If you check my journal post, you'll know that I am currently focused on completing the newbie assignment. I got distracted from it this weekend, though, and basically had to help out a buddy who wanted to go out of town to hang out with this girl he's gone on a couple of dates with. So I put my assignment on the backburner and decided to go out of town and party with him and this girl and some of her girlfriends. Here on out, though, I'm focusing on my own self improvement and on accomplishing my goal of completing the newbie assignment. Also, going forward, I'm going to be alcohol free for several months as I do the atkins diet (induction phase) to lose some weight. But I digress...
So my buddy and I ended up going out to enjoy some nightlife and meeting up with a group of four girls far out of town. I drank, so I must attribute some of my efforts at seduction to the liquid courage. Note: I'm persistently trying to get on a low-carb diet (atkins induction phase), so going forward for several months, I won't be drinking at all. Anyways, that being said, I had two notable interactions, two different girls.
First, I eventually narrowed things down with the four girls we were with and set my sights on one in particular. The strongest "move" I made with her was to tell her we wshould take a walk after we all got dinner, just her and I alone, to which she replied "maybe". I also asked her if she was single, asked a bit about her last relationship, et cetera. I don't know where I was coming from with that, or where I was going with it, but it was a step in the direction of being a bit more forward with a girl than I usually am, and she, from that point on, definitely knew why I was paying her such attention. Nevertheless, after dinner, I didn't follow through on taking her for a walk, and I'll spare you the details of such inaction.
On to the next bar, we get our drinks and we're on the dancefloor watching a band play. The aforementioned girl ended up getting hit on and dancing with this one guy for quite some time. She was all his, if he only had "moved fast" enough. But as I saw their interaction getting lengthier and lengthier in time, I knew he already blew his opportunity. This was actually a good learning opportunity, as I could observe their interaction and was able to successfully predict the outcome.
But then, out of nowhere, this girl walks up to my buddy and (my memory is a bit fuzzy on the details) she strongly indicated her interest in him, i.e. she put her hand on his chest or something and said hi, or started dancing with him, you get the idea. My buddy, however, was specifically on this trip with me to visit another particular girl who was part of our group and who had just stepped away momentarily and was standing nearby, so he blew off this new girl who approached him. As the girl slowly stepped away after he blew her off, I kind of drunkenly but genuinely said to her "Damn, you're hot. I wish you came up to me like that--he's taken."
Well, this turned out to eventually become a relatively enjoyable interaction. I at first paid her no mind when I said that to her, because I knew I was just probably coming off as too available, maybe desperate and drunk, but anyways... I basically forgot all about her until she reappeared like 5 minutes later. I forget the terminology for when a girl does this, but she signaled to me that she was opening herself up to my approach by reappearing in my periphery and meandering in my vicinity, so I capitalized on the opportunity (or window) with a shoulder tap from behind and a question. In about 2 minutes, she started dancing with me, so I simply displayed my ability to keep with the rhythm (good self-control for me, as I typically like to dance, and am halfway decent at it, but I can get a little bit too animated. Besides, they just need to know I have rhythm which means I'm a good lay--see GC article on dance floor seduction.)
Wouldn't you know it, I'm dancing close with her, and then she kisses me--just a peck, but still a kiss. The first of a few more to come later, at that. So, I see this as an escalation window, and I get a bit more hands-on with her. I also talk to her, ask her various questions and stuff, but maintaining the rather intense and close body contact we've got going. Our rapport is very hazy in my memory, and I honestly can't remember how I got any information out of her at all--she was practically silent and unresponsive to me verbally (she wasn't drunk or high at all though, she was drinking water in fact.) Anyways, at some point I found out she actually lives in a town back right near where me and my buddy traveled from, so I immediately pulled her phone number and continued back with the interaction as if the phone number was no big deal.
So we continue dancing, I'm very close to her physically but doing everything but actually kissing her, and she once or twice more reached up and kissed me. Good stuff. Then, I soon grabbed her hand and told her to go somewhere more private with me, and tried to lead her off. She wouldn't budge, haha. Going back to her, we continued dancing, and I mustered up some banter by telling her "That's it. I've figured you out. You're deaf!" in reference to the fact that she was so quiet and verbally unresponsive to me. This thankfully got a bit of a rise out of her, she laughed and threw her head back a bit, playfully batting her hand onto my chest and holding me close to her with her other arm. I went for some more simple compliance, telling her we should go get something to drink together. I grabbed her by the hand and led her, and she slowly followed me through the crowd, at one point grabbing hold of my belt so as not to lose me.
Then it went downhill from there, pretty much. I was leading her away from the dancefloor, but I went past the bar was was planning on just walking out of there with her, haha. She broke contact with me and walked away (probably confused or having some negative reaction to me to taking to up to the bar for a drink as promised), and she ended up going up to the bar herself. I didn't chase her, and I just went up to a different spot at the bar and ordered two waters. I got them, and I did see where she was at this point, but I didn't approach her again. I just kind of milled about and socialized with other strangers, just playing for the off chance that she might come back over to me. Didn't happen.
Anyways, the night wears on, and I go back to my original target girl and pull her phone number, though I'm pretty sure I've already missed any opportunity there to achieve any results. Still fun though. Then we leave the bar, and I go to send a follow-up text to the girl from the dance floor who was kissing me before she left me. Literally as I'm about to send the text, I get an incoming call from that very same girl (dance floor kisser), so I answer and it's a flaky call from her saying "Hi, who's this?" and I say "it's carpedm from yadayadayada, we just met. How's it going?" She hangs up. Ugh. So then, I append the text I was about to send her, saying that "Hi [girls name], I enjoyed your company. I will hit you up soon so hopefully we can pick up where we left off tonight. Funny, I was just about to send this text when you called me. Anyways, seeya." She calls me again about a minute later, this time asking "Where are you?" I just tell her I'm down the street from the bar we just met at, and she again asks where, and I reply with the same answer. At this point, I'm still enjoying the interaction with her, but I'm not delusional that we're actually going to reconvene in person at this point... so I didn't go all out and give her my exact location. Anyways, she says "Ok I'll call you back." Didn't happen. No big deal, though.
So that's it. I plan to shoot her a text today as a longshot and just see what happens. It's a numbers game, after all, so I'll send her one relevant text and that's it. Not expecting anything, but we'll see.
So my buddy and I ended up going out to enjoy some nightlife and meeting up with a group of four girls far out of town. I drank, so I must attribute some of my efforts at seduction to the liquid courage. Note: I'm persistently trying to get on a low-carb diet (atkins induction phase), so going forward for several months, I won't be drinking at all. Anyways, that being said, I had two notable interactions, two different girls.
First, I eventually narrowed things down with the four girls we were with and set my sights on one in particular. The strongest "move" I made with her was to tell her we wshould take a walk after we all got dinner, just her and I alone, to which she replied "maybe". I also asked her if she was single, asked a bit about her last relationship, et cetera. I don't know where I was coming from with that, or where I was going with it, but it was a step in the direction of being a bit more forward with a girl than I usually am, and she, from that point on, definitely knew why I was paying her such attention. Nevertheless, after dinner, I didn't follow through on taking her for a walk, and I'll spare you the details of such inaction.
On to the next bar, we get our drinks and we're on the dancefloor watching a band play. The aforementioned girl ended up getting hit on and dancing with this one guy for quite some time. She was all his, if he only had "moved fast" enough. But as I saw their interaction getting lengthier and lengthier in time, I knew he already blew his opportunity. This was actually a good learning opportunity, as I could observe their interaction and was able to successfully predict the outcome.
But then, out of nowhere, this girl walks up to my buddy and (my memory is a bit fuzzy on the details) she strongly indicated her interest in him, i.e. she put her hand on his chest or something and said hi, or started dancing with him, you get the idea. My buddy, however, was specifically on this trip with me to visit another particular girl who was part of our group and who had just stepped away momentarily and was standing nearby, so he blew off this new girl who approached him. As the girl slowly stepped away after he blew her off, I kind of drunkenly but genuinely said to her "Damn, you're hot. I wish you came up to me like that--he's taken."
Well, this turned out to eventually become a relatively enjoyable interaction. I at first paid her no mind when I said that to her, because I knew I was just probably coming off as too available, maybe desperate and drunk, but anyways... I basically forgot all about her until she reappeared like 5 minutes later. I forget the terminology for when a girl does this, but she signaled to me that she was opening herself up to my approach by reappearing in my periphery and meandering in my vicinity, so I capitalized on the opportunity (or window) with a shoulder tap from behind and a question. In about 2 minutes, she started dancing with me, so I simply displayed my ability to keep with the rhythm (good self-control for me, as I typically like to dance, and am halfway decent at it, but I can get a little bit too animated. Besides, they just need to know I have rhythm which means I'm a good lay--see GC article on dance floor seduction.)
Wouldn't you know it, I'm dancing close with her, and then she kisses me--just a peck, but still a kiss. The first of a few more to come later, at that. So, I see this as an escalation window, and I get a bit more hands-on with her. I also talk to her, ask her various questions and stuff, but maintaining the rather intense and close body contact we've got going. Our rapport is very hazy in my memory, and I honestly can't remember how I got any information out of her at all--she was practically silent and unresponsive to me verbally (she wasn't drunk or high at all though, she was drinking water in fact.) Anyways, at some point I found out she actually lives in a town back right near where me and my buddy traveled from, so I immediately pulled her phone number and continued back with the interaction as if the phone number was no big deal.
So we continue dancing, I'm very close to her physically but doing everything but actually kissing her, and she once or twice more reached up and kissed me. Good stuff. Then, I soon grabbed her hand and told her to go somewhere more private with me, and tried to lead her off. She wouldn't budge, haha. Going back to her, we continued dancing, and I mustered up some banter by telling her "That's it. I've figured you out. You're deaf!" in reference to the fact that she was so quiet and verbally unresponsive to me. This thankfully got a bit of a rise out of her, she laughed and threw her head back a bit, playfully batting her hand onto my chest and holding me close to her with her other arm. I went for some more simple compliance, telling her we should go get something to drink together. I grabbed her by the hand and led her, and she slowly followed me through the crowd, at one point grabbing hold of my belt so as not to lose me.
Then it went downhill from there, pretty much. I was leading her away from the dancefloor, but I went past the bar was was planning on just walking out of there with her, haha. She broke contact with me and walked away (probably confused or having some negative reaction to me to taking to up to the bar for a drink as promised), and she ended up going up to the bar herself. I didn't chase her, and I just went up to a different spot at the bar and ordered two waters. I got them, and I did see where she was at this point, but I didn't approach her again. I just kind of milled about and socialized with other strangers, just playing for the off chance that she might come back over to me. Didn't happen.
Anyways, the night wears on, and I go back to my original target girl and pull her phone number, though I'm pretty sure I've already missed any opportunity there to achieve any results. Still fun though. Then we leave the bar, and I go to send a follow-up text to the girl from the dance floor who was kissing me before she left me. Literally as I'm about to send the text, I get an incoming call from that very same girl (dance floor kisser), so I answer and it's a flaky call from her saying "Hi, who's this?" and I say "it's carpedm from yadayadayada, we just met. How's it going?" She hangs up. Ugh. So then, I append the text I was about to send her, saying that "Hi [girls name], I enjoyed your company. I will hit you up soon so hopefully we can pick up where we left off tonight. Funny, I was just about to send this text when you called me. Anyways, seeya." She calls me again about a minute later, this time asking "Where are you?" I just tell her I'm down the street from the bar we just met at, and she again asks where, and I reply with the same answer. At this point, I'm still enjoying the interaction with her, but I'm not delusional that we're actually going to reconvene in person at this point... so I didn't go all out and give her my exact location. Anyways, she says "Ok I'll call you back." Didn't happen. No big deal, though.
So that's it. I plan to shoot her a text today as a longshot and just see what happens. It's a numbers game, after all, so I'll send her one relevant text and that's it. Not expecting anything, but we'll see.