Not getting shit tests / girls only act polite

[Anonymous]

I have been starting conversations with women during the day and at evening but most girls seem to be just polite and don't shit test/flirt back even when I make any sort of cocky teases.

Basically if I start conversation through a tease then they ignore me or do an eye roll and look away. If I start with a complement it is always a polite thank you.

Even if I do mange to have conversations, girls try to keep it in friendly territory or just straight up not respond (give a bored look) if I ask any challenging questions or tease.

This is messing me up, (not even a shit test? damn I am low).

I am of course working on my fundamentals (I went to a professional stylist and adopting their suggestion to the T).
As far as body is concerned I am very skinny (Think of teenage boy band skinny). I am going to the gym but of course it will take years until I have an impressive physique, I don't want to suffer not getting laid until then.

What are your thoughts on this situation?

 

[Warped Mindless]

I am of course working on my fundamentals (I went to a professional stylist and adopting their suggestion to the T).

Ignoring the rest for a second, I want to touch on this point.

Be VERY carful about taking the advice of most stylist and most of them are trained to make you look presentable and not sexy. Its very different and one could give you the “safe/nice guy” look where as you want the “sexy” look.

Perhaps share some outfits the stylish suggested and I’ll give you some feedback.

 

[Searcher]

Perhaps share some outfits the stylish suggested and I’ll give you some feedback.

1) Light blue denim jacket with black T shirt and Dark navy jeans
2) Bomber jacket (brown/teal) with a darker T shirt and navy pants
3) full sleeve Polo shirts (They gave a list of colors) with pants
4) checkered shirts with pants
5) T shirts with shorts
6) Grey Blazer jacket with checkered shirt and pants

As for accessories
a black dial watch, leather bracelets and sunglasses/normal glasses.

I was told to layer most of the time or use collared shirts because I was skinny.

That is my other account (didn't want to tell about the bad situation I am in through this account, realised this after I already posted)

 

[Warped Mindless]

1) Light blue denim jacket with black T shirt and Dark navy jeans
2) Bomber jacket (brown/teal) with a darker T shirt and navy pants
3) full sleeve Polo shirts (They gave a list of colors) with pants
4) checkered shirts with pants
5) T shirts with shorts
6) Grey Blazer jacket with checkered shirt and pants

As for accessories
a black dial watch, leather bracelets and sunglasses/normal glasses.

I was told to layer most of the time or use collared shirts because I was skinny.

That is my other account (didn't want to tell about the bad situation I am in through this account, realised this after I already posted)

Yeah sounds like its lacking sex appeal. Google image search ”men’s bad ass style” to see some examples of what I recommend. Use layers whenever possible and use accessors such as watches, bracelets, and necklaces. Don go over 4 as then it distracts to much.

 

[Beck Bass]

I am of course working on my fundamentals

Posture and body language is huuuge, as well as eye contact. The girl must know you wanna fuck her and it's not ashamed of it just by the way you look at her. People with good posture just look powerful, if you approach girls with meh or bad posture, you come across as unconfident (or even incompetent).
I would say those are even more important than what you are wearing or your body (though, of course, work on those as well).

For more I would need more details, all we know is you approach girls and get meh responses, try writing more about it, maybe make a journal (dunno if you jave it already, if you have just link).

 

[ElderPrice]

I'm with Beck here - I think you're better off focusing on your body language and mindset than your clothing, hair, etc.

I can tell by your writing that your mindset is below par.

Your writing to me indicates that you're often in your head, and generally consider seduction to be a game of figuring out the right things to say.

You're missing the strong emotions of seduction, the strong belief in yourself that you're the fucking man.

I'd suggest to work on developing that mindset, then your body language will automatically improve, then your results will improve without having to go nuts on extravagant hair cuts, clothes, etc.

 

[Warped Mindless]

As far as body is concerned I am very skinny (Think of teenage boy band skinny). I am going to the gym but of course it will take years until I have an impressive physique, I don't want to suffer not getting laid until then.

What’s your workout routine like and how much are you eating?

Even if you are skinny it may not take years to get a decent body. You dont need to look like Thor!

A lot of people will tell you to eat like crazy and do Starting Strength or some other crazy BS that may build some muscle but not in a sexy proportional way.

Here is my recommendation for working out:

Benchpress: 5 sets of 8 - 12 reps.
Pullups: 5 sets of 8 - 12 reps (add weight when you can do more than 12)
Shoulder Press: 5 sets 8 - 12 reps
Squats: 5 sets 8 - 12 reps
Curls: 5 sets 8 - 12 reps
Deadlifts: 3 sets of 6 - 9 reps
Take this list, divide into two and lift 6 days week. This means you do all lifts 3x a week.

60 second rest between between sets.

Once you can get all 12 reps on at least three sets, and at least 8 on the rest, add some weight to the bar for next time. This is called progressive overload.

Drink plenty of water and stay hydrated.

Sleep 8 hours a night.

FOOD! Instead of giving you specific advice such as “calculate your TDEE and eat x amount of calories over and make it 30% protein, X% carbs and X%fat” BS I’m going to make it very simple: You need 1g of protein per pound of body fat. Prioritize meat and eat lots of meat. Then eat some carbs and fats until full.

Weigh yourself in the morning before eating or drinking but after using the bathroom. On Saturday add all the weights up and divide by 7 for your weekly weight. Write it down. The weight should be going up a little every week.

If your lifts are going up and so is your weight, good. Keep doing what you are doing.

If your lifts increase and your weight increases a lot, cut down on the carbs a bit because you are eating to much.

If lifts going up but weight staying the same, eat slightly more.

If lifts are stagnating, eat more, sleep more, drink more.

You can find really amazing and really confusing exercise systems all over the internet but this basic advice is 80% to 90% as good, super simple to follow, and it works. I did what I wrote and went from 145lbs to 185lbs.

OPTIONAL: Sprint twice a week. This will increase your testosterone and actually help with muscle building. Avoid steady state cardio such as jogging.

 

[TomInHo]

I have been starting conversations with women during the day and at evening but most girls seem to be just polite and don't shit test/flirt back even when I make any sort of cocky teases.

Basically if I start conversation through a tease then they ignore me or do an eye roll and look away. If I start with a complement it is always a polite thank you.

Even if I do mange to have conversations, girls try to keep it in friendly territory or just straight up not respond (give a bored look) if I ask any challenging questions or tease.

This is messing me up, (not even a shit test? damn I am low).

I am of course working on my fundamentals (I went to a professional stylist and adopting their suggestion to the T).
As far as body is concerned I am very skinny (Think of teenage boy band skinny). I am going to the gym but of course it will take years until I have an impressive physique, I don't want to suffer not getting laid until then.

What are your thoughts on this situation?

If you're getting negative responses like this all the time then it means something is off in you initial impression.

To help you troubleshoot

- Are making sure you maintain eye contact while delivering your opener?
- Are you sure you are actually teasing in a playful manner and not just insulting the girl?
- Do you you have a warm smile/presence during the initial stages of the interaction?
- Is your body language open and relaxed?
- Are you speaking through your diaphragm/chest to make sure you have a powerful voice that projects?
- Are your clothes in style and make you look like a guy that gets laid?

You only get one chance to make a first impression so you want to master your delivery to give off a dominant, warm and memorable vibe

Also, notice how I didn't say anything about muscle

Because yes, even though being fit can definitely help, If you do not take care of your sub communication it will not improve your chances with the ladies much

So of course get in the gym to get healthier and sexier in the long run, but know that you don't need to look like Adonis to get girls receptive to you

 

[Searcher]

Are you sure you are actually teasing in a playful manner and not just insulting the girl?

I think my tone might come off insulting because I tease with a deadpan, serious tone

Are you speaking through your diaphragm/chest to make sure you have a powerful voice that projects?

I will have to train to get a deeper voice. I try but most times it comes off like I am trying hard (like those artificial sounding deep voices).

If you have a good videos or guides on how to do the whole diaphragm thing, feel free to post it. Thank you

 

[TomInHo]

I think my tone might come off insulting because I tease with a deadpan, serious tone

Yeah! You have to be careful with that. You can still be deadpan then give a smirk to soften the blow. People can't read your mind and if you tease hard and come off as aloof it will rub a lot of people the wrong way.

Don't be an asshole. Be a lovable asshole if you catch my drift

I will have to train to get a deeper voice. I try but most times it comes off like I am trying hard (like those artificial sounding deep voices)

Not necessarily deep but present. You don't need to sound like Barry White to be seductive

A good exercise is to Yawn and pay close attention to the muscles used to create the sound. Then try to speak with your yawn voice. You should notice you vocals project further without having to yell

That combined with a slower speech cadence will give you an aura of power without looking like you're trying too hard