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Hey guys,
So I went to a Black Tie Ball for New Years. I was going with some friends who are taken/not into chatting to girls and had decided I'd go with the flow, it was more about seeing my friends than approaching like a machine.
Anyway, I did a few easy approaches. I say easy because in one way since I didn't feel I was there to "game" anyone, I ended up just grabbing some girls attention if they were nearby and just saying Hi. And it went really well.
So I've been practicing the "being sexy" stuff Chase wrote about. I've been working on my walk my stance, my smile, my voice (I something speak too fast), etc... and I feel like it does a lot for you.
I teased the first girl I met a little but really there was nothing to what I was saying. But after about 2 minutes she seemed really into me. Definitely more to do with body language than anything else.
Weirdly, when the venue is very loud, I find it helps to ask politely get her to repeat herself but remain where you are. It forces her to lean into you to talk but also it gives you a slight power shift.
Anyway, we chatted for about 10 minutes. I was just having fun, she wasn't really anything I would be into but I was glad I felt some of the things I was working on, was improving, she only left as my friend got blown out by her other friends so they wanted her to leave.
There were a few more, if girls gave me a look or a smile or just brushed too close, I'd stop her and say Hi, then ask her name... it worked so well.
But towards the end, I met this other girls. She had actually sat near us earlier in the night but we hadn't spoken then. She and her friend came by us so I stopped and got her name. I hate using ratings but she was definitely 10 to me, totally my type and I'd usually be so shy and nervous around aproaching a girl like that.
Anway, something clicked. I managed to keep my body language strong, made her laugh, led her to the dance floor and back again and I could just see this going so so well. I won't write every last detail but I was happy on pulling so many of Chase's ideas together without tripping over myself. She was into it.
Finally I took her aside and told her to key in her number, we were getting a drink that week... and then she dropped the bomb. "I have a boyfriend".
I didn't really believe her so I stuck in there and felt I'd made progress again. Apparently her friend had told my friends the same, and the BF lives away which is why he wasn't there on NYE.
So anyway, rather than spoil an otherwise good night, we just kept chatting for a while and I let her go. No big deal...
But the things bothering me are this...
Is there any significance to her not telling me she had a boyfriend until the last second when she felt she had to... a lot of times, girls will drop this is 2 mins into a conversation.
Also, friends tend to be protective and I was being fairly dominant in leading this girl around, yet her friend told my friends at some point about the BF but at no point did she try to split us up, or even come near us, which is what I would usually see.
So my takeaways are....
Proud of myself for working on my body language, I could see the difference it made in the interaction.
I was more laid back which made it easier to introduce myself and get talking.
I'm really proud of myself that I felt I approached and, at least, almost, seduced a girl who would be a 10 for me.... a girl I'd shy away from approaching before.
I'm a little iffy on "boyfriend destroyers"... while yes, they might be something to work on here... I'm not entirely sure it's worth it to me, there are plenty of single girls without the drama of that. We'll see.
So I went to a Black Tie Ball for New Years. I was going with some friends who are taken/not into chatting to girls and had decided I'd go with the flow, it was more about seeing my friends than approaching like a machine.
Anyway, I did a few easy approaches. I say easy because in one way since I didn't feel I was there to "game" anyone, I ended up just grabbing some girls attention if they were nearby and just saying Hi. And it went really well.
So I've been practicing the "being sexy" stuff Chase wrote about. I've been working on my walk my stance, my smile, my voice (I something speak too fast), etc... and I feel like it does a lot for you.
I teased the first girl I met a little but really there was nothing to what I was saying. But after about 2 minutes she seemed really into me. Definitely more to do with body language than anything else.
Weirdly, when the venue is very loud, I find it helps to ask politely get her to repeat herself but remain where you are. It forces her to lean into you to talk but also it gives you a slight power shift.
Anyway, we chatted for about 10 minutes. I was just having fun, she wasn't really anything I would be into but I was glad I felt some of the things I was working on, was improving, she only left as my friend got blown out by her other friends so they wanted her to leave.
There were a few more, if girls gave me a look or a smile or just brushed too close, I'd stop her and say Hi, then ask her name... it worked so well.
But towards the end, I met this other girls. She had actually sat near us earlier in the night but we hadn't spoken then. She and her friend came by us so I stopped and got her name. I hate using ratings but she was definitely 10 to me, totally my type and I'd usually be so shy and nervous around aproaching a girl like that.
Anway, something clicked. I managed to keep my body language strong, made her laugh, led her to the dance floor and back again and I could just see this going so so well. I won't write every last detail but I was happy on pulling so many of Chase's ideas together without tripping over myself. She was into it.
Finally I took her aside and told her to key in her number, we were getting a drink that week... and then she dropped the bomb. "I have a boyfriend".
I didn't really believe her so I stuck in there and felt I'd made progress again. Apparently her friend had told my friends the same, and the BF lives away which is why he wasn't there on NYE.
So anyway, rather than spoil an otherwise good night, we just kept chatting for a while and I let her go. No big deal...
But the things bothering me are this...
Is there any significance to her not telling me she had a boyfriend until the last second when she felt she had to... a lot of times, girls will drop this is 2 mins into a conversation.
Also, friends tend to be protective and I was being fairly dominant in leading this girl around, yet her friend told my friends at some point about the BF but at no point did she try to split us up, or even come near us, which is what I would usually see.
So my takeaways are....
Proud of myself for working on my body language, I could see the difference it made in the interaction.
I was more laid back which made it easier to introduce myself and get talking.
I'm really proud of myself that I felt I approached and, at least, almost, seduced a girl who would be a 10 for me.... a girl I'd shy away from approaching before.
I'm a little iffy on "boyfriend destroyers"... while yes, they might be something to work on here... I'm not entirely sure it's worth it to me, there are plenty of single girls without the drama of that. We'll see.