Networking Pickup Game

[metomeya]

I'm becoming very interested in networking game (different from cold approach pickup and night game).

I find that once you know a girl for about 6 months to a year and she suddenly likes you, you hold all the power!

I know what you are saying wait 6 months to a year is TOO long.

Here is the thing, if you are always meeting new girls, once you pass the 6 months mark with the first girl you are constantly moving past that mark with other girls. The main concern is to make sure you are close but not that close to effect your social reputation.

A good one is to join a club and wait for her to give an IOI. The longer she takes (months) the better. She is more emotionally invested in your when she decides she likes you.

I think this article is helpful:
https://www.girlschase.com/content/where ... e-any-town

The trick is to keep yourself interacting the person without chasing her. It is not the interacting part, but finding reasons to be around her without being her close friend. Remember the girls is also concerned about her social reputation, and may not chase you if you are TOO close to her and her friends.

Any ideas on this?

 

[trashKENNUT]

metomeya,

Something to share

Try to have some power in the network or circle if you don't have one. IF you the CEO or manager, the better. I realize with this kind of games, you can use one of Chase writers article on work places.

You usually get away with things if you are well liked. Just give people good emotions so that even if some people say shit about you, it will still be calm, whether the "rumour" is true or no.

This is what i note.

z@c+

 

[BarryS1]

Metomeya, I remember you writing a post about night game events being uncomfortable, but networking definitely feels warmer (even during nighttime).

Can you give me some example networking events where you can see the same person again? The ones I've been to on Meetup.com and other professional organizations had different people every time. I'd like to dip my feet in that area. Here's a phrase I constantly hear from promoters: "If you see the same people again, thats hanging out, not networking."

Just did networking game, but in a different context. The club for younger professionals I participate in hosts events twice a month, so I'm not likely to spot the same girl again. I experienced what Colt wrote about, professional networking events on Meetup.com. I attended events including happy hour, BBQ, and restaurant.

I'm trying to dial my process down, but here it is so far:

-Approach desired girl in group (Chase suggests this in his group article https://www.girlschase.com/content/5-essential-insights-how-meet-girls-groups).

-Open indirect-direct

For example: "Hi how's your night going? ..... Oh, I thought the photographer was gonna come by and I wanted to be by an attractive girl."

-Answer the what do you do question (I like Peter's suggestion about having her guess https://www.girlschase.com/content/how-answer-“what-do-you-do”-no-matter-what-you-do).

-Deep-dive for a couple minutes

-Get her investing by moving her

For example: "We've been standing for awhile, wanna go sit down?"

-Ask for a date next week or if she wants to get food after the event.


I did this four times on Thursday and work 4/4 times. I asked for contact information in the beginning of the evening and pushed for an insta-date when the event winded down. People are in a rush, so moving from one girl to the other did not seem strange like a club. People are there to socialize and gather contact information quickly. Being with one person too long seemed a little "clingy" and "stiff" in a networking event.

Lemme know what you think. This seems like a fun area to branch off into.

 

[metomeya]

Thats golden Barry,

Actually, when I was thinking of this I had a young professionals group in mind which does normal events and bar events. This would work perfectly.

Thanks!

 

[BarryS1]

One more to mention, I WAY overdressed outside the stereotype for my occupation (IT). Girls had the toughest time guessing and said things like entrepreneur or retail manager!

I was peacocking with a red cardigan w/ sweater underneath, a ring on each hand, and flat front pants. Only one other guy out of 30 had time to get out of his work clothes and put something else on. Unless you wear a suit to work, the typical work attire of a collared shirt and dress pants looks bland and gets lost in the crowd.

Good luck!

 

[metomeya]

Thats a good one for networking. It is peacocking without looking like the crazy guys at the club. Being dressed up isn't something someone can make fun of you at those events...it is respected and admired.