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Intro
Start the new year off with a bang!
I worked all evening, got off my shift literally at midnight. Jumped to a venue to pound free tequila and then closed it down, waiting for an after party text.
Could go into detail of how I build up social momentum during my work shifts, but it's not hard to recognize. I talk with my tables as much as I can, build regulars, make them want to come back and see me, and occasionally take shots with them. Then I have my coworkers who are mostly all cool, so I get to chat with them and crack jokes. Even if it was a "hard shift" sometimes I'm so wired up from working hard that I have tons of energy to dump into socializing as soon as I clock out.
After hanging with my PUA friend for the holiday, I cheers him goodbye and head to the afters. I felt a little insecure about showing up to a random house party with no alcohol, but I'm pinching pennies anyways so ah well.
Afterparty
When I get there everyone has just gotten back from a music festival and tons of people are on drugs. I don't really do drugs, I just drink. Honestly makes it easier to navigate the setting, since there are also girls there who don't get very fucked up and the drugged out idiots end up falling all over themselves. I've already got my dance legs and my social legs on me, so I walk into the party and immediately start dancing to the DJ they had going. Honestly DJ was crushing it. I'm a hell of a dancer, so the crowd welcomes me immediately.
After dancing for a few minutes, I mozy in to find the friend who invited me. He's trying to fuck this HB8 so I don't come in too hot because I don't want to fuck with his set (he's not PUA but he runs a OM and is a total homie). I do kinda float around him and his girl to garner some preselection, but I'm not saying much.
I keep my eyes open for some approachable looking girls, there's a few at the party. Every 10-15 minutes I change rooms just so I'm making good touch points and checking the vibe of everyone at the party. I meet some people who are in this hardcore SC (I try to stay away from their venues because cold approach is very difficult when there's such intense social ties at ALL of them, and people generally won't be warm to you unless you have someone you're already friends with. It's a HUGE clique) and leverage my social ties as best as I can without over inflating it (getting in that game of "oh yeah him and I are pretty close!" when you're not. You see it out here a lot in California for this exact reason. Everyone wants to flaunt their social reputations).
Getting Opened
At one point I go back to dancing (mind you it's like 3-4 AM at this point) at this HB7.5 blonde comes up to me and says, "HI! This is my party
". I was pretty buzzed and didn't know what to make of this so I just default to being ultra positive like, "Hey!! Nice to meet you! What's your name??" and go from there. She gives me her name, "Rave Doll" and dances away into the crowd. I was honestly a little insecure because now my friend had left, and outside of the impromptu connections I made at the party, I didn't actually know anyone here. So I kinda feared that some of the hosts were like, "who is that guy?", but I didn't let that fear change my behavior at all.
Looking back, I think she was intentionally trying to coquette me.
After she opened me, I get opened by this chick I went on a date with last year... it didn't go great lmao I didn't pay for her drink and she got super upset and then after switching venues wouldn't let me pull. Same thing though - girl comes up to me, goes "hey" and then nervously rushes away.
Sometimes I think shit like this is because I've worked so hard on my fundamentals that girls are nervous around me... they want me to notice and open them... but being women they're not super great at it. It was also a chaotic party that was packed out with people at this point, everyone's on drugs, etc. so who knows for sure.
Building Attraction
I never got to fuck that chick (she left her number at one of my tables) so I was pretty down to try and stuff her in the bathroom, but when I tried to reengage her she ran away again lol so I was like, "that's cool I'm not chasing haha", and went back to dancing. I see Rave Doll talking to a different girl and their body language tells me they're very close and can sub communicate very quickly... and then she walks away, so I open the other girl (HB8 brunette) and say, "hey, is this your party too?". Turns out they're roommates, so trusting my gut worked here.
We didn't talk about much, I basically just gave her a really warm smile and a hug and said, "solid fucking party! you two aren't bad at this", and some other light small talk. I didn't want to over qualify her to make it seem like I never go to good parties (because it was an awesome vibe but EOD we were just in a somewhat small apartment with like 40 people), but also to make her feel good. And of course, cover my ass for only having impromptu connections at the place.
I went back to dancing. Then I catch Rave Doll staring at me, smiling, so I slowly dance my way back over to her and say, "so when are you DJing? " and come to find out that while she doesn't DJ she's very very into the scene and may be doing so in the future. I deep dive her on that and make some connections about places we've been for EDM. Turns out, she knows me from my epic party bender last year, which says to me she probably got word that I had fucked 3 girls during that trip lmao.
That totally resolved my fears of her coming up to me like "it's my party" which could kinda be taken as "who the fuck are you". It became clear from her identifying me that she's just very attracted to me from my little stunt I pulled at those parties and probably wants to fuck. So I get a little more physical with her and touch her waste, plus turn on the charm with my eye contact and facial expressions to let her know I'm DTF too.
Handling Cockblocks / Coquetting
Like clock work, those dudes from the big clique come over to us and start talking to her trying to steal my set. I just play super cool and dance, smile, kinda ignoring them. When I recognize their conversation isn't really doing much to effect her and she's definitely more into me (making them an annoying distraction) I gently touch the back of her arm and say "BRB " and do some coquetting myself. Plus this builds a strong contrast of emotions from these chumps to me, since now there's even more of a void of the good feelings I was giving her by touching her and deep diving her.
I go to the bathroom and just chill for a sec. When I return, I don't go to her, I go back to the dance floor. And when I catch her staring, I smile back at her kinda turned away. Give her enough to be like, "hey cutie" with my nonverbals but also pull her attention more with my independence.
Closing
Things are a little fuzzy here after cuz I was pretty drunk. I remember pulling her to the side and getting my body very close to hers when I asked, "when do you plan to shut the party down?" and when she gave me a time I gave her strong eye contact and slowly grabbed her ass (nice butt for sure ;P ) then said, "I guess I'll be staying a little later then.." and slowly whisked off her. Literally just to spike arousal and implicitly tie down commitment to fuck once people leave. Probably could have made out with her here, but what I did was plenty.
I remember when people started to clear out I just hung out on the couch all calm and cool and just waited for people to exit, checking back with her by touching her hand when she walked by our saying something minor. When it was down to 5-6 people it was more just keeping the conversation going and deflecting if I was going home / to another party when people asked.
Totally fucked her brains out her bed was soaking wet the next morning. Fucked about 3 times. That drunk sex where you fuck, fall asleep, wake up before sun rise, fuck again, etc lol.
Locked her in last night as a FB but I can tell she wants MTLR. If she was more in shape I'd be down. Gonna try and do referral game since that's sorta what got me her initial attraction to start with.
Start the new year off with a bang!
I worked all evening, got off my shift literally at midnight. Jumped to a venue to pound free tequila and then closed it down, waiting for an after party text.
Could go into detail of how I build up social momentum during my work shifts, but it's not hard to recognize. I talk with my tables as much as I can, build regulars, make them want to come back and see me, and occasionally take shots with them. Then I have my coworkers who are mostly all cool, so I get to chat with them and crack jokes. Even if it was a "hard shift" sometimes I'm so wired up from working hard that I have tons of energy to dump into socializing as soon as I clock out.
After hanging with my PUA friend for the holiday, I cheers him goodbye and head to the afters. I felt a little insecure about showing up to a random house party with no alcohol, but I'm pinching pennies anyways so ah well.
Afterparty
When I get there everyone has just gotten back from a music festival and tons of people are on drugs. I don't really do drugs, I just drink. Honestly makes it easier to navigate the setting, since there are also girls there who don't get very fucked up and the drugged out idiots end up falling all over themselves. I've already got my dance legs and my social legs on me, so I walk into the party and immediately start dancing to the DJ they had going. Honestly DJ was crushing it. I'm a hell of a dancer, so the crowd welcomes me immediately.
After dancing for a few minutes, I mozy in to find the friend who invited me. He's trying to fuck this HB8 so I don't come in too hot because I don't want to fuck with his set (he's not PUA but he runs a OM and is a total homie). I do kinda float around him and his girl to garner some preselection, but I'm not saying much.
I keep my eyes open for some approachable looking girls, there's a few at the party. Every 10-15 minutes I change rooms just so I'm making good touch points and checking the vibe of everyone at the party. I meet some people who are in this hardcore SC (I try to stay away from their venues because cold approach is very difficult when there's such intense social ties at ALL of them, and people generally won't be warm to you unless you have someone you're already friends with. It's a HUGE clique) and leverage my social ties as best as I can without over inflating it (getting in that game of "oh yeah him and I are pretty close!" when you're not. You see it out here a lot in California for this exact reason. Everyone wants to flaunt their social reputations).
Getting Opened
At one point I go back to dancing (mind you it's like 3-4 AM at this point) at this HB7.5 blonde comes up to me and says, "HI! This is my party
". I was pretty buzzed and didn't know what to make of this so I just default to being ultra positive like, "Hey!! Nice to meet you! What's your name??" and go from there. She gives me her name, "Rave Doll" and dances away into the crowd. I was honestly a little insecure because now my friend had left, and outside of the impromptu connections I made at the party, I didn't actually know anyone here. So I kinda feared that some of the hosts were like, "who is that guy?", but I didn't let that fear change my behavior at all.Looking back, I think she was intentionally trying to coquette me.
After she opened me, I get opened by this chick I went on a date with last year... it didn't go great lmao I didn't pay for her drink and she got super upset and then after switching venues wouldn't let me pull. Same thing though - girl comes up to me, goes "hey" and then nervously rushes away.
Sometimes I think shit like this is because I've worked so hard on my fundamentals that girls are nervous around me... they want me to notice and open them... but being women they're not super great at it. It was also a chaotic party that was packed out with people at this point, everyone's on drugs, etc. so who knows for sure.
Building Attraction
I never got to fuck that chick (she left her number at one of my tables) so I was pretty down to try and stuff her in the bathroom, but when I tried to reengage her she ran away again lol so I was like, "that's cool I'm not chasing haha", and went back to dancing. I see Rave Doll talking to a different girl and their body language tells me they're very close and can sub communicate very quickly... and then she walks away, so I open the other girl (HB8 brunette) and say, "hey, is this your party too?". Turns out they're roommates, so trusting my gut worked here.
We didn't talk about much, I basically just gave her a really warm smile and a hug and said, "solid fucking party! you two aren't bad at this", and some other light small talk. I didn't want to over qualify her to make it seem like I never go to good parties (because it was an awesome vibe but EOD we were just in a somewhat small apartment with like 40 people), but also to make her feel good. And of course, cover my ass for only having impromptu connections at the place.
I went back to dancing. Then I catch Rave Doll staring at me, smiling, so I slowly dance my way back over to her and say, "so when are you DJing?
" and come to find out that while she doesn't DJ she's very very into the scene and may be doing so in the future. I deep dive her on that and make some connections about places we've been for EDM. Turns out, she knows me from my epic party bender last year, which says to me she probably got word that I had fucked 3 girls during that trip lmao.That totally resolved my fears of her coming up to me like "it's my party" which could kinda be taken as "who the fuck are you". It became clear from her identifying me that she's just very attracted to me from my little stunt I pulled at those parties and probably wants to fuck. So I get a little more physical with her and touch her waste, plus turn on the charm with my eye contact and facial expressions to let her know I'm DTF too.
Handling Cockblocks / Coquetting
Like clock work, those dudes from the big clique come over to us and start talking to her trying to steal my set. I just play super cool and dance, smile, kinda ignoring them. When I recognize their conversation isn't really doing much to effect her and she's definitely more into me (making them an annoying distraction) I gently touch the back of her arm and say "BRB
" and do some coquetting myself. Plus this builds a strong contrast of emotions from these chumps to me, since now there's even more of a void of the good feelings I was giving her by touching her and deep diving her.I go to the bathroom and just chill for a sec. When I return, I don't go to her, I go back to the dance floor. And when I catch her staring, I smile back at her kinda turned away. Give her enough to be like, "hey cutie" with my nonverbals but also pull her attention more with my independence.
Closing
Things are a little fuzzy here after cuz I was pretty drunk. I remember pulling her to the side and getting my body very close to hers when I asked, "when do you plan to shut the party down?" and when she gave me a time I gave her strong eye contact and slowly grabbed her ass (nice butt for sure ;P ) then said, "I guess I'll be staying a little later then.." and slowly whisked off her. Literally just to spike arousal and implicitly tie down commitment to fuck once people leave. Probably could have made out with her here, but what I did was plenty.
I remember when people started to clear out I just hung out on the couch all calm and cool and just waited for people to exit, checking back with her by touching her hand when she walked by our saying something minor. When it was down to 5-6 people it was more just keeping the conversation going and deflecting if I was going home / to another party when people asked.
Totally fucked her brains out her bed was soaking wet the next morning. Fucked about 3 times. That drunk sex where you fuck, fall asleep, wake up before sun rise, fuck again, etc lol.
Locked her in last night as a FB but I can tell she wants MTLR. If she was more in shape I'd be down. Gonna try and do referral game since that's sorta what got me her initial attraction to start with.
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