Need advice please...commited girl giving signals??

[harjas0123]

I've been friends with a girl for 1.5 years. I became friends with her when i didn't care about the game so pardon me for being stuck in the friendzone.
We hung out a lot (as friends) so people started thinking we were a couple. But we rubbished it by saying that we were like bro-sis (her idea). I didn't object as she had a boyfriend and i never saw us being a couple.
Now, she's having a lot of relationship problems and for the past 1-2 months, she's been saying that she wishes 'a nice and sweet guy like me asked her out'. But I didn't think about this a lot as i was interested in some other girl (who turned me down).
Today, she messaged me this morning. It said: 'u know vishal (her boyfriend) was screaming at me last night.. I'm sad.. u know sometimes i feel if a guy like you would ask me out i would say yes and leave vishal.. And get rid of all these fights'
so, how should i handle this situation? I'm really confused..
Please help guys

 

[foxman2]

She could be interested in you... I have been in a similar situation.

You need to be more sexual, and less of a friend. You need to show her that you are comfortable with other women, that is, provide social proof. You have probably already broken the touch barrier with her if you have been friends with her for a year and a half, I am guessing you've hugged. I would start initiating physical contact with her more often, and in a more sexual way.

Keep this in mind- girls like the "bad boys" even though they say they like the nice guys. She may have relationship problems with her boyfriend, but she is probably still sexually attracted to him, because he has the "proof."

What do you need to do? You need to start doing things differently, break up the status quo- develop an edgier side... you can still be nice, but display a different side to yourself when you are around her... maybe don't be as available to her, don't respond to a text message here or there.

Having said that, when you do ask her out, you should provide a sexual vibe to it...

She may already really like you, and is trying to nudge you in the right direction toward getting with her, but you need to step up the the plate big time.

The problem I had when I was in a similar situation was not taking advantage of opportunities when she presented them to me, and man do I regret it. Don't make the mistakes I did. If she does give you an opportunity, or even another hint, you need to be manly, and step up to the plate, and move things forward as fast as possible.

She WANTS you to live up to your fullest potential, but you aren't giving it to her right now.

It's really difficult to pull yourself out of the friendzone, but it can be done. The best advice is to pursue multiple women, that way you won't be as needy around this one in particular.

To sum it up:

1. Be more physical in a more sexual manner
2. Develop an edgier side
3. Be less predictable
4. Step up to the plate when called upon, but you will have to push things forward
5. Pursue other women as well

Best of luck.
Fox

 

[Flames]

Be wary she could just be looking for validation, she already know you so it may not be the best idea to try and change.

The thing to do wouldn't be to ask her out so much as give her an opportunity to make things happen, go out casually (as I presume you already do) and then escalate it.

But this is all depending on what YOU want so don't be tricked into something just because she showed a bit of interest. It's also possible she could just want a fling and your the closest guy for the job. If your happy with that then go ahead.

Hope that helps