Normal Everyday Girls who post sexually suggestive pics, tiktoks, instagram reels, etc.

[Bunny07]

Hey, everyone.

I used to have a hardcore red pill mentality, before I came across and this forum. Now, I feel that I have started developing somewhat of a balanced perspective about the modern day women and dating. So, I wanted to ask your guys' thoughts on "Women and Social-media".

If you go to any social media, be it Insta, Facebook, Youtube, TikTok, etc. you will soon come across reels or videos of many women dancing or posing in a sexually suggestive manner. I get why the Onlyfans models or porn actors or just actors or models do such things. But, there are also other "normal everyday girls" who are doing the same stuff but with no intention of any financial gain (maybe in the future).

So, my question: Should we start accepting that this is the new norm of how most "everyday women" are going to act? That we should be okay that these girls as future partners are going to be posting "thirst traps" even when they are in relationships, and these behaviours or acts are them just being "Modern Women"? Should we view these as modern women just being "Silly and Cute" as @Chase says in his article ? How should we really view all this?

 

[orkie123]

Hey, everyone.

I used to have a hardcore red pill mentality, before I came across and this forum. Now, I feel that I have started developing somewhat of a balanced perspective about the modern day women and dating. So, I wanted to ask your guys' thoughts on "Women and Social-media".

If you go to any social media, be it Insta, Facebook, Youtube, TikTok, etc. you will soon come across reels or videos of many women dancing or posing in a sexually suggestive manner. I get why the Onlyfans models or porn actors or just actors or models do such things. But, there are also other "normal everyday girls" who are doing the same stuff but with no intention of any financial gain (maybe in the future).

So, my question: Should we start accepting that this is the new norm of how most "everyday women" are going to act? That we should be okay that these girls as future partners are going to be posting "thirst traps" even when they are in relationships, and these behaviours or acts are them just being "Modern Women"? Should we view these as modern women just being "Silly and Cute" as @Chase says in his article ? How should we really view all this?

For short term flings and FWB, I find it silly and cute. Especially since I also sometimes post things which I know will get reaction from girls on Insta so would be a little hypocritical.

For long term relationships, forget what everyone thinks. Forget norms or accepting things. Find your own boundaries about things that you would not tolerate and internalise them as values when dating so that you can attract people that are most aligned with those values. If girls posting biking pics on social media bothers you - then have it as a boundary. If it doesn't, then treat is as a potential red flag but look at the overall picture.

Yes, finding girls who don't have bikini pics on insta is becoming more difficult, but it's also an easy filter. Social Media is a dating tool that helps you filter out those who probably won't meet your boundaries & values for LTR.

Personally, It's not bikini/sexual pics that bother me but whether it is someone that is constantly craving attention to the point of addiction. You can usually tell when a girl posts suggestive photos all the time or if it's " I went on holiday and took a nice cute beach photo"

My boundary is that if in a serious LTR, we would both limit use of social media altogether to the point of not posting anything / very little and keeping our stuff private. If she does not want to align to that, then I would walk away

 

[Zoro]

It’s possible to find beautiful women who don’t even have social media. I’ve dated a few.

 

[Ambiance]

Personally, I don't see girls that post suggestive stuff as girlfriend material, Even if she doesn't post racy stuff but is very into social media, that is probably enough of a detriment for me to never consider her girlfriend material. I'd just rather not have to think about the implications and negatives of social media when there are so many great girls out there with boring, basic social media presences or even none at all. Whether or not this stuff is becoming more common doesn't matter to me.

That said, if someone is a man without much choice in women, more power to him if he lands the hot Onlyfans model, and best of luck... at the very least it should be a very informative experience.

 

[Chase]

@Bunny07,

Welcome to the Boards. Cool to hear you're developing some nuance in your perspectives!

I'll second what the other guys have said here. The other thing to add is that in addition to not every girl having social media, not every girl who is ON social media is posting a bunch of attention whore crap. Some have social media but don't post pics of themselves at all. Some post pictures now and then but they're tasteful. Some do the occasional sexy pic. Some do full-on sexy dancing, busty cleavage pics, etc.

Attention whoring in general is low value behavior. Girls switch to it when they aren't able to attract the men they want without it. e.g., the very naturally beautiful girl who has high quality men lining up to date her will NOT attention whore, because it will turn off the men she wants and get her nothing of value in return. The girl who is just average in looks, or only slightly cute, however, may discover if she attention whores she can get a lot more male attention, or attention from more desirable men than she can otherwise normally get.

Another way to think of it: a girl who attention whores is doing the same thing as a girl with a reputation for "being a slut." Both are using sexual openness to attract more male attention and try to net a man they wouldn't be able to get another way.

Once you're good with girls, you will have choice. You can bang these chicks if you want, but avoid them for LTRs. Or you can just avoid them altogether.

Some guys who prefer open relationships and what have you may enjoy having those types of girls.

But basically, get good with girls and you've got choice.

The guys who aren't good with girls get stuck with whatever they can get. If they get the attention whore who is posting sexy dancing on social media and won't stop, but she's hotter than any girlfriend they've had before, and they don't think they can replace her, they are going to be stuck. They probably won't get her to stop doing it, because they aren't at a point where they are able to get girlfriends to quit doing things they dislike. These are the guys you see in red pill who are very bitter, because they keep ending up stuck with chicks doing things they don't want with zero ability to control that.

Develop skill with women, and you can both screen out girls who are problem girlfriends, and keep the girls you do date from descending into problem behavior.

Chase

 

[POB]

So, my question: Should we start accepting that this is the new norm of how most "everyday women" are going to act? That we should be okay that these girls as future partners are going to be posting "thirst traps" even when they are in relationships, and these behaviours or acts are them just being "Modern Women"? Should we view these as modern women just being "Silly and Cute" as @Chase says in his article ? How should we really view all this?

Honestly, why would you care?
Once I was out with my brother and his wife....she was wearing short provocative clothes.
She got a lot of attention while dancing with her girlfriends.
One of our acquaintances came to him and baited: "wow, guys are hitting on her, won't you do anything?"
He just replied: "I don't mind...at the end of the night, she will be gagging on MY cock".
She was also not giving those guys any time. She was there to feel validated.

You should stop playing with social media and focus more on real life seduction stuff.
Who cares if she is posting thirsty traps to a bunch of losers, who probably have to pay onlysuckers to get the illusion of success with hotties?
Like my brother said, nothing else matters if she's gagging on your cock at the end of the night.

 

[Skills]

Honestly, why would you care?
Once I was out with my brother and his wife....she was wearing short provocative clothes.
She got a lot of attention while dancing with her girlfriends.
One of our acquaintances came to him and baited: "wow, guys are hitting on her, won't you do anything?"
He just replied: "I don't mind...at the end of the night, she will be gagging on MY cock".
She was also not giving those guys any time. She was there to feel validated.

You should stop playing with social media and focus more on real life seduction stuff.
Who cares if she is posting thirsty traps to a bunch of losers, who probably have to pay onlysuckers to get the illusion of success with hotties?
Like my brother said, nothing else matters if she's gagging on your cock at the end of the night.

Yeah anyways the guys that press like, make comments, dm are pretty much invisible to them, they dont count is something that is hatd to understand for men..

 

[Zoro]

@Bunny07,

Welcome to the Boards. Cool to hear you're developing some nuance in your perspectives!

I'll second what the other guys have said here. The other thing to add is that in addition to not every girl having social media, not every girl who is ON social media is posting a bunch of attention whore crap. Some have social media but don't post pics of themselves at all. Some post pictures now and then but they're tasteful. Some do the occasional sexy pic. Some do full-on sexy dancing, busty cleavage pics, etc.

Attention whoring in general is low value behavior. Girls switch to it when they aren't able to attract the men they want without it. e.g., the very naturally beautiful girl who has high quality men lining up to date her will NOT attention whore, because it will turn off the men she wants and get her nothing of value in return. The girl who is just average in looks, or only slightly cute, however, may discover if she attention whores she can get a lot more male attention, or attention from more desirable men than she can otherwise normally get.

Another way to think of it: a girl who attention whores is doing the same thing as a girl with a reputation for "being a slut." Both are using sexual openness to attract more male attention and try to net a man they wouldn't be able to get another way.

Once you're good with girls, you will have choice. You can bang these chicks if you want, but avoid them for LTRs. Or you can just avoid them altogether.

Some guys who prefer open relationships and what have you may enjoy having those types of girls.

But basically, get good with girls and you've got choice.

The guys who aren't good with girls get stuck with whatever they can get. If they get the attention whore who is posting sexy dancing on social media and won't stop, but she's hotter than any girlfriend they've had before, and they don't think they can replace her, they are going to be stuck. They probably won't get her to stop doing it, because they aren't at a point where they are able to get girlfriends to quit doing things they dislike. These are the guys you see in red pill who are very bitter, because they keep ending up stuck with chicks doing things they don't want with zero ability to control that.

Develop skill with women, and you can both screen out girls who are problem girlfriends, and keep the girls you do date from descending into problem behavior.

Chase

This reply from Chase should be a Public Service Announcement to men of this era.

Way too many people in general can’t see beyond what they see online, not realizing life itself is very different than the online space.

 

[DarkKnight]

Way too man people in general can’t see beyond what they see online, not realizing life itself is very different than the online space.

I have seen this with both genders, even people my age. You would think they all skipped the eighties and nineties

 

[orkie123]

I have seen this with both genders, even people my age. You would think they all skipped the eighties and nineties

I think in general, the internet and modern life have diluted core values. I often find myself debating topics internally which are important to some but have nothing to do with my life.

This dilution means that both genders don't spend enough time on a few set beliefs and then struggle with getting the emotion of fulfilment that comes with achieving something by grinding on one thing for thousands of hours till you become proficient. To make up for lack of fulfilment, we overdose on the happiness & satisfaction emotions via getting likes and attention whoring.

I was thinking of starting a topic on has anyone tried living without most of the internet. E.g. a phone that only has google maps, maybe whatsapp and working a job that does not require the internet. I feel I would love to do that for a couple of years.