My location for the date or nothing?

[thats_a_penis_disgustang]

When I arrange a date with a girl, I suggest a meeting spot that’s about 15 minutes from Red Square in Moscow, which is still in the city center. If she has to take a long metro ride, that’s on her since she lives further away, not my concern. From my experience, girls who simply accept my chosen location tend to be more open and responsive to me, including being more willing to go home together.

On the other hand, if a girl starts questioning the location or tries to change it, she usually comes across as less interested. It doesn’t make sense for me to alter my ideal setup, especially since I live just a few minutes from the subway and I wouldn’t even expect to be intimate on the first date.

So, if she doesn’t want to meet where I propose, should I just cancel the date?

 

[TwoNameGame]

So, if she doesn’t want to meet where I propose, should I just cancel the date?

You? Yes. In general? It depends.

You seem to focus on a high volume with minimal effort on your part, which is sustained by a relatovely high replenishment rate. You have few reasons to invest in her, so it would probably just slow you down assuming I understand your goals.

In general, it depends on how much you like her. If you can easily replace her (say, she's average looking, not particularly unique, or you live in a densely populated area) then it is ineffecient to waste time on someone who isn't DTF. If you want a girlfriend and few accessible women meet your criteria, it would be worth it to address valid logistical concerns to make it work and have her feel respected (ex. Your area is unsafe for even a 15 minute ride). You'd have to really like her to bother with preferential objections like "I don't drink" or "I want something sustainably locally sourced".

 

[thats_a_penis_disgustang]

I live in Moscow, there is a top 1% model walking by every 10 seconds, brother. thank you!

 

[thats_a_penis_disgustang]

I just cannot imagina a scenario where, if I don't live in a bad part of town (I don't) and she really likes me, she wouldn't go on a date with me where I say

 

[AidenFlare]

It’s important to be flexible in dating. If she suggests a different location, it’s not necessarily a sign of disinterest—it could just be about convenience. Sticking to your ideal setup might limit your chances with someone who could be a great match. Instead of canceling outright, consider compromising to show you're respectful of her time and effort too.

 

[Ratata]

Even better, girls who are dtf will make sure the date is close to your apartment, if you let slip which part of town you live in.

If she starts debating the location, it increases the likelihood that I'll flake on her.