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Hi!
I'm an older guy (33) and just getting started. I've had sex with 10 women, but not at once, and not well.
I want to learn the cold approach, and I've sometimes done it by accident. But I'm worried about a few things.
1) Am I too old for this shit? Hope not, I love it.
2) I'm err kinda fluffy. I also have large stature (6'4" 230lbs) so I'm worried about scaring the shit out of people. I am trying to lose weight, but I didn't want to... wait before learning. I understand this will hurt my success with the ladies, but I guess the idea is more like acquire the skills now.
So iow I want to approach fine, sexy women but I'm a bit old and kinda look like hot garbage. Weightloss is slowgoing so I can't just magically fix this. Usually I get 'knight' or 'caveman' when girls talk about my appearance because I have long hair and am thicc I guess.
I think I am an uncommonly bold person, but these things have stopped me dead in my tracks. I almost feel like I should wait, but time is such a valuable commodity for acquiring skills and assets. Would appreciate any perspective about this.
My recent strategy has been travelling to city center to go to the gym on the weekend. I love to lift weights, so I lift there. Then I spend about 4hrs trying to meet ladies, usually in coffee shops and bookstores (I am an intellectual). They look pretty young these days, but I still wanna do 'em
(remember, I'm an intellectual).
Last time I went out I was real scared. Normally I can be hypersocial and talk to everyone but not like this, too scared. I did end up making an approach but fuck it ended up turning rather professional (she was randomly a book reviewer and I am a novelist, we ended up exchanging info about my upcoming release. But that's not what I wanted at all! I wanted a different kind of release! I was just scared).
I dream of baggin' a class of lady far beyond what I've known. I'm actually pretty cool, you have to believe me. I can partner dance, own a small business, am well travelled, bilingual, educated, play instruments, am a novelist and a poet, and I have plenty money/free time from workin' with computers. This shit don't seem to matter for the cold approach, I noticed.
I kinda love that though. It's kinda brutal that none of that matters. So what does matter? What's holding me back? Why am I not drowning in pussy, or terrorized by tiddies, or simpin' in 12 different friendzones?
Thanks for your input. Please do not ask me anything about women, I don't know shit 'bout them.
Where to start under the circumstances?
EDIT: I guess I should say what I *think* I'm pursuing. I would like to be able to see a woman I like, and go to her all Paul Newman-like, and take my golf shot percentage chance at the hunt. Right now usually too scared to swing. Would like to develop a good, high percentage swing.
I'm an older guy (33) and just getting started. I've had sex with 10 women, but not at once, and not well.
I want to learn the cold approach, and I've sometimes done it by accident. But I'm worried about a few things.
1) Am I too old for this shit? Hope not, I love it.
2) I'm err kinda fluffy. I also have large stature (6'4" 230lbs) so I'm worried about scaring the shit out of people. I am trying to lose weight, but I didn't want to... wait before learning. I understand this will hurt my success with the ladies, but I guess the idea is more like acquire the skills now.
So iow I want to approach fine, sexy women but I'm a bit old and kinda look like hot garbage. Weightloss is slowgoing so I can't just magically fix this. Usually I get 'knight' or 'caveman' when girls talk about my appearance because I have long hair and am thicc I guess.
I think I am an uncommonly bold person, but these things have stopped me dead in my tracks. I almost feel like I should wait, but time is such a valuable commodity for acquiring skills and assets. Would appreciate any perspective about this.
My recent strategy has been travelling to city center to go to the gym on the weekend. I love to lift weights, so I lift there. Then I spend about 4hrs trying to meet ladies, usually in coffee shops and bookstores (I am an intellectual). They look pretty young these days, but I still wanna do 'em
Last time I went out I was real scared. Normally I can be hypersocial and talk to everyone but not like this, too scared. I did end up making an approach but fuck it ended up turning rather professional (she was randomly a book reviewer and I am a novelist, we ended up exchanging info about my upcoming release. But that's not what I wanted at all! I wanted a different kind of release! I was just scared).
I dream of baggin' a class of lady far beyond what I've known. I'm actually pretty cool, you have to believe me. I can partner dance, own a small business, am well travelled, bilingual, educated, play instruments, am a novelist and a poet, and I have plenty money/free time from workin' with computers. This shit don't seem to matter for the cold approach, I noticed.
I kinda love that though. It's kinda brutal that none of that matters. So what does matter? What's holding me back? Why am I not drowning in pussy, or terrorized by tiddies, or simpin' in 12 different friendzones?
Thanks for your input. Please do not ask me anything about women, I don't know shit 'bout them.
Where to start under the circumstances?
EDIT: I guess I should say what I *think* I'm pursuing. I would like to be able to see a woman I like, and go to her all Paul Newman-like, and take my golf shot percentage chance at the hunt. Right now usually too scared to swing. Would like to develop a good, high percentage swing.
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