No time to meet but text me often.

[mossity]

Hello all,

I recently got into contact with this chick I had sex before and one thing led to another and we both decided we want to be in a LTR. The only problem is our schedules mix like oil and water. I’m busy in the morning and free at night. She is free mornings and busy at night. I really like this chick but the infrequency of meeting is not what I had hoped out of a LTR. However I have seen her schedule and what it looks like after spending time together and she genuinely is busy. Her family depends on her hard and she works. Weve already had sex a couple of times so I know attraction is there. I wanted to know if any of you have any advice, is meeting infrequently but texting often good or is it better if I cut her off and take my chances with another chick(which I kinda don’t want to do since I enjoy being around her).

 

[gameboy]

I'd keep seeing her. But then again, I am slightly in the scarcity camp, so others might disagree...

But what do you hope to gain by cutting her off? If you like her, it's better to see her infrequently than seeing her too often and you two getting bored of each other early.

 

[mossity]

I'd keep seeing her. But then again, I am slightly in the scarcity camp, so others might disagree...

But what do you hope to gain by cutting her off? If you like her, it's better to see her infrequently than seeing her too often and you two getting bored of each other early.

What up Gameboy,

By cutting her off I wouldn’t have to deal with the headache of texting back and forth until one day we are both free( we both cannot give a concrete day to each other) and I wouldn’t have to give her all this attention that could be used to find other chicks. However I want to keep seeing since my new college and work schedule more time constrained this semester versus my last so there is not much attention to give so my thought process is “since there is attraction and I have the one up due to the fact that when we are together, auto investment is skewed in my favor it’s better to put it into one place versus a couple”.

 

[orkie123]

Just be honest with her next time you meet. Worst case it ends up in same situation as cutting her out, but at least it leaves the potential she calls you up when she gets horny or if your schedules match better in the future.

- I like spending time with you and the connection we have but our schedules right now are too mismatched for exclusivity.

- We can continue developing this connection but without the exclusivity label and in the future hopefully our schedules match.

-Then slowly reduce texting by responding only when you have high quality content (arranging ti meet, stuff highly relevant to her, stuff that boost ur value, or highly engaging) and responding with less and less about chit chat stuff.

If she calls you out on the texting, just say you prefer sharing stories in person.



If you are not exclusive yet, just do the texting reduction.

By doing this, you must ensure you meet more girls, otherwise scarcity mentality kicks in and you will be incongruent with both yourself and her and she will feel it.

 

[Skills]

The texting is not a next able offense you are being nitpicki gradually, make sure gradually decrease the wording and frequency on texting.... For example with my ltrs I text morning sun emoji, love you.... 6 hours later the eyes emoji.... Every day takes me 3 seconds....