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Hey guys! I read "No more Mr Nice guy" book 3 years ago and one of the things that hit me hard was that I didn't want to settle down was because of my insecurities which I hadn't realized until I read the book. So, I trained my mind to think that I'll do pickup to overcome my insecurities, which probably was not a good idea cos it's ingrained deep down sub-consciously and I self-sabotage due to my long held beliefs
I've been on this journey for nearly 3 years now and have learnt a lot going through a lot of failures and rejections. I don't think I'm not that insecure as I used to be before 3 years but I've also not accomplished what I set out to achieve, didn't see the results that I aimed for (blame it on covid?), like all guys who take this path.
Now I'm in a state of cognitive dissonance where my mind doesn't accept settling down nor succeed with girls. I'm not getting the results I want cos I'm self-sabotaging sometimes when I'm closer to getting the results cos my mind believes that if I'm doing pickup, then I'm still insecure. It's a paradox. I'm stuck in this loop and unhelpful thought pattern. How do I break out of it?
I've been on this journey for nearly 3 years now and have learnt a lot going through a lot of failures and rejections. I don't think I'm not that insecure as I used to be before 3 years but I've also not accomplished what I set out to achieve, didn't see the results that I aimed for (blame it on covid?), like all guys who take this path.
Now I'm in a state of cognitive dissonance where my mind doesn't accept settling down nor succeed with girls. I'm not getting the results I want cos I'm self-sabotaging sometimes when I'm closer to getting the results cos my mind believes that if I'm doing pickup, then I'm still insecure. It's a paradox. I'm stuck in this loop and unhelpful thought pattern. How do I break out of it?
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