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After deciding that it was selfish of me to keep posting threads on the general discussion section, I decided to make my own journal. Ideally, I would put my thoughts and day on here while other members would reply and offer suggestions along the way. Theme of my threads on girlschase has been the same, not being able to get the kind of girls I want (white and attractive) because of my ethnic background (desi). I have talked about how girls that aren't white are usually receptive to me and sometimes even come on to me but I find myself being attracted to white girls the most and want to do well with that demographic. In the past, I have struggled a lot with girls that were white and good looking so being able to have success with that group would mean that I have made even more progress. Throughout my life I have been told by people that I was growing up with and even my parents that "American girls" (read: white girls that look good) don't like men of my background so that has contributed to me developing those self-limiting beliefs.
August 31st:
On this day, I woke up later than usual (at around 10 AM) and felt very drowsy and just out of it. Not doing this shit ever again, waking up late sucks. Your entire metabolism and day just gets screwed up when you wake up late and you feel lazy throughout the entire day. I felt lazy after waking up as well, just sat on the couch for a while and watched TV before deciding to take a shower because I smelled terrible. After taking a nice cold shower I headed out to a local cafe to get some work done.
Things were going well at the cafe, I got my nice warm cup of coffee and sat down. I would sit down for a while and get some much needed work done until I looked around (awkwardly at that). Then it happened, I saw these 4 girls walk in and they were all reasonably good looking. Two of the girls were blonde, one was a ginger, and another was a brunette. One of the blondes looked gorgeous and it was at this time that I would start to miss the old me because the old me would have approached these girls or tried to chat with them. I could not help but look in the direction of these girls, the gorgeous blonde not only had a pretty face but her body was amazing. The problem was that I was not in the mind state to approach, it's like for some reason I have mentally regressed and my confidence has taken a nose dive. When I was first starting out and getting all these IOIs from random girls and even having success with hot girls of minority groups I felt like I was going to make it. Then I started going after white girls and after having little to no success (also this being a college setting), my entire confidence took a nose dive and here I was.
As I sat in my chair doing the work, the weirdest thing happened. These 4 guys stood near me and for a second I wondered why this was but then I realized that I was sitting near the area where people pick up their drinks. I looked around, it is like a part of me could not help but look in the direction of these girls but I tried to be subtle about it. The redhead caught me looking and just smiled, I smiled back but it was a short and kind of a forced smile.
I have not been hitting the gym lately and am not in the best shape of my life either, a lot has happened to me in the past year which has affected me emotionally to the point that I am not in as good of a shape as I was in before and my mindset is so terrible right now. Things like a bad academic semester (I usually do well with grades), lots of fight with my parents, troubles making friends, and getting injured (though I have made a full recovery) have played a role in me regressing but I realized after the redhead had smiled at me today that maybe, just maybe I am not as bad as I think of myself to be. I guess that is all it took for me to realize that on this day, I am going to rise and go back to where I was when I was having success staring out.
Come to think of it, when I was starting out I was in an area without that many white girls so I realized that it is time I get back to my old form both physically and mentally. I already see the fat creeping on to my body and the six pack abs I once have are slowly going away but luckily the damage is minimal and I am not too out of shape. It's time for me to hit the gym hard once again, count calories, and get back to where I was. Today marks the day Oh Pry decided it was time to take action instead of drowning in this pool of pity.
I came back home, cooked myself a nice dinner, and decided to start this thread which is my journal. For now, cold approaches might not work for me like they have in the past when I was more confident and had a better mindset so the days will talk about what I did, people I might have interacted with, and how my mindset goes day by day.
August 31st:
On this day, I woke up later than usual (at around 10 AM) and felt very drowsy and just out of it. Not doing this shit ever again, waking up late sucks. Your entire metabolism and day just gets screwed up when you wake up late and you feel lazy throughout the entire day. I felt lazy after waking up as well, just sat on the couch for a while and watched TV before deciding to take a shower because I smelled terrible. After taking a nice cold shower I headed out to a local cafe to get some work done.
Things were going well at the cafe, I got my nice warm cup of coffee and sat down. I would sit down for a while and get some much needed work done until I looked around (awkwardly at that). Then it happened, I saw these 4 girls walk in and they were all reasonably good looking. Two of the girls were blonde, one was a ginger, and another was a brunette. One of the blondes looked gorgeous and it was at this time that I would start to miss the old me because the old me would have approached these girls or tried to chat with them. I could not help but look in the direction of these girls, the gorgeous blonde not only had a pretty face but her body was amazing. The problem was that I was not in the mind state to approach, it's like for some reason I have mentally regressed and my confidence has taken a nose dive. When I was first starting out and getting all these IOIs from random girls and even having success with hot girls of minority groups I felt like I was going to make it. Then I started going after white girls and after having little to no success (also this being a college setting), my entire confidence took a nose dive and here I was.
As I sat in my chair doing the work, the weirdest thing happened. These 4 guys stood near me and for a second I wondered why this was but then I realized that I was sitting near the area where people pick up their drinks. I looked around, it is like a part of me could not help but look in the direction of these girls but I tried to be subtle about it. The redhead caught me looking and just smiled, I smiled back but it was a short and kind of a forced smile.
I have not been hitting the gym lately and am not in the best shape of my life either, a lot has happened to me in the past year which has affected me emotionally to the point that I am not in as good of a shape as I was in before and my mindset is so terrible right now. Things like a bad academic semester (I usually do well with grades), lots of fight with my parents, troubles making friends, and getting injured (though I have made a full recovery) have played a role in me regressing but I realized after the redhead had smiled at me today that maybe, just maybe I am not as bad as I think of myself to be. I guess that is all it took for me to realize that on this day, I am going to rise and go back to where I was when I was having success staring out.
Come to think of it, when I was starting out I was in an area without that many white girls so I realized that it is time I get back to my old form both physically and mentally. I already see the fat creeping on to my body and the six pack abs I once have are slowly going away but luckily the damage is minimal and I am not too out of shape. It's time for me to hit the gym hard once again, count calories, and get back to where I was. Today marks the day Oh Pry decided it was time to take action instead of drowning in this pool of pity.
I came back home, cooked myself a nice dinner, and decided to start this thread which is my journal. For now, cold approaches might not work for me like they have in the past when I was more confident and had a better mindset so the days will talk about what I did, people I might have interacted with, and how my mindset goes day by day.