Need to start taking action! But how ?

[The believer]

Hey guys new to all this but gonna give it a go, basically I'm a average/semi attractive guy who's not even bad with speaking to women the problem is I'm never in a environment to meet girls.

My schedule is basically self study-> chill with the same 3/4 mates or working(there are no potentials at work) I drive aswell so I never see any cute girls to try talk to.

I've been trying online dating recently due to covid but texting people I dont know ain't really for me; too many rooms for error and I feel I could get higher value women IRL.

Its been over a year since I've last had sex which I dont mind too much because I've been focused on my purpose but now I'm ready to get out again and meet some women but the question is how ?

Any advice for cold approaches and areas to do them in? I'm from London.

Also finally I read somewhere that you shouldn't leave the house looking for women but I dont know what else to do at this point loool pls can someone help me.

 

[Tr1cky]

Option 1: Daygame. Read up on London Daygame model.

Option 2: Night game. Read up on;
-Yareally - web archive yareallyarchive.com
-Rsd - old content only like blueprint decoded, infields and Tyler's digest.
-West Indian archie - his reddit, website, and old forum posts if you can find.
-Girlschase - Everyone is good, especially chase and bacchus
gunwitch - smma and gambit course

You're question is broad so I'm not going to get into specifics because all the steps have been laid out before in the above mentioned. You just need to get started.

Ps yes I understand this might not be possible for another 6 months til things return to normal. Start reading in the meantime.

 

[Chase]

@The believer,

Welcome aboard!

Plenty of guys start off in your shoes. You can get rolling pretty easily with a little elbow grease and a bit of will power.

I'd suggest you check out the Newbie Assignment as a good guide to starting out:

Newbie Assignment

Introduction If you're brand new to the idea of approaching getting better with women and dating as a skill set, not to worry - most people in most parts of the world don't think of it that way yet, either. The great news is, anything can be learned as a skill - be that thing painting, writing...

www.skilledseducer.com

We have a couple of threads in the Wingman Finder Board with guys looking for a wingman in London you may want to check.

There are plenty of spots in London good for day game and London has an ample nightlife scene.

The U.K.'s at the global forefront of lockdown restrictions and it's not too clear when they intend to ease up on these. But look for where the people are going out to, talk to other folks you can find who are active there, and you ought to be able to start building up a little steam

Chase

 

[Mark G.]

Hi, I understand your situation.

So for make it easy for you doing daygame my recommendations for you:

1) Write down which kind of girls you like.Older, younger, Hipster, conservative..
2) Think : In which parts of London do you find them? Which places? Coffee Houses , Bars,...
At which time?
3) Check your fundamentals like Chase wrote it
4) Start with small steps, but with a regular plan.
E.g. 3 times a Werk a 2 hours.
First ask 6-8 woman for time, then compliment, then ask for no etc.
5) Have Fun

Hope it Helps
Mark

 

[ulrich]

Nonstandard advice here.
It would be a good idea to reconsider your "purpose" every now and then.

You say that you have not taken good care of yourself because you were focused on your purpose. That is cool, we all get obsessive sometimes with things that we care but just don't let yourself pursue a purpose that forces sacrifice on you.

Lately I am finding more and more men mesmerized on toxic positivity.
Pursuing a high prupose that is somehow a version of "do the greater good", "be a woke man" or "save society".
This is society and the media manipulating men so they are spineless but working ghard to be useful to society. Not unlike how ancient Spartans shamed men into marriage.

So, just make sure "purpose" is something you chose for yourself, not something someone said you should have.

 

[Skjöldr]

Get started doing daygame. You are in London so you can approach lots of chicks and get good fast. It will be beginners hell. Here's how it went down for me in the different stages.

First few times i went out i walked around all stiff and paralyzed by fear. I had read about daygame and was like "aight i'll try this out". 0 approaching

Next few times i went out i wasn't paralyzed by fear but i didnt approach.

Next few times i got oneitis for some cashiers lol and mustered up the courage to snipe approach them. Didn't work out.

Then i went out a few times again, looked for perfect opportunities to approach (never come, but as you get better you get better at calibrating this)

Then summer holiday came and i decided fuck it i'm doing a solo bootcamp. Me as noob and me as coach. I went out 4 days in a row (this week actually) and did 32 approaches. It was insane. The moment came when i would walk past a woman, STOP, turn around and say to myself "you just gotta do it man". And then i turned around and ran after her. That was my beginner breakthrough. Now the ball's just rolling man. Got 10 numbers, most flaked or went cold, but i have a date on Monday and 1-2 good leads i'm gonna follow up on on Monday. Going out today and tomorrow again. I took a break Friday (yesterday) to hang with the family the whole day. Don't burn yourself out. I had a bad headache Thursday evening. It's alot of stimulation for a beginner.

I only got one number that day where i was in bad state but went out anyways, and that was the strongest lead i got. That's the date i have on Monday. Whereas i got 3 numbers each day Monday, Tuesday and Wednesday in good state and most flaked and ghosted.

 

[Skjöldr]

But take it from me, it is hell. My sticking point is fear of reputation issues (i live in a town of 150k-200k people), but you gotta do it man. It's worth it.