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Hi guys, posting my first Field Report, can't recall every approach that I did last night but I remember the main ones that stuck out to me, and the venue itself, as well as who was with me. I'll recall moments from my full weekend, from Thursday-Saturday, since it was halloweekend at my university. Btw, I went to the same bar all three nights in a row, don't have access to other bars yet. This is your typical college bar, one level, with a strip, mostly for dancing, no seated area.
NIGHT #1 - Thursday
This was actual Halloween day, so me and some of my friends decided to go out to one of the college bars. Line was packed, and we got in with only 1.5 hours left till closing time. Between my friends, one or two were in relationships, and the rest wanted to approach women but were too shy. When I first stepped in the bar, I immediately started talking to a cute girl in a buzz costume. I built up a little rapport with her, and delivered the line "you know Halloween is the one night a year a girl can dress like a slut, but you're dressed too conservative"(was sarcasm). She ate it up and found it witty, at which point I asked her to dance, she said she had to stay with her friends, I persisted one more time, she said no. So I asked for her instagram and she said "I was good" and proceeded to ignore me. Vibes were good at first but changed when I asked her to dance. I met back up with my friends and chilled for a while. At one point, my friends wanted to have a competition to see who can get the most numbers. I just went off and approached a group of two girls. They both had boyfriends, but were not only receptive to me, but wanted to set me up with their single friends. I even teased them saying that their boyfriends weren't here, so now was the time to do something with me. They both said no, but kept trying to talk to me. Eventually, we went over to their single friends. One was cute, while the other was flat out unattractive. The one who was unattractive made a big fuss about me being there, and said that she and her other single friend were "talking" to someone, and practically tried to kick me out of the group. Not trying to make a scene, I just left the group. At that point, it was almost closing time, so my friends and I left. May have also made a couple other approaches that night, but were very short, didn't hook(nothing noteworthy to write about).
Night #2 - Friday
My friend and I, who was in a relationship came back to this bar, but only for a small time, since he was very bored, and I didn't want to leave him alone. While ordering my drink, I approached this one girl who was alone. Immediately, I could sense that the bar wasn't her vibe at all. Kept flirting and bantering with her, she said she had to meet her friends, but didn't leave from talking to me, even after she had her drink. I kept teasing her on this, saying that if she wasn't enjoying talking to me, she wouldn't be next to me. Eventually, vibes died down a bit and I took her Instagram, because she saw her friends, and was about to go meet them(SPOILER ALERT: she eventually unfollowed me). Like 5-10 minutes later, I approached one girl in a set of three with Joker makeup, and a full patch tattoo forearm sleeve. She was very receptive to my banter about her Halloween costume, at one point I asked her what she was doing at the bar and how much longer she was staying there. I grabbed her insta and texted her that she could come to my place for an afterparty(she unfollowed me). Only 2 approaches I made that night.
Night #3 - Saturday
Went back to the same bar with another friend, single and wanting to meet women with me. The only problems were that he was unwilling to talk to anyone unless they were a hot woman, and I had to open every single set. One girl I opened in a red top, I was vibing with and bantering with about her costume, even with her two guy friends there, tbh helped my confidence. Made sure that I didn't outright ignore the guys, but paid most of my attention to them. Felt it getting more flirty, so I asked her to dance. After like 2 seconds, she started laughing saying she couldn't do this anymore, and went away from me, I didn't try and chase her, no point tbh. Another set of 2 girls, I opened the hotter one, but my friend interjected, and she started talking with him more, while I was talking with her less attractive(but not unattractive) friend. Tbh they were both giggling and laughing at our jokes, but when I went to take the insta to set up after bar plans, she gave me an obvious fake instagram. I called her out, knowing that the set was dead anyways for both of us, and her and her friend stuck to their guns. Another set we approached had three girls, I initially opened the unattractive one, since she was closest to me, in two seconds, my friend pulled me away, idk why, I was using the unattractive one to talk to the other two girls. Eventually, we talked to the other girls, but it didn't really hook. Last set of the night, two girls and a gay guy. I opened one of the girls again, same story my friend blocked me from talking to this girl, while I was stuck with her unreceptive friend. After I knew she was unreceptive, I peeled the first girls attention towards me, and started bantering with her enough, and got her instagram. She still hasn't unfollowed me, and there is some texting back and forth, although she recently left me on delivered. There were other approaches, but nothing noteworthy.
Any advice from anybody? I'm gonna stop going for instagrams, and start getting more comfortable going for numbers, or even Snapchat(I am in university after all). Every woman I add on instagram has 1-2 back and forth of dialogue before she ghosts. My instagram profile isn't the greatest either, simply a means of communication. Also, when I ask a girl to dance, is that seen as bad? Should I just extend my arm out, and let her take it instead.
NIGHT #1 - Thursday
This was actual Halloween day, so me and some of my friends decided to go out to one of the college bars. Line was packed, and we got in with only 1.5 hours left till closing time. Between my friends, one or two were in relationships, and the rest wanted to approach women but were too shy. When I first stepped in the bar, I immediately started talking to a cute girl in a buzz costume. I built up a little rapport with her, and delivered the line "you know Halloween is the one night a year a girl can dress like a slut, but you're dressed too conservative"(was sarcasm). She ate it up and found it witty, at which point I asked her to dance, she said she had to stay with her friends, I persisted one more time, she said no. So I asked for her instagram and she said "I was good" and proceeded to ignore me. Vibes were good at first but changed when I asked her to dance. I met back up with my friends and chilled for a while. At one point, my friends wanted to have a competition to see who can get the most numbers. I just went off and approached a group of two girls. They both had boyfriends, but were not only receptive to me, but wanted to set me up with their single friends. I even teased them saying that their boyfriends weren't here, so now was the time to do something with me. They both said no, but kept trying to talk to me. Eventually, we went over to their single friends. One was cute, while the other was flat out unattractive. The one who was unattractive made a big fuss about me being there, and said that she and her other single friend were "talking" to someone, and practically tried to kick me out of the group. Not trying to make a scene, I just left the group. At that point, it was almost closing time, so my friends and I left. May have also made a couple other approaches that night, but were very short, didn't hook(nothing noteworthy to write about).
Night #2 - Friday
My friend and I, who was in a relationship came back to this bar, but only for a small time, since he was very bored, and I didn't want to leave him alone. While ordering my drink, I approached this one girl who was alone. Immediately, I could sense that the bar wasn't her vibe at all. Kept flirting and bantering with her, she said she had to meet her friends, but didn't leave from talking to me, even after she had her drink. I kept teasing her on this, saying that if she wasn't enjoying talking to me, she wouldn't be next to me. Eventually, vibes died down a bit and I took her Instagram, because she saw her friends, and was about to go meet them(SPOILER ALERT: she eventually unfollowed me). Like 5-10 minutes later, I approached one girl in a set of three with Joker makeup, and a full patch tattoo forearm sleeve. She was very receptive to my banter about her Halloween costume, at one point I asked her what she was doing at the bar and how much longer she was staying there. I grabbed her insta and texted her that she could come to my place for an afterparty(she unfollowed me). Only 2 approaches I made that night.
Night #3 - Saturday
Went back to the same bar with another friend, single and wanting to meet women with me. The only problems were that he was unwilling to talk to anyone unless they were a hot woman, and I had to open every single set. One girl I opened in a red top, I was vibing with and bantering with about her costume, even with her two guy friends there, tbh helped my confidence. Made sure that I didn't outright ignore the guys, but paid most of my attention to them. Felt it getting more flirty, so I asked her to dance. After like 2 seconds, she started laughing saying she couldn't do this anymore, and went away from me, I didn't try and chase her, no point tbh. Another set of 2 girls, I opened the hotter one, but my friend interjected, and she started talking with him more, while I was talking with her less attractive(but not unattractive) friend. Tbh they were both giggling and laughing at our jokes, but when I went to take the insta to set up after bar plans, she gave me an obvious fake instagram. I called her out, knowing that the set was dead anyways for both of us, and her and her friend stuck to their guns. Another set we approached had three girls, I initially opened the unattractive one, since she was closest to me, in two seconds, my friend pulled me away, idk why, I was using the unattractive one to talk to the other two girls. Eventually, we talked to the other girls, but it didn't really hook. Last set of the night, two girls and a gay guy. I opened one of the girls again, same story my friend blocked me from talking to this girl, while I was stuck with her unreceptive friend. After I knew she was unreceptive, I peeled the first girls attention towards me, and started bantering with her enough, and got her instagram. She still hasn't unfollowed me, and there is some texting back and forth, although she recently left me on delivered. There were other approaches, but nothing noteworthy.
Any advice from anybody? I'm gonna stop going for instagrams, and start getting more comfortable going for numbers, or even Snapchat(I am in university after all). Every woman I add on instagram has 1-2 back and forth of dialogue before she ghosts. My instagram profile isn't the greatest either, simply a means of communication. Also, when I ask a girl to dance, is that seen as bad? Should I just extend my arm out, and let her take it instead.
