NinthSanguine's Newbie assignment.

[NinthSanguine]

Hey, I'm Sanguine, the ninth in fact, who the other 8 are, I don't know. I started getting into pickup and seduction through youtube channels like simplepickup 2 years ago, my Freshman year of university, up until the point I started dating my ex, who was really the first to respond positively to me. We didn't have sex until 3 weeks after we started dating, which built up feelings of resentment in me throughout the years. The relationship was good however, and she was my physical type: red hair (dyed but looks natural) and green eyes. The majority of the problems in the relationship stemmed from me and the way the two of us interacted. This continued until this past September when I realized I wanted to see what else was out there, and after having sex one Wednesday night, told her that it was the last time and left her.

It was not however the last time, that Sunday she came back from her 21st Birthday and I offered to see her to wish well. We ended up talking about what wasn't working and it got to the point where I stormed out saying it's like you don't even want me. She followed me, and before I could open the door, she stopped me and took me to her bed, and probably had the most intense sex of my life. We continued having sex up until the end of October, when I went to a Halloween party without her when she wanted to hang out, I see her the next night to find that she is now making me choose, that she won't be someone on the side. I left the room.

A few minutes later, she's knocking at my door (We live across the hall from each other). I let her in and she says she needs to tell me something, and while she's thinking of what to say, I TRY to say what's really been bothering me, the resentment that's been built up. Only it came out as "I only wanted you for the sex." She flipped her shit, trying to take back everything she's ever given me, threatening to get the police involved. (I didn't realize that those gifts were legally my property). I held her at bay in the small hallway to the door while I contacted a mutual friend to supervise.

When he gets there, he brought along 2 more friends that i'm close to but she's not. She then proceeds to ransack my clothing to her room. My friends are surprised at how calm I am, I just sit and watch. Afterwards the mutual friend that I invited goes to her room to make sure she's alright, while my other 2 friends stay with me and we watch a movie. I don't hear from her for 2 weeks and start talking to other girls, which she sees me do, though I don't see her. One of these times I'm talking to a girl at the cafeteria when I see her and my friends come in, and I go to join them (my friends), prepared to not participate in anything. I found out that i'm not allowed to sit with them because of her and one of my friends leaves to join me, and the others seem very sorry, it was clearly my ex's idea.

So i'm having a good time, when the friend that was with her in her room the fight night comes over and asks the other to leave for a bit so he can talk to me. I immediatly know what's happened, and sure enough he tells me that him and her are dating. AT this point, I see a girl that I went on a date on, and make my exit smugly. I eventually wrote a letter to my ex in December explaining what I meant to say that night, and she read it and calmed down enough to give my stuff back. The last I saw of her was when, after winter break, she gave me the final things of mine she had, insisting on doing it in person, and she wanted to talk and say we might be more friendly. I told her no, that we couldn't be friends, because one of the reasons I broke up with you was that I felt like I could find a girl who could be a better friend.

The girl I went on a date with, I spent more time with before break, culminating in 2 sleepovers at my place the weekend before we left, nothing more than light making out, as I was her first date, kiss, etc. I wanted to take it slow with her and make her my girlfriend. Long story short, i'm pretty sure that those were my escalation eindows and I've completely ignored them, as now, though she responds to my texts (at a rate much slower than what she used to), anytime I try to set something up with her it's hell. She says that she's not looking for a boyfriend right now, and doesn't want to sleep over anymore so she wouldn't lead me on. I told her I wasn't interested ina relationship with her (I've thought about it, but I wanted to have her invite me places and have sex with me first). I think she might be ok with a FWB situation, but the way she acting isn't good enough for me, so I'm going to stop texting her for a while and connect with some other women.

Well that's where this comes in, I decided that being the way I was with new girl isn't going to cut it, and I need to improve myself. That was my lengthy backstory, now onto the actual newbie assignment.

 

[NinthSanguine]

DAY 1/2

Objective: Focus on your and other people's walks, and find 4 locales to practice your daygame on girls.
Results: 5/4 locations found: Michael's, Barnes and Noble, Downtown shopping mall, Firecreek Coffee house, actual downtown.
Walking status: Confident in my walk, confused on how to interpret others.

I decided I wanted to do these first two together because I was planning on going to the library today so I might as well walk there instead of bike, and stop in some places to see if it would be a good place to find some cute girls. Since I'd be doing so much walking, I decided I might as well get into the proper walking habit while I was out, so I did that too. It's hard to distinguish what other people's walks mean though, at least for me, though I did notice that approximately every guy had his hands in his pockets, as it is cold out. I however, did not.

As I live on campus, I know that campus, classes, and the bus that goes around campus are always options for me, but I wanted to find some places off campus where I could practice and word would not get around, saving campus until I am more experienced. Sunday probably wasn't the best day for this, but I wanted to start immediately so I did not procrastinate. The town was a little bereft of people going about business.

With that being said, I start off the day by going to the campus library (not the one I head towards) by working on homework with a girl from my stats class. She's there right on time and warm to me, though when I ask her what she did the previous day, she told me that she watched a movie with her boyfriend, I was planning to ask her out, but now I'd like to save that for later, for when i'm less likely to botch it up and then have to see her in class for the rest of the semester. After we finish while making casual conversation, she offers me a ride back to my place, even though it's in the opposite direction which i'm going, I accept. We talk about extended families and why I chose here, since its very far away from my hometown. She parts ways by saying that she hopes i'm able to go swimming (pool was closed that weekend), and I say i'm probably going to go tomorrow, which I will. She's nice, but I think I'll sit next to a different girl in that class tomorrow.

Now the actual assignment. First stop is Sprouts, but it's kind of small and mostly older folks and mothers with kids, though some of the cashiers are cute.

After that is Bookman's, inhere there is a little cafe so i'm more optimistic, but it's mostly kids and teens. I saw maybe one cutie reading a book in the cafe, but I wasn't sure if she was too young (I'm 20).

I'm passing by Michael's, when I see a nice blonde walk in, so I decide to check there too, there are more girls in here, but not many of them are cute other than the one I saw go in. It's the best so far however, so I think it'll be worth a check back a time or two.

At Barnes & Nobles, even though it's a relatively small store of the chain, I see about 2-4 girls in the cafe area either reading books or working on their laptops, an one cute Asian that was looking though the books for sale. I'll come back here but I feel like the girls doing stuff wouldn't be very receptive to a approach, so i'd like some advice in this area.

I reach the library after that, only to find it's closed on Sundays, oh well, I'll have to get some books another time, and check to see if anyone my age goes there or not, so I see some folks walking towards downtown and decide to go there too.

I walk into this little shopping center on the corner and check it out, it's all girls' clothing stores and restaurants, with a few girls that aren't working. I go downstairs in the basement, and i'm hit with the smell of the best BBQ in town. One of the clerks at the store down there welcomes me, and a strike a little conversation with her asking how she could resist the smell, we talk for a bit and then I head to the BBQ place, and can't help but order some fried Okra. The staff there is very nice, especially the waitress, which I attribute to my walk, and my speech. I'm working on slowing down my speech and deepening my voice, which has the side effect of giving me a slight drawl. After I'm full I go back though the clothing store, find the girl who welcomed me, and ask her about under 21 nightlife in the city, at which point she introduces me to her coworker.

Her coworker is bursting with energy, I wish I was introduced to her while she wasn't working. I ask her the same thing, and she asks what i'm looking for, and I tell her dancing, but she says she doesn't know of any places in town like that, but she's heard talk of a coffee shop called Firecreek. She also introduces herself to me as Shante, and I say that i'm a university student looking to explore the town I live in more. She asks where I'm from, and I tell her Chicago. She says that there's probably lots of dancing places in Chicago, and that it's probably a big shock to move to such a comparatively small town. I tell her that I have to say i'm from Chicago because noone would have heard of the suburb I live in, Plainfield, I tell her its the most apt name for a town ever. She laughs. She offers to get me directions for Firecreek, and I graciously accept. After seeing where I need to go, I head over there. I'd really like to ask Shante out though..

At Firecreek, my final stop, I see some girls on their laptops, and a weekly schedule of live events happening there. I take a picture of that and walk out, I'll have some events to do at night now as well, should I want to.

Well those are my first two days in one. Looking forward, I tried making eye contact with people, but find it extremely hard to lock eyes with someone, and if I do, my first instinct is to immediately look away. So I have that to work on tomorrow, but there will be much more people around campus now that it will be a weekday. I'm also wondering what I should do with Shante and the girl from my stats class. All advice is welcomed.

 

[NinthSanguine]

Day 3

I easily surpassed the eye contact with 10 people assignment today, just by virtue of going about my day, attending classes, doing homework outside of my dorm, and taking up reading in coffeeshops instead of at home. I'm starting to feel like my life is becoming like a novel, I like that feeling.

Ended up going to the library today, since it was closed yesterday. People seem to take more notice of me now, and are kinder. I see a lot of cute girls driving around town in their cars, too bad I can't approach them.

I thought catching people's eye was going to be hard, and at first it was. Then, to make it worse, when I finally did catch their eye, I would reflexively look away, to the side, unless they did so first.

Many of the girls whose eyes I caught at this stage would do just that, looking down and to the side. I also tried not to be looking at a girl before she has looked at me, practicing some pre-opening.

After I finished lunch and headed to my statistics class, there was a girl walking the other way who was kind of cute whose gaze I held until we passed each other. I'd like a girl who can hold my gaze. I didn't sit next to the stats girl (Britt), ended up sitting near some open seats hoping some girls would sit by me, but no dice. There are 3 other cute girls in that class, 2 of whom are chatty Cathy's with each other, so I'll leave them be for now. But the third I think I will sit next to Wednesday.

I cut class early because we were just doing the homework that I'd already finished, so I rented a bike and made my way to the library, so as to be on time for my next class. The girl that checked me out looked to be about 30, but she has been noticeably nicer to me then other librarians, but that could be due to her being younger and more social-able then them. I then headed to my GIS class and read one of the books I'd just gotten, waiting for the class to fill in the bit. I get lucky, a pretty blonde with green eyes sits down next to me.

I wait a bit before tapping on her textbook while looking away, waiting a moment and slowly turning to her and smile slowly as I ask if she'd taken a GIS class before. She says no, and i'm like damn, I was hoping I could cruise through this class on your experience. She laughs and I introduce myself, she says her name is Mackenzie ( I seem to be having a thing for finding girls with similar names to Mikayla). We shake hands, her hands are pleasantly warm. We chit chat a bit more before the professor walks in.

After that, I begin to ruminate on minor things. Worrying that my voice is too cut and dry, even if i'm speaking slower and more confidently. Worried that I bring down energy levels with my calmness. I think Mackenzie has a boyfriend, most of the upperclassmen girls here that don't party do, as I see her very attached to her phone during class. In short, I fear i'm not being exciting enough, talking just to talk. I think I'm telling too much of myself, I want to be talking about what makes a girl unique, so I can connect with her on a deeper level.

After the lecture I drop the ball. We were given our assignment for the week to work on, and the rest of class time to work on it in class. It's out of the book, and I haven't purchased it yet. Mack has, so I ask if we can share to which she replies "of course". But that's it until I wish her goodbye when classtime is over. I do some homework in the physics lab after this and then head back to pack my stuff for swimming and to retrofit my OKC profile using some of the templating on these boards. On the way back I bump into a girl I acquainted with last semester, L, (has boyfriend, and i'm not that interested) I stop and chat with her for a bit, physically rotating her so that the sun isn't in her eyes, which i'm proud of having the courage to do, as I know my problem is not physically escalating enough. I ask her to take a picture of me, she seems surprised, but acquiesces. It turns into my new OKC profile pic.

I head to dinner at the North campus on the way in locking eyes with a cute redhead who is with her friends until I turn to the entrance and she's out of my sight. I wish i'd talked to her, I have a thing for gingers. At the cafeteria however I was in for a surprise, the seat I'd picked happened to be facing the girl who'd faded me with her friends, wish I'd decided to sit with a cute girl instead of by myself. Well I made my bed, so time to lie in it, I don't look at her however. Had a funny thought that if I was bi it would hilarious to sleep with all the guys that the girls I liked were interested in.

At the pool, I don't stay long, as the diving bards were not open tonight. I don't even get in the water. I just do a few chin ups and leg lifts, then leave. I talked to the girl bus driver on the way back to my dorm though, just chit chat, I just wanted to get comfortable talking to whoever, she wasn't too attractive. Then walking from the bus stop to my dorm, I see 2 girls and a guy. It's night and the girl is asking him where he lives. I idly wonder if he could of pulled them, but as i'm passing by, the pale Raven haired one says "hey" to me. I don't recognize her. I do know that there is a guy who looks a lot like me on campus, who i've been mistaken for before. I wonder if it's that, as she sounded like she recognized me.

In my room my roommate is sleeping, and i'm not ready to turn in for the night, I grab my book and head to the Starbucks downstairs to read, and maybe catch some girls looking my way. The place is pretty empty, but there a few cuties there, looking busy. I don't catch any of them, but I could've been absorbed in my book. At 8pm the barista comes over and tells me they're shutting down, I wish him a good night and head to the other Starbucks on North campus, which is open later.

Walking into the North campus 'Bucks, it's much ore crowded and small. The comfy chairs are taken by a mixed group of people and one of the girls is standing, passing by them I lock eyes with her for a moment and she says "Hey" to me. It sounded as if it was out of nervousness though. I stay and read for an hour and a half before riding the bus back home. As I get off the bus I lock eyes with a guy as I pass by, I realize then that i'm no longer uncomfortablle holding gaze with someone, so progress is being made.


Tomorrow starts the actual meat of the assignment, saying "Hi" to 6 girls whom I don't know. I should be able to accomplish this, though i'm wondering what I should do when I bump into girls that i've met before and not taken on a date, though they could tell i've wanted to, as this has been happening increasingly often, as i'm out of my room more.

 

[Lover]

Good luck on your newbie assignment, just subscribed cheers

 

[NinthSanguine]

Thanks! Best of luck to you!

Anyways a lot has happened, so i'm going to post now and edit later as I finish up the day.

Day 4

Girl 1: Finished my classes for the day, 5 hours in the same room, resolved to hit my goals. It didn't start off well. First girl was a cute ginger talking to her friend, did a Hiby, saying hi and walking by, as I passed them. Neither of them noticed me. Felt really bad after that, and didn't say anything to many of the next girls who passed, trying to establish eye contact first, but said I had to finish the assignment one way or another.

Girl 2: After I'd almost walked out of the building I resolved myself towards at least greeting 1 more girl. Sat next to a girl on the bench, and she looked at me as I was sitting down, but I missed my chance, and she didn't look at me after that so I left. The next hot girl that I saw I said good morning to, she also did not notice or respond, and i'm starting to feel pretty down.

Girl 3:Headed into the cafe' passing my by ex friend who is dating my ex girlfriend on the way in. Pointedly ignored him the entire time I was in, along with her. Looked around a bit, made eye contact with a few girls without looking away, and finally decided to sit next to petite blonde sitting by her lonesome. Pre open by placing my drink down in front of her, asking if I could join her. She of course said yes. We talked for a bit, she's a Bio major, I attempted to deep dive a tidbit by asking her who she would have dinner with, given the chance. She said a female scientist's name i'm struggling to remember, initials A.P. I touched her hand as I was saying something, I felt proud of myself for doing that. She mentions that she has to leave for her bio lab in a bit, but absolutely does NOT look like in a hurry to leave. When she finally starts packing up I ask her if she'd like to get dinner sometime, but she has a boyfriend. Not in a brushing off way, she seemed to really want to talk to me again and said to come join her if I ever saw her by herself. After she left, I didn't feel like being skeezy and going to sit with another girl, so I pulled out my book and continued lunch.

Girl 4: I don't know if this counts since she approached me. I was just reading and she came by and asked if she could sit, the cafeteria was pretty packed. I of course said yes and put my book away to actually talk to her. She was alright, pretty face and blue eyes are always a plus. She initially asks about the book, and I say it's a bit like Game of Thrones. She doesn't watch the show, and I don't think she reads for pleasure. She did start pulling out all her books for school saying she was taking 18 credits a semester because she wants to graduate early, I glanced at them and correctly guessed that she was a History major. She then started telling me about her other interests, including psychology.

I asked her what about psychology she liked in particular since so many people were into it, and she said the weird stuff, like disorders, and she starts listing off a few. I tell her I might be a narrcissist, and she's listing off the things that they do. At one point she asks me if I ever think to myself i'm pretty, forgetting who she was talking to. I seize upon the chance, and tell her "I can't say I ever find myself thinking i'm pretty, but sometimes i'll be looking in the mirror and say to myself, who's that handsome guy looking back at me." Banter continues for a bit, until she concludes that because I show none of the 5 signs of narcissism, that I am not. I respond with "I guess that just makes me confident then." She asks me how confident I am, and I clarify by asking her "You want me to prove myself."

Important->That was probably a mistake, I think that's about frame control? But I was bored and I like proving myself, so I decided how far I wanted to push it. I settled on asking her what she was doing later this week, then asked her on a date. I probably could have pushed more, but I don't know if I have the experience for that, plus I haven't touched her yet, and the time that I went to touch her hand, she for some reason pulled back. If it was in response to me, I think that means she might be considering me boyfriend material, which I don't want, as she wants to spend time with me, but not let me touch her. After she accepted, she then said that she thought I was gay. I told her know and that it seems to be a common perception girls have regarding me, how do I change that? Or can I make it work for me? I said I knew about all the guys that liked me in high school, but not the girls. I got her number at this point, though I have yet to text it.

Concerns: After getting her number, she told me she had to change it because an ex broadcast-ed her old number on this weird app. she got a bunch of older guys and a 14 year old calling and texting her. She said that she could handle the older guys, but since she wanted to be a teacher, she had to change her number so she wouldn't have records of it on her phone. She does talk about her exes a lo too. Meanwhile i'm thinking to myself, my ex is like just across the room, but I keep my mouth shut. She also mentions that she smokes, I say oh in a really disappointed tone, and she says that she feels she just died a little bit in my eyes, and I give the little bit sign with my fingers.

We're both cat people however, and that's what we talk about next. It's nice. But the highlight of this is that she randomly asks me what's that, pointing to my shirt. Thinking I'd put something on it and forgotten about it, I look down to find nothing. I'd fallen for the oldest trick in the book! When I look back at her, eyebrows playfully bushed together, she gets this mischievous FIRE in her eyes. I have been looking for a girl with EXACTLY that, so I decided i'd overlooked my concerns for the moment. As we finish our food, I look around and say that i'm about done for the day. She says that she has another class still, and I say I just got out of my last class. Our Date is scheduled for Friday, but she says that I could come over after that if I wanted to, though she'd probably just be playing video games and doing studying.

I said I'd definitely think about it, and as we left she says I don't have your number, but I do have hers. So I told her, don't worry I'll change that. I have yet to do that however. I need some advice here, I know that the next time I see her I'm going to want to pull her, and I know I'll need to do a lot of kino and Deep diving. I'm concerned about my abilities to deep dive and overcome LMR though, as well that she's putting me into boyfriend material territory.

Girl 5 Also approached me, this was during a break with girl 4, but right in front of her. This girl was cuter. when I was refilling my drink and grabbing dessert. In line at the dessert bar she comes up to me and says"hey, you should try the oreo mousse. I replied that I was definitely thinking of getting that already, and that I thank her for the second opinion.


There was also a girl whom I locked eyes with on the bus back after that who gave me a soft smile, which I returned. I didn't approach her though, and didn't catch her looking at me again either. I wish i'd approach, she was a strawberry blonde.

 

[NinthSanguine]

Well I technically failed yesterday's assignment, I did end up able to write a LR, so i'll consider it a success . Day 5 incoming.

 

[NinthSanguine]

Day 5

The cling is strong with the girl from Night 4, but other than that not much as happened. I barely did the assignment, and I couldn't help feeling awkward as shit. I got the sense that most of the girls I talked to didn't really want me to be talking to them, except in the case of one, and would have no idea how to take these interactions further than casual conversation.

Girl 1 Cashier as I was checking out a book for one of my classes. She seemed happy to talk, but she was on the clock.

Girl 2 Girl at the bus stop I asked where I could find a good shoe store. Looked at me a little confused, and I couldn't find a way to ask "how her day was going."

Girl 3 Woman I approached as I was breaking in my new shoes on the way to B&N. Smiled at her, said walk with me, followed with a motioning hand motion at her elbow. Then it got too awkward so I said I wanted to say hi to you because I thought you were cute, have a nice day. and left

Girl 4 Asked where the coffee shop was in the campus library. She told me and I asked about her day, but she was already walking off

Girl 5 Outside of coffeeshop there was a herd of people, asked one of the girls what was going on, and then broke into casual conversation. This time it felt right asking about her day, and I touched her shoulder as I left.

Girl 6 Girl on bus, tapped her on the shoulder, and then looked at her, introducing myself. She immediatly went back to her phone, but I wanted to be done with the assignment, so I asked how her day was. She gave a one word response.


There was another girl looking at me on the bus at this point though. After catching her glancing at me two times. A flurry of 3 more times followed, until I was smiling and held up my hand to show I've caught her 5 times. She didn't look at me after that.

 

[NinthSanguine]

Day 6: Off day

Tried talking to a girl on the bus on the way to North campus, but she did not seem to want to carry n a conversation, just kept looking at her phone and not me. id not attempt to get rejected 3 times.

 

[NinthSanguine]

Day 7: Compliment 4 different, new girls

I failed here. I only complimented a single girl, and I even left right after I gave the compliment, though she seemed to appreciate it, I didn't catch her looking at me again.

I did not want to approach many because I did not know what to compliment them on. If they were just walking by, I would not have time to formulate my thoughts, and oftentimes the girls I wanted to compliment were with their friends, and I didn't have anything other than superficial stuff based on their looks to say.

Also had the date with the girl from Tuesday. I am not being dominant with her at all. I'm caring too much about hurting her feelings.

I'm going to try this challenge again on Monday, as it is already late Saturday, am very busy on Sunday, so Monday is the next free day.

 

[NinthSanguine]

Day 7 Redux

The failure and weekend definitely helped me find additional motivation, I've only complimented 2 girls so far, but the day is young, and I can definitely get 2 more.

Girl 1: Absolutely was having none of my shit. Stopped to sit down near her, said hello, and told her that "her jacket looked really great with her hair, green and gold is a killer combination." Wasn't looking at me, wasn't smiling, and did not offer her name in turn when I told her mine. Promptly Got the fuck out of there.

What can I do to lessen icy responses like these in the future?

Girl 2: Much warmer reception. Went to the campus library to work on homework a bit before my next class, noticed a cute girl in glasses on my way in. A few minutes later on my way out, approached her, she saw, sat down with hello (letting her look at me first). What followed =
Me - "I saw you studying over here with those glasses and book *wrinkle nose**slow smile*, I wanted to tell you that you looked very intelligent and studious over here ms...?"
Her - "J."
*shake hand*
Me - "Sanguine... Ninth Sanguine." I've been watching a lot of Bonds lines

Tell her that I had to get running to class, that we should get dinner together later this week. Take her number and have yet to text. I don't anything will come of it, since there was barely any meat to our meet, but we'll see.

 

[NinthSanguine]

Day 8

This was one of my easier assignments. I typically approach girls who are sitting down in the first place. Didn't finish yesterday, but felt like it was a success and decided I needed to get moving on anyways.

Girl 1: This went well, I asked her to dinner sometime this week, and now we're texting, so hopefully I don't fuck it up. I also seem to have really good luck with women whose names are variations of Mikayla. I did the sudden notice approach, where I sat down, took at my book, and then looked around to find her looking right at me. She was in a conference call, but I got her to give me attention over it. All I did was say hello in a slightly surprised voice to open her. Felt really fucking powerful.

Girl 2: This was kind of awkward. This time I did the stop as your about to pass her, and slowly look towards her, and she was looking at me, but I think I dropped the ball with my conversation. I did not compliment her on her hair likeI was thinking, and only said hello to her. I did not ask to sit down, but I did anyway. Talked about her major and what she wanted to do with it. I know I didn't deep dive enough, it's hard to figure out how to start deep diving for me.

Other things I need to work on are not using as much banter, keeping my smile close lipped, and upping my usage of kino, as I touched neither of thisgirls except for when I introduced myself to them.