Need Advice on Interpreting Signals from a Neighbor

[HoneyNuts]

Hey everyone,

I'm new to the forum and this is my first post. I've recently found myself in an interesting situation and could really use some insights from those of you more experienced in understanding women's signals.

So here's the scenario: There's a woman living in the apartment building across from mine. My workspace gives me a direct view of her balcony, which she steps out onto several times a day. Whenever she sees me in my office, her demeanor changes quite noticeably—she starts to act in a way that seems really seductive.

She does a variety of things that catch my attention: grooming her hair, fidgeting with her foot in my direction, sometimes stroking her thighs, and at times even sitting in a manner that seems intentionally provocative. These sessions last about 10-15 minutes at a time 2-3 times during a work day. It's all quite captivating and, honestly, a real turn-on. I haven't got a good look at her face because of the distance, but I'd approximate her to be about 40 yo. She seems to be alone at home all day and talking on the phone a lot.

Given that I'm not good at reading women, I'm not sure what is going on here. Here is what I'm thinking:

1. Is she just enjoying the attention?
2. Is she just teasing without any real intent?
3. Or could it be that she’s signaling interest that invites a response from my side? If that's the case, what would be an appropriate way to approach this? I enjoy the view but I want to fuck that woman to be honest.

I appreciate any advice you guys can offer. Thanks!


Regards, Honey Nuts

 

[AspiringStoic]

There is only one way to know for sure. And you know the answer very well.

Gotta try and find a way to talk to her.

More analysis over a girl who you have not even seen the face of properly is a pure waste of time.

 

[gameboy]

Some women love to show off their bodies, and it turns them on.

I remember one girl at a festival one time, there was like this long row of water faucets and sinks, outside in the open, where everybody was washing themselves... Lots of dirty hairy dudes and a few girls.... and this one girl got completely naked in front of everyone and washed her body. She was extremely attrative.

Of course everyone around her talked to her and she just casually talked to all the guys around her, while washing her breasts, her pussy, and everything. I could just sit there and stare lol (was like 18 or so at the time). I remember at one point she eye-fucked me for 2 seconds, then she went back to talk to the guys closer to her. Eventually she got dressed and left.

So, for your situation: She probably is enjoying the attention, yes. But that doesn't mean that she is (or isn't) open for something more.

Best bet is to meet the woman on the street and talk to her. Then see what happens, if you still like her, and if she seems open to make something happen.

But it's gonna be difficult if you're not used to cold approaching... You may want to practice that first unless you're either a natural talent or she is very open and knows how to lead!

 

[Will_V]

Hey everyone,

I'm new to the forum and this is my first post. I've recently found myself in an interesting situation and could really use some insights from those of you more experienced in understanding women's signals.

So here's the scenario: There's a woman living in the apartment building across from mine. My workspace gives me a direct view of her balcony, which she steps out onto several times a day. Whenever she sees me in my office, her demeanor changes quite noticeably—she starts to act in a way that seems really seductive.

She does a variety of things that catch my attention: grooming her hair, fidgeting with her foot in my direction, sometimes stroking her thighs, and at times even sitting in a manner that seems intentionally provocative. These sessions last about 10-15 minutes at a time 2-3 times during a work day. It's all quite captivating and, honestly, a real turn-on. I haven't got a good look at her face because of the distance, but I'd approximate her to be about 40 yo. She seems to be alone at home all day and talking on the phone a lot.

Given that I'm not good at reading women, I'm not sure what is going on here. Here is what I'm thinking:

1. Is she just enjoying the attention?
2. Is she just teasing without any real intent?
3. Or could it be that she’s signaling interest that invites a response from my side? If that's the case, what would be an appropriate way to approach this? I enjoy the view but I want to fuck that woman to be honest.

I appreciate any advice you guys can offer. Thanks!


Regards, Honey Nuts

She's likely lonely and horny if she's there all day by herself, and you are a tantalizing figure to project her fantasies toward.

Like @AspiringStoic said you need to find a way to meet her, otherwise you'll never know and nothing will come of it.

Be careful when you meet her not to assume that the same vibe will immediately continue in-person. Right now her behavior is uninhibited by the fact that the distance between you can't be crossed, and you are nothing more than a figure of fantasy. When she meets you she will want to get to know you before allowing herself to continue behaving that way. So treat her like a new girl you want to find out about, rather than a woman you think is desperate to fuck - but don't burst the bubble of her fantasy in doing so.

 

[ChrisXKiss]

Be careful when you meet her not to assume that the same vibe will immediately continue in-person. Right now her behavior is uninhibited by the fact that the distance between you can't be crossed, and you are nothing more than a figure of fantasy. When she meets you she will want to get to know you before allowing herself to continue behaving that way. So treat her like a new girl you want to find out about, rather than a woman you think is desperate to fuck - but don't burst the bubble of her fantasy in doing so.

This is so true, I've had some girls that I was teasing a lot through text, some even talking about sex and roleplaying, and I've always had this fantasy that we would meet and I would just grab them and give it to them hard satisfying their long anticipation.

Never works like that, even the ones I did end up sleeping with, we had a pretty normal date first and no heavy makeouts at first sight. With others we ended up having zero sexual tension during the whole interaction. Probably my fault in a way, but the point is that when you eventually meet up close it's a whole different thing.

Best bet is to meet the woman on the street and talk to her. Then see what happens, if you still like her, and if she seems open to make something happen.

I agree with this, or at least meet her in a casual way that is not focused on these teasing sessions. It can easily come off needy if you come from the frame that you were paying attention to her in her house and fantasizing about sex all this time.

 

[HoneyNuts]

Thank you for your responses. The situation is still ongoing.

There is only one way to know for sure. And you know the answer very well.

Gotta try and find a way to talk to her.

This is surprisingly hard. I actually went and checked the surnames of the residents who lived on that floor, but my social media searches didn't bear fruit.

Best bet is to meet the woman on the street and talk to her. Then see what happens, if you still like her, and if she seems open to make something happen.

But it's gonna be difficult if you're not used to cold approaching... You may want to practice that first unless you're either a natural talent or she is very open and knows how to lead!

If I could figure out a timing when she always leaves the apartment, I might be able to "accidentally" meet her outside. No luck with that so far. Also I have zero experience in cold approach, I would propably ruin the whole thing meeting her in public.

Never works like that, even the ones I did end up sleeping with, we had a pretty normal date first and no heavy makeouts at first sight. With others we ended up having zero sexual tension during the whole interaction.

This is not good news. The fantasy is getting to have sex without me fucking things up with my poor in person social skills.


Any ideas how to get her number/facebook or such? I think texting would be great for furthering the interaction here.

 

[AspiringStoic]

Also I have zero experience in cold approach, I would propably ruin the whole thing meeting her in public.

This is the problem. You want to improve yourself with women in general not try to get one woman in particular who you are obssessing over.

I would honestly say forget about her and start meeting women in general. Then if you happen to meet her you will be in a better position to make something happen. She is not the answer/solution to your dating woes. You taking action and improving yourself with women in general is.

 

[gameboy]

^ this

I have a vivid imagination myself and have in the past been guilty of idealizing particular girls with whom nothing real ever happened, or very little.

Stop stalking that woman... if you ever meet her in real life you maybe have a small (1%) chance that something happens. If you even like her face.

The best advice I can give you is; learn to meet more girls! And leave that fantasy in fantasay-land. Enjoy it, by all means, but be aware that it is NOT REAL.