Fashion Need inspiration! Achieving sexiness for a South East Asian man

[WorldlyGoldenViper]

Hi everyone! I'm just looking for inspiration from the field on how to achieve a sexy style/vibe. I am 21M, South East Asian (in particular, Vietnamese), living in New Zealand for the last 7 years. NZ, in my opinion, is very laid back and most people doesn't really have a dress sense. It is not like Europe with the sleek, smart look with the coats and boots. 98% of the guys I know so far does not know how to wear a suit properly. Hell, they even do up all the buttons on national TV! I feel like, since it is a very agriculture/farming country, most guys rely on muscles and having a bigger frame?

I have been looking at different styles online. I know that I don't like that "super street style" with baggy pants, chunky shoes and all that. I would definitely go out in a full tailored suit every day of the week, but I can't afford that at the moment so that is not practical. Also, most of the models online is Caucasian, which sometimes when I try to copy the style, it doesn't translate well and/or it has a decreased effect because of the skin colour, build, eye colour, hair texture, etc. And if I search for Asian models, it tends to give me:

• Indian-looking models (darker skin, can grow more facial hairs, from the region around India)
• Korean models which tends more towards clean bright skin and cuteness?
• Other Asian models who already has good genetics features (strong jaw, squarer face, V-shaped, really fit body, etc.)

I don't think any of the three types above is helpful to me. I have an Indian friend who can achieve that mysterious sexy vibe like the darker skin models and he has tried to share with me some tips but it still doesn't help much. Again, different skin colour, facial features; he also has a shorter but squarer build while I am currently more tall and slender. He has broader shoulders and you can make out that V-shape when he is wearing clothes whereas for me it is literally a rectangle

Anyway, to wrap up, at the moment, I look at myself in the mirror and I can see that I am at a reasonable height (around 180cm), not fat (55-60kg), but also not a lot of muscles (probably 20-30% body fat?) and definitely 0% sexiness (maybe 50-70% nice/friendly guy vibe). What can I do to accumulate and ooze a sexy vibe?

 

[pancakemouse]

Check out the AsianMasculinity subreddit, I think there have been some threads like this there.

 

[Lantern]

Hey man, I may have some suggestions. I think the goal you should put to yourself is to develop a sense of style, instead of trying just to copy what you see. It will take some time, but it's a fun journey.

I can recommend three resources:

1. Parisian Gentleman/Sartorial Talks - Run by a husband and wife team, THE online resource on tailored men's clothing (suits etc.). The former is their blog, the latter their YouTube channel. Start reading their articles and watching the videos and in time you will develop an eye and taste for classic style. I recommend this even to people who aren't interested in wearing suits and such, as it is the best foundation to learn the fundamentals regarding men's clothoes, which you can apply to casual clothes as well.

Parisian Gentleman - Sartorial Life

www.parisiangentleman.com

https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCLtBi4hEKdTQGhCgpKzmF0g

2. He spoke style. This dude has a great YouTube channel. He has a polished style and approach, again, applicable to other styles as well.

https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC4A7_ROn-bKRIHaRxfWVaOw

3. Well built style. This guy has a blog, but I suggest to follow him on twitter. He leans a little bit more casual that the above three, and rounds them up well. On his twitter tweed he gives short useful hints and comparisons on how to wear a garment vs. how not to and similar.

https://twitter.com/WellBuiltStyle

Follow the above for a while and start working on your own style. Once you have the fundamentals down, the way to get a sexy vibe is to dress well (proper fit, colors, garments, etc) and then add a bit of an edge. What and how much of an edge depends on you and your circumstances. If you're some famous wild actor, like Russel Brand, you can be all edge. But you're probably not, so start small. But not too small, when you add some edge to your look, the first few times you should feel a bit uncomfortable, like "is this too much?".

So what's an edge? Anything that jumps out, is a bit attention-seeking, or rebellious. Something that says that, even though your obviously capable of dressing up "per the rules" you don't give a fuck. So it's a suit with boots. It's unbuttoning your shirt one extra button on your chest. It's rolling up your sleeves. It's loud jewelry. It's having muscle and wearing clothes that subtly show them off. Things like that, whatever you personally like. Just don't do it all at once!