying for THE law test, I thinks it called an Lsat. Then I tease her on being so focused I practically had to drag her out of her boring day. She loves it and starts asking about me and talking about herself. I go for the close. We keep talking and even though she’s busy with the test this week, we agree on grabbing food after to celebrate. Then I eject

4..An emo-ish girl on the subway. I didn’t tease her on being emo, but being absorbed in her phone. She liked it and when I made the ask, she said sure. I have a gut feeling she’s not into me.

Failed attempts: I had a about 15 failed attempts over the two days for a few reasons

1.the girl didn’t hear me the first couple times or pretended to ignore

2.I got nervous on the approach and she clammed up

3.I made it through the whole shabang but she didn’t dig me enough to say yes