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So in the past 2 weeks I've approached 35 girls and although one approach led to sex, which I'm still wondering if it were pure skill or just luck of the draw, I feel like I haven't been practicing as hard as I can.
My voice recorder has been a cool addition to my learning tools, though it can be pretty damn painful listening to yourself totally botch approaches... especially if you don't like your voice.
What I've learned about myself is that when I open a lot of times I have a really tentative voice and a very tentative opener. Almost like I'm walking on eggshells afraid to rock the boat. Though this is an exaggeration this is what it seems like to me. My vibe is quite inconsistent, being that I open some women quite confident and others like it's my first approach ever.
I also have a problem speaking in general. I use a lot of "uhms", "like", and "err" which communicate that I don't completely believe in my intentions therefore coming off incongruent along with not being completely confident.
I also need to reacquaint myself with touch. Touching women that are receptive to me as soon as possible that is.
On a less critical note there have been a couple openers recently that I've nailed so I know I'm capable of doing this. I just need to train myself to cut out all the uhms, likes, err pauses that make me sound stupid and replace it with clear concise thoughts that are annunciated correctly.
My goal for the month of January is to get this fundamental handled. That is opening and speaking clear, concise, and without hesitation or nervous pauses. In a way this is changing my vibe a bit since I will need to become more comfortable talking to women and being grounded in my speech in general.
All the videos of my favorite PU dudes that have infield approach videos have this fundamental handled and you never hear them talk shitty. Except Justin Wayne but he just talks shit in general so it doesn't really matter as much for him I guess.. he's weird.
This will up my confidence and I'm almost positive it will up my reception percentages.
My homework assignment the next time I go out to chat people up is to have a minimum of 3 interactions that I open and talk for the first minute without any nervous pauses filled with uhm, err, or like.
If I fail to do achieve this goal then I will have to approach a random stranger and tell them that I'm a pathetic sap.
Boom Shaka-laka mother fuckers!
Over and out,
-Rob
My voice recorder has been a cool addition to my learning tools, though it can be pretty damn painful listening to yourself totally botch approaches... especially if you don't like your voice.
What I've learned about myself is that when I open a lot of times I have a really tentative voice and a very tentative opener. Almost like I'm walking on eggshells afraid to rock the boat. Though this is an exaggeration this is what it seems like to me. My vibe is quite inconsistent, being that I open some women quite confident and others like it's my first approach ever.
I also have a problem speaking in general. I use a lot of "uhms", "like", and "err" which communicate that I don't completely believe in my intentions therefore coming off incongruent along with not being completely confident.
I also need to reacquaint myself with touch. Touching women that are receptive to me as soon as possible that is.
On a less critical note there have been a couple openers recently that I've nailed so I know I'm capable of doing this. I just need to train myself to cut out all the uhms, likes, err pauses that make me sound stupid and replace it with clear concise thoughts that are annunciated correctly.
My goal for the month of January is to get this fundamental handled. That is opening and speaking clear, concise, and without hesitation or nervous pauses. In a way this is changing my vibe a bit since I will need to become more comfortable talking to women and being grounded in my speech in general.
All the videos of my favorite PU dudes that have infield approach videos have this fundamental handled and you never hear them talk shitty. Except Justin Wayne but he just talks shit in general so it doesn't really matter as much for him I guess.. he's weird.
This will up my confidence and I'm almost positive it will up my reception percentages.
My homework assignment the next time I go out to chat people up is to have a minimum of 3 interactions that I open and talk for the first minute without any nervous pauses filled with uhm, err, or like.
If I fail to do achieve this goal then I will have to approach a random stranger and tell them that I'm a pathetic sap.
Boom Shaka-laka mother fuckers!
Over and out,
-Rob
I noticed music was familiar somehow . His approach is really good in the first video you sent me, i like the "you can ask me one question since my friend is waiting for me" , indicating that he is in a hurry so she would not ask him "what do you do" or something similar. 