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James D

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What's up everyone? Hope the new year has been treating you well so far!

Around 2 weeks ago, I finally got back on the horse again after a period of low momentum (read: zero new lays)

I got into a relationship with this girl after she moved to my city and although we've agreed to a one sided open relationship, my motivation to meet new chicks took a deep dive. Also, I highly suspect her of keeping my balls drained so I can't meet new chicks. She's always trying to make me ejaculate and gets upset if I choose not to.

The Approach

I decide to go to one of my fav places to pick up chicks in the day: the mall.

Outfit: tight black jeans, white shirt with 3 buttons opened and rolled up sleeves, silver necklace, chelsea boots and a very nice black lightweight scarf.

I scout around for a while, not impressed by the prospects, when I finally spot a cute chick with short hair like Monica in friends. She's wearing a red leather jacket and matching boots.

I place myself next to her, as she's scrolling her phone. I look around and see a surviving Christmas tree from the festive season. That's my cue to open.

Me: Excuse me (still looking at the christmas tree)
Her: Yeah? (she turns to me)
Me: (turning to her slowly, and smiling the slow spreading smile): Could you help me a with a picture?
Her: Oh ok sure why not.
Me: Aweesooome. Alright, here's the frame (I place my phone in an angle, with the camera on)... so...come here.. yes, right here....now, try not to let it move.... perfect!! Okay, stay like that...awesome!

I delicately and dramatically remove myself from behind the phone as she takes over and scuttle over to the tree, which gets her to chuckle a bit.

Me: (in front of the Christmas tree) Alright, go ahead! Oh btw, love your jacket!
Her: haha thanks! Wait... can you check? I took a few, not sure which ones are good.
Me: I'm sure you did great! Come over, let's check your masterpiece.
Her: Nooooooo, I'm not that good!!

She walks over.

Me: I'm James btw (extend my hand)
Her: Emily! (takes my hand)
Me: Wonderful to meet you Emily!
Her: Hahah thanks. Uhm what do you think of the pics?

She hands me over the phone.

Me: Hmmmm.... You're quite talented!
Her: Hahaha nahh it's normal pics!
Me: Well it looks great! And that's not just cuz I'm handsome.
Her: (she laughs) It's only because you're handsome. I take very bad pics. Actually, see...

She takes out her phone and shows me a few pics from her gallery.

Her: See? So bad! So bad!
Me: Hahaha nahh cmon give yourself more credit. You've done a great job with mine.
Her: Hahaha ok.
Me: Sooo what are you up to today? Just chilling?
Her: Yeaaah my bestie Scarlett cancelled last minute. I'm so annoyed haha. I decided to take a walk here and then head back later.
Me: Well, let's take a walk together. I've got to get some groceries for lunch later... or rather, afternoon tea... let's get it together. You can tell me more about how Scarlett is a bad bestie (said jokingly)
Her: Oh yes sure why not haha and noooo Scarlett is nice, she's my love, it's just she can be so forgetful at times!
Me: Hahaha yeah well it happens.

We take the escalator and get into the supermarket.

I make some basic small talk with her. It doesn't take much to get this girl talking. While we walked through the different sections, she told me she was 19, about to start her second semester in film, to which I immediately responded without missing a beat "Ahhh so that's why you're a talented photographer!". She practicaly burst out laughing and hit my shoulder, saying that no, no, she's not that good.

(Actually, she's painfully modest. She's got a great eye for pics)

Her favourite movie is Barbie and she can't believe it lost Best Picture at the Oscars to Oppenheimer. I was about to bash her film choices but then she mentioned loving the new Monte Cristo french movie (sorry Chase xD) so I let her off the hook (just kidding btw, I wouldn't have gotten in an unnecessary argument over movie choices. That would have been a total mood killer)

I did a lot of placing my hand on the small of her back whenever I had to guide her somewhere in the supermarket. At times I'd stop her and show her some product, using it as an excuse to stand in close proximity to her and touch her.

We'd been walking for around 30 minutes or so. I had everything I needed but I felt like letting her talk more and more.

Compliance was there. Touch and proximity was there.

There was one last bit: Raise her floor (read this fantastic article for more on this)

I've messed this one up before where I get a girl to open up about her, flirt with her and then I propose to live and she backs out.

I've found the best solution to that is to share some things about me.

I tell her that the reason I love movies is the same reason I love books: to experience a great story. I explain how stories can stretch the boundaries of our imaginations far beyond what we thought was possible. How movies use visuals and audio to give us an unforgetable experience.

She nods along as I riff, looking at me with a big smile.

There's a smile women give when they're ready to be taken home.

This was it.

The Pull

Me: I'm gonna prepare some paninis with all of that (gesture to groceries). Join me! We can chill and keep talking, it'll more quiet.
Her: Oh uhm yes, do you live far?
Me: 10 min walk in this direction (I point) I may have to hop on a zoom meeting later in the afternoon, to be confirmed though. That's cool with you?
Her: Oh yes! No problem.
Me: Cool, let's go.

I pay for the shit and we leave together, walking to my place while she keeps talking.

At my place, I have her take her shoes off (classic GC tech).

We go to the kitchen to put the groceries.

Me: I'm getting an ice lemon tea. Can I get you anything to drink?
Her: Sure, same for me. Can I use the bathroom?
Me: Sure, it's that door over there. The light switch is on the left.
Her: Ok!

She goes to the bathroom and takes some time.

Meanwhile, I pour the drinks and place them on the coffee table in the living room.

Finally, she walks out, a small smile on her face.

I'm already sitting on the couch and motion her to sit next to me.

I forgot who wrote this, maybe Franco, the old mod on the boards, who spoke of a technique where he takes the drink from the chick's hand, puts it on the table and kisses her.

This was the perfect timing for this move. So I do it.

She kisses me back.

I pull away first.

Me: Hmm you taste good.
Her: Omg haha why are you kissing me.
Me: I like your lips.
Her: thankss

I pull her in again for a kiss. This time she breaks it off.

Her: Do you have a girlfriend?
Me: hmmm?
Her: Do you have a girlfriend?
Me: what do you mean?
Her: I saw a girl face cream in your bathroom.

Shit. This was for Monica Bellucci. Damn it.

Me: Ahhh... that must be for my friend.
Her: Uh?? Why is it at your place?
Me: No idea (raise my shoulders)
Her, looking at me intently: You're a player, right? right?

I calmly take a sip of my drink while she's staring at me.

Me: Emily... I noticed something about you when we first met.
Her: What is it? (she's very focussed on me)
Me: Your hiarstyle... (I run my fingers in her hair)... I love it. It's got that 90s look to it while still seeming modern.
Her: Thank you. You know, I notice you too. When you approached me for the picture, I was nervous.
Me: Why?
Her: Because you're very handsome.

I smile warmly.

Me: Awwww thank you sweety. Come here (motion her for a hug)

She comes in and I hug her.

Me: You're very pretty too. And that red leather jacket (I point near the door, where her jacket was hanging)
Her: What about it?
Me: Love it. Gives you this really edgy vibe. Very sexy.

She smiles shyly and I kiss her.

This time the kiss is longer and she kisses more passionately.

Her: Only kiss ok?
Me: Emily, listen to me carefully. I promise you something.
Her: Yes?
Me: We won't ever do anything you're not comfortable with. Got me?
Her: Thank you.

We keep kissing until I finger her.

She moans for a while and then asks me the blessed words:

"Do you have a condom?"
 

Atlas IV

Cro-Magnon Man
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What a banger!

Just smoothly leading her to your place with step by step compliance, no fancy tricks needed. I love it.

I've noticed that these days there seem to be a lot of girls who just sort of wander around the mall on their day off with no particular plan. Less social life since covid, perhaps. Prime targets for SDLs.
 

Stark

Tool-Bearing Hominid
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Back with a bang indeed!

Love the authoritative approach.

To hell with reality pacing, start with compliance instead :)

I like the way you stretch out the opener, building suspense.

Me: Well, let's take a walk together. I've got to get some groceries for lunch later... or rather, afternoon tea... let's get it together. You can tell me more about how Scarlett is a bad bestie (said jokingly)

I had an instadate today with a demure cutie once I moved her a few feets away with me.

I see you build a hell lot of micro compliance before this point.

Notes taken.

I did a lot of placing my hand on the small of her back whenever I had to guide her somewhere in the supermarket.
Ah I missed the classic small of the back today with that girl 😬

You seem to have it almost second nature by now, just like Zan.


Her: Do you have a girlfriend?
Me: what do you mean?
Her: I saw a girl face cream in your bathroom.

Shit. This was for Monica Bellucci. Damn it.

Me: Ahhh... that must be for my friend.
Her: Uh?? Why is it at your place?
Me: No idea (raise my shoulders)
Her, looking at me intently: You're a player, right? right?

I calmly take a sip of my drink while she's staring at me.

This was a fucking deal breaker. Talk about a free fall of a trough

Me: Emily... I noticed something about you when we first met.
Her: What is it? (she's very focussed on me)
Me: Your hiarstyle... (I run my fingers in her hair)... I love it. It's got that 90s look to it while still seeming modern.

1000 bonus points for you not denying being a player. Masterfully executed.

She got wetter at this point knowing she's in the presence of a real man.
 

Bismarck

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Beautiful report as usual from you dude.

I agree with the not denying you're a player or seeing other girls (your "girlfriend" being referred to as a "friend") clinching you this lay. I've lost lays in the past for denying it.

One in particular, in the heat of the moment, I was already sucking on her nipples, I recall the girl asking me: "You just want me for sex, right?" and I lied, saying "Oh no, blablabla" so I lost her. She didn't want me to say I only wanted her for sex, but she also didn't want me to say I didn't only want her for sex.

It was the same thing here. She didn't want you to say you're a player (brag), but she also didn't want you to deny being a player or seeing other girls. By rerouting the convo you showed discretion (good, safe bang) but also masterful frame control.

Not engaging with the rational/logic, because the girl's LMR is just that, her biology doing its work, so that she can wake up the next day without feeling like a slut.
 

empath

Space Monkey
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Joined
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Messages
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What's up everyone? Hope the new year has been treating you well so far!

Around 2 weeks ago, I finally got back on the horse again after a period of low momentum (read: zero new lays)

I got into a relationship with this girl after she moved to my city and although we've agreed to a one sided open relationship, my motivation to meet new chicks took a deep dive. Also, I highly suspect her of keeping my balls drained so I can't meet new chicks. She's always trying to make me ejaculate and gets upset if I choose not to.

The Approach

I decide to go to one of my fav places to pick up chicks in the day: the mall.

Outfit: tight black jeans, white shirt with 3 buttons opened and rolled up sleeves, silver necklace, chelsea boots and a very nice black lightweight scarf.

I scout around for a while, not impressed by the prospects, when I finally spot a cute chick with short hair like Monica in friends. She's wearing a red leather jacket and matching boots.

I place myself next to her, as she's scrolling her phone. I look around and see a surviving Christmas tree from the festive season. That's my cue to open.

Me: Excuse me (still looking at the christmas tree)
Her: Yeah? (she turns to me)
Me: (turning to her slowly, and smiling the slow spreading smile): Could you help me a with a picture?
Her: Oh ok sure why not.
Me: Aweesooome. Alright, here's the frame (I place my phone in an angle, with the camera on)... so...come here.. yes, right here....now, try not to let it move.... perfect!! Okay, stay like that...awesome!

I delicately and dramatically remove myself from behind the phone as she takes over and scuttle over to the tree, which gets her to chuckle a bit.

Me: (in front of the Christmas tree) Alright, go ahead! Oh btw, love your jacket!
Her: haha thanks! Wait... can you check? I took a few, not sure which ones are good.
Me: I'm sure you did great! Come over, let's check your masterpiece.
Her: Nooooooo, I'm not that good!!

She walks over.

Me: I'm James btw (extend my hand)
Her: Emily! (takes my hand)
Me: Wonderful to meet you Emily!
Her: Hahah thanks. Uhm what do you think of the pics?

She hands me over the phone.

Me: Hmmmm.... You're quite talented!
Her: Hahaha nahh it's normal pics!
Me: Well it looks great! And that's not just cuz I'm handsome.
Her: (she laughs) It's only because you're handsome. I take very bad pics. Actually, see...

She takes out her phone and shows me a few pics from her gallery.

Her: See? So bad! So bad!
Me: Hahaha nahh cmon give yourself more credit. You've done a great job with mine.
Her: Hahaha ok.
Me: Sooo what are you up to today? Just chilling?
Her: Yeaaah my bestie Scarlett cancelled last minute. I'm so annoyed haha. I decided to take a walk here and then head back later.
Me: Well, let's take a walk together. I've got to get some groceries for lunch later... or rather, afternoon tea... let's get it together. You can tell me more about how Scarlett is a bad bestie (said jokingly)
Her: Oh yes sure why not haha and noooo Scarlett is nice, she's my love, it's just she can be so forgetful at times!
Me: Hahaha yeah well it happens.

We take the escalator and get into the supermarket.

I make some basic small talk with her. It doesn't take much to get this girl talking. While we walked through the different sections, she told me she was 19, about to start her second semester in film, to which I immediately responded without missing a beat "Ahhh so that's why you're a talented photographer!". She practicaly burst out laughing and hit my shoulder, saying that no, no, she's not that good.

(Actually, she's painfully modest. She's got a great eye for pics)

Her favourite movie is Barbie and she can't believe it lost Best Picture at the Oscars to Oppenheimer. I was about to bash her film choices but then she mentioned loving the new Monte Cristo french movie (sorry Chase xD) so I let her off the hook (just kidding btw, I wouldn't have gotten in an unnecessary argument over movie choices. That would have been a total mood killer)

I did a lot of placing my hand on the small of her back whenever I had to guide her somewhere in the supermarket. At times I'd stop her and show her some product, using it as an excuse to stand in close proximity to her and touch her.

We'd been walking for around 30 minutes or so. I had everything I needed but I felt like letting her talk more and more.

Compliance was there. Touch and proximity was there.

There was one last bit: Raise her floor (read this fantastic article for more on this)

I've messed this one up before where I get a girl to open up about her, flirt with her and then I propose to live and she backs out.

I've found the best solution to that is to share some things about me.

I tell her that the reason I love movies is the same reason I love books: to experience a great story. I explain how stories can stretch the boundaries of our imaginations far beyond what we thought was possible. How movies use visuals and audio to give us an unforgetable experience.

She nods along as I riff, looking at me with a big smile.

There's a smile women give when they're ready to be taken home.

This was it.

The Pull

Me: I'm gonna prepare some paninis with all of that (gesture to groceries). Join me! We can chill and keep talking, it'll more quiet.
Her: Oh uhm yes, do you live far?
Me: 10 min walk in this direction (I point) I may have to hop on a zoom meeting later in the afternoon, to be confirmed though. That's cool with you?
Her: Oh yes! No problem.
Me: Cool, let's go.

I pay for the shit and we leave together, walking to my place while she keeps talking.

At my place, I have her take her shoes off (classic GC tech).

We go to the kitchen to put the groceries.

Me: I'm getting an ice lemon tea. Can I get you anything to drink?
Her: Sure, same for me. Can I use the bathroom?
Me: Sure, it's that door over there. The light switch is on the left.
Her: Ok!

She goes to the bathroom and takes some time.

Meanwhile, I pour the drinks and place them on the coffee table in the living room.

Finally, she walks out, a small smile on her face.

I'm already sitting on the couch and motion her to sit next to me.

I forgot who wrote this, maybe Franco, the old mod on the boards, who spoke of a technique where he takes the drink from the chick's hand, puts it on the table and kisses her.

This was the perfect timing for this move. So I do it.

She kisses me back.

I pull away first.

Me: Hmm you taste good.
Her: Omg haha why are you kissing me.
Me: I like your lips.
Her: thankss

I pull her in again for a kiss. This time she breaks it off.

Her: Do you have a girlfriend?
Me: hmmm?
Her: Do you have a girlfriend?
Me: what do you mean?
Her: I saw a girl face cream in your bathroom.

Shit. This was for Monica Bellucci. Damn it.

Me: Ahhh... that must be for my friend.
Her: Uh?? Why is it at your place?
Me: No idea (raise my shoulders)
Her, looking at me intently: You're a player, right? right?

I calmly take a sip of my drink while she's staring at me.

Me: Emily... I noticed something about you when we first met.
Her: What is it? (she's very focussed on me)
Me: Your hiarstyle... (I run my fingers in her hair)... I love it. It's got that 90s look to it while still seeming modern.
Her: Thank you. You know, I notice you too. When you approached me for the picture, I was nervous.
Me: Why?
Her: Because you're very handsome.

I smile warmly.

Me: Awwww thank you sweety. Come here (motion her for a hug)

She comes in and I hug her.

Me: You're very pretty too. And that red leather jacket (I point near the door, where her jacket was hanging)
Her: What about it?
Me: Love it. Gives you this really edgy vibe. Very sexy.

She smiles shyly and I kiss her.

This time the kiss is longer and she kisses more passionately.

Her: Only kiss ok?
Me: Emily, listen to me carefully. I promise you something.
Her: Yes?
Me: We won't ever do anything you're not comfortable with. Got me?
Her: Thank you.

We keep kissing until I finger her.

She moans for a while and then asks me the blessed words:

"Do you have a condom?"
How did you managed to set this one sided open relationship?
 

James D

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I've noticed that these days there seem to be a lot of girls who just sort of wander around the mall on their day off with no particular plan. Less social life since covid, perhaps. Prime targets for SDLs.
I've noticed that too!

When it happens, gotta jump on it.
 

James D

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Messages
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see you build a hell lot of micro compliance before this point.
yes! was a major sticking point of mine until recently.
You seem to have it almost second nature by now, just like Zan.
indeed. it's one of these really small things that yields huge dividends.
This was a fucking deal breaker. Talk about a free fall of a trough
Damn yes man could have lost it right there.
 

James D

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Messages
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Beautiful report as usual from you dude.
Thanks man!
She didn't want me to say I only wanted her for sex, but she also didn't want me to say I didn't only want her for sex.
Very well put! I hadn't consciously thought about it that way.

It's this delicate nuance that's not always obvious at times.
Not engaging with the rational/logic, because the girl's LMR is just that, her biology doing its work, so that she can wake up the next day without feeling like a slut.
Indeed!
 
a good date brings a smile to your lips... and hers

James D

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Messages
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How did you managed to set this one sided open relationship?
Assuming she's not one of those girls who wants an open relationship, then it's a question of the precedence set with her + frame control.

Frame control to set it up and frame control to handle the tests she throws at you once in a while.

Still learning to navigate through.
 
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